what do you do in order for a guy to approach you?
2006-06-16 09:51:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably intimidated. Possibly by your beauty or confidence. Maybe you are lacking the approachability factor. Smile more, act more friendly. Give him opportunities..He will come around.
2006-06-16 09:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys who have difficulty approaching you are facing a dilemma... remembering the last rejection they had and also trying to sense you out before they get confidence again.
Not a bad thing. In fact, everything is good. You have to be in the same mode or mood whenever you are approached by someone. This means giving everyone new that enters your life a equal and fair chance at starting conversation and getting your trust. The same applies to the guys too!
You have to have an open mind. Open communication is what we like in the beginning. Not being judged based on looks or what kind of car we drive or don't. You have to accept us for being imperfect, even though you don't know us. You have to really listen to what we say, which means opening yourself to something new each time. You have to be yourself at all times and try not to be on the lookout for one bad sign or bad vibe that will throw our free will away, again.
2006-06-16 09:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you are saying. Maybe you should make the first approach. After going through what you have been through it is quite understandable that you hesitate to make the first move as in your previous relationship you were the victim which usually implies that you "submitted" to his behaviour. This is not a criticism, just a very general observation. But old habits are often difficult to break. You did a brave thing by getting out of it, and by moving on. And now you have to make a move on the way you behave around other people. You are outgoing, friendly but nobody makes the first move. Maybe you should make the first move with somebody, but make sure that he is a really nice guy, somebody you are genuinely interested in. There is also a chance that you may be a little too outgoing - but you know yourself best. Have you tried having a chat with some of your guy friends? Try to arrange to meet up with the one you feel most comfortable with for a quiet chat and simply ask him - tell him your problem. All the best of luck, and congratulations at getting out of that abusive relationship.
2016-05-19 21:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him back then you make the first move, nothing wrong with that. Then maybe he'll open up and you'll find out why he wasn't approaching you.
2006-06-16 09:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rockwell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW DO YOU KNOW THIS GUY LOVES YOU? HAS HE TOLD YOU? IF HE HAS DIFFICULTY APPROACHING YOU IT MUST BE PUPPY LOVE...APPROACH HIM AND COME RIGHT OUT AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL AND YOU WANT TO KNOW IF YOU ARE WASTING EACH OTHERS TIME PLAYING GAMES
2006-06-16 09:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by jayneellen57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know he loves you why is he not coming to you seems abit odd. or are you together and he has problems right now. give him time guys find it harder to let there girls know about problems they are having
2006-06-16 09:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is nervous about being rejected...if you like him and you know he likes you, then it's your move. Or you can wait and hope. Waiting is the worst.
2006-06-16 09:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Pete C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because he's insecure and probably thinks you'll turn him down. Or maybe he's just painfully shy.
2006-06-16 09:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
approach him
2006-06-16 09:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by hg mccain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him major signs that you are intrested but never make the move let him make it!!!
2006-06-16 09:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋