I have a friend (we'll call her Sally). Last Friday I explained to her that we were just friends and I wasn't looking for a relationship with anybody. Sally agreed and said she was feeling the same way.
On Saturday, one thing led to another... and we had sex. Let's make this clear - I did not "try" to have sex with her... it just happened. In fact, she was the one who got in my bed and undressed - I just went along with it.
On Sunday I went to a strip club and ended up making out with one of the strippers.
On Monday, Sally was very very mad and hurt that I did that with the stripper, since we had sex on Saturday.
Was I a jerk for doing that with the stripper after having sex with Sally? I thought we were just friends, and I made that very clear to her.
What do you think?
2006-06-16 09:42:35 · 8 answers · asked by Jeff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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What does this have to do with self esteem? If a nice looking girl got in your bed and undressed, wouldn't you? And if a friend brought you to a strip club and this really cool girl was hanging out at your table all night (not for the money) and then kissed you afterwards, wouldn't you?
It's not like I was out looking for it. It just happened. Maybe it's because my self-esteem is great, and women sense that in me.
2006-06-16 09:52:05 · update #1
Women like to say one thing and then change the rules when it suits them. Obviously, Sally didn't really like you're 'just friends' idea and thought that sleeping with you would change the rules of your relationship. Now she's pissed that it didn't work. Don't fall for it, man. Stick to your guns. If you go for her crap, she'll think you're a wussy and move on anyway.
2006-06-16 09:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Troy Powers 2 · 8⤊ 7⤋
ok, takes 2 to tango and DON'T YOU KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT WOMEN??????????
ok, she wants more, that is obvious, you don't, you made that clear. she got into your bed and undressed and you went 'along with it'? more like you took advantage of the situation! why didn't you stop it from happening? women, when they like a guy and want something more, get attached, but they get more attached and kind of 'bond' when you sleep with them. you think 'boy, how lucky am i, no strings sex' she thinks 'boy, i knew he wanted more, he'll feel different after the sex'.................
see where the confusion sets in? she has 'bonded emotionally' with you. she got mad at the stripper thing because she thought you 2 were starting something, like she had a claim on you.
NOW GO SORT THIS MESS OUT
2006-06-16 09:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe you have some self esteem issues. why would you have sex with two different people in two days. Std's are out there even if you use protection sex should be something between people who are in love. If it is the feeling just whack off. You may have ruined a friendship by thinking with the wrong head.
2006-06-16 09:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by crumbledcookie2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sally is in her chest but because most woman if they have sex think that they own you after that and they want you, just do you if you and sally are not in a relationship then sally cant be mad. Just be you. Its not like you didnt make it clear.
2006-06-16 09:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have emotions. "Sally" may have fallen for you. I'd say it is best not to sleep with people and try to be "just friends". Someone will always get hurt. (My opinion.)
2006-06-16 09:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by jjangermayer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she though what she did would make you change your mind . things were clear at the beginning and shes only hurting herself by thinking that way
2006-06-16 09:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by anissia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have sex with a friend, everything changes, especially from her point of view.
2006-06-16 09:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by grizzly_r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like her mistake, not yours. If she had something going the next day, there would be no issue.
2006-06-16 09:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Horndog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋