What should i do in this situation? Hellp me ASAPplease......?

Question

okay so yesterday my boyfriend called me and he said something was bothering him. I asked him what it was and he said he didn't know where our relationship is going because we hardley ever see eachothers. (this isn't true, we both work but manage to see eachother at least once a week) I am 16 and my parentsdon't really bleeive in "traditional" dating. I told him this before and he said he woudl never dump me because of that or anything but in our convo yesterday, he said he was fustrated because he couldn't undferstand why my parents won;'t let us go on single dates. I again explained to him my parents veiws and said i too was fustrated with the whole situation but there was nothing i could do about it bcuz they won't change their mind. I talkd to them once i hung up w/him and they said they woudl think about it. Do u think he was being insensitive. Why can't he just understand that i can't do anything about it and just leave it at that. Where should we go from here? help plz?thank

Answer 1

Though you did not explain this in your question, I suspect your parents insist on group dating and I understand why. Please try to understand this from their perspective. They walk a very thin tightrope between trying to protect you from the vagaries of this time of moral turpitude in which we live today, while at the same time learning to trust you to make wise decisions, while having the fun that life offers.
I question your boyfriend's frustration. I think his feelings illustrate clearly why your parents insist on group dating only. You must examine your own feelings. I assume you are a wonderful young lady, with tremendous potential, and your parents are simply trying to help you and others focus on your potential and not your libido.
You are fortunate! If he really cares about you, he will understand that the situation works best for all involved, including him.

Answer 2

Hey Hun,
I have been in this situation before, it all depends how much you really feel for each other. When I was 17 I fell in love with a guy who I dated for 3 years and my parents still didn't agree, they were very traditional. I am now 21 and I recently broke up with him because he feels that my parents are way to strict, but deep down inside I knew I had to let go because my parents are to traditional. Yes he is being insensitive because he doesn't understand the agony your going through, and if your close to your family it makes it harder for them to let go. If you guys are meant to be, you will be, if not then it was probably a bad call, if he can't understand your feelings then you and your b/f need to figure out if you guys should be together....I hope all is well

Answer 3

he just wants to see you more and do things together.since your parents wont let you do this maybe you should not have a relationship with him. its an unfair situation and he most likely will end it to be with someone he can spend some time with. remember your16 so you have your future ahead of you. talk to your parents possible they may change their mind especially if you see him at your home. at 16 your not ready for marriage so your parents are looking out for you. even if they are strick. what beliefs they have i don't know? are they religious? find out what age they dated. tell them you like this gentlemen and you want to develop a closer friendship that you don't plan on running off with him. how old is the gentlemen? if hes interested in you and not sex he may stick around. if he wants more then don't plan on him waiting and maybe you'll be better off. remember first loves puppy love doesn't always last. i hope this will help you alittle. i don't think hes being insensitive he just wants to see you more. my best wishes for you.

Answer 4

Your boyfriend probably cares about you so much that seeing you once a week just isn't enough. He NEEDS to understand why that is though, he thinks he know he just doesn't want to believe it. Your traditions is not your fault, take note. That's your family decisions and since they still have control over you at the moment theres not much you can do. I'm sure he won't break up with you because of it, cuz he said he wouldn't and you should take his word for it. But try to make him understand better, i know you probably want to be with him more but it's just not a possibility right now...

Answer 5

First, you should be applauded for following your parents rules, even though you don't agree with them. So many kids rebel in today's world without realizing the consequence of their actions. Parents do, most times (not ALL times), know best.

Now, for your situation, I think you just have to let it go on...if he sticks around then he's worth it and if not, then he wasn't and you'll be glad that you didn't waste anymore time with him. I'm sorry, because it will hurt but guess what, you will get over it. I promise!

I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Don~t be desperate. Your `e only 16 and there`s a lot more to learn in love and life. If your boyfriend does not understand your situation now leave it as it is. If he truly loves you, he`ll be more sensitive and will wait until such time when your`e parents will allow you to date alone.

Answer 7

Most insensitive....Guys, for the most part, are lead by their penis and if they think they are missing out on something outside of the relationship they feell like they have to result to being idiots. I am a guy and I used to be that idiot. If it's important to you than , as hard as it seems, go on and let him be this shallow. You are better for it... Good Luck

DvL

Answer 8

yeah you doing the right thing by honoring your parents wishes .sound like you was raise right .yeah this guy is very insensitive to what your priority is .if he don't under stand this maybe you two need to go your own ways.your parents come first .they know what best for you right .continue to be a good girl and dump this boy.there will be more boys

Answer 9

Break it off, your boring, men want someone they can have a good time with, go out and do something. Not a girlfriend he can see maybe once a week and just hold hands with. Consider it OVER.

Answer 10

first off you're only 16 so this isn't a crisis . second of all... he's not being insensitive cause he wants to spend one on one time with you and third of all if after all this he still doesn't understand just dump his ***