what kind of punishment should a child get???

Question

what do kind of punishment do u give ur child? i need to know what works for u and ur child. i've tried talking to my kids and time outs and they work r a while then stop working. any ideas?

Answer 1

Try "The Displine Book" by Doctor Sears.

The main thing to recognize is that there is no magic punishment that is going to stop them from misbehaving. No matter what method you use, you have to be prepared to use a lot of repetition!

Answer 2

First and foremost...the punishment must fit the crime. It never hurts to attand a parenting class either. They are great for ideas, seeing how these wonderful blessings don't come with directions. It's mostly trial and error... :)

Every child is different and different things work with different children.

Perhaps finding out why the child is acting out would also be a place to start. Ultimately you want to change their behavior, sometimes starting with our own behavior will change theirs.

Try not "re-acting" to the situation. Instead, take a few moments to figure out the punishment. It will help to punish out of discipline and not out of anger.

Behavior left unpunished, will tell the child that their behavior is "OK."

Removing a favorite toy, not allowing video games and taking away privileges might be a start. No threats and if you do, then you must follow through.

Remember, lots of love and positive reinforcement works wonders on all children.

Grace to you and God Bless.

Answer 3

I have a 3 yr old boy. My dad NEVER spanked me and I turned out well. I am not saying spanking doesn't work but who wants their kids to fear them? Time outs that require your child to stand in the corner or face a wall for no more than a few minutes can work. Taking away toys I don't think will work with younger kids cause they have short attention spans. Plus my kid will play with a box or a stupid piece of string he found over all the $$$ in toys he has. Whatever you do be consistent in what you do. Kids learn from repetition.

Answer 4

I'm not a mother so I speak from inexperience but I was spanked as a girl and I think spanking a child has advantages. It is quick, it takes the heat out of the situation, and the child respects it and learns from it. You can carry a belt in your purse, go to a mother and baby room and use it immediately if it's needed. Explain exactly what the child did wrong, take down his shorts and sting his bottom with the belt.

Anything involving taking childrens' toys away strikes me as cruel. Time outs strike me as silly, quite honestly. Both are fashionable, but as you've discovered they do not actually work.

I'd also refrain from making threats. Don't threaten to spank the child. Warn him once, clearly and distinctly. Don't warn him unless you are actually going to spank. If the behaviour is repeated or you are deliberately provoked after one warning, take him to a mother and baby room or into your car, get the belt from your bag, take his shorts down, and sting firmly.

I read once that if you are new to spanking you should find a fellow parent who also believes in spanking and practise on each other. Sounds weird but that way you get to know how much it hurts.

Answer 5

Kids respond to different punishments. Really study what bothers each child the most, then punish accordingly. One may not respond to taking things away while another will be devastated and promise to change their ways. Another may only respond to a spanking. Since you have more than one child, and each is individual, you need to know them well enough to know how to make an impact.

Answer 6

I have a friend that does a thing she call's 1,2,3. When a child missbehaves you count to 3,if by that time the child has not stopped,something is taken away. like tv,video games,sleep overs,shopping trip,school function like dance,or even favorite toy. depending on the age. and if the same behavior keeps up, you count to 3, and if it hasn't stopped something else is taken away ,or you take the 1st item for a longer period of time. always tell them before you count that they have until the count of 3 . and then tell them what will be taken and for how long. she say's this works pretty good. and trust me she has some very over active children.phone privillages is a good one if their teens.and you can put a lock on the phone.

Answer 7

First I want to say that spanking is - for me - a thing that I feel is a crime against someone who depends on you. For me, this is abusive.

If you have to punish your child, let it feel the consequences of its actions. That means, it should see the logic in it (if it oversleeps in the morning because it was watching the telly too long the evening before, it is perfectly logical to forbid it to watch television the next evening - and to go to bed earlier) This way the child sees that actions have consequences that are unavoidable.

There is nothing "logical" in beating a child. It has nothing to do with logic or consequence to beat oder spank a defenseless child.

Children do learn from consequences, not from being hurt by their parents!

Answer 8

I have a 14 yr old girl and a 12 yr old boy. When they were younger I gave them a good spanking that would stick in their minds. Never had to do it again. I consider myself lucky that they are great kids now and I attribute that to the spanking they got at a young age. Ask them today after all these years and they remember it well and say they never want another one.

Answer 9

Ever read the Bible?

Spare the rod, and spoil the child.

Means that you need to use physical pain, and NOT just the threat of it. Kids are not stupid, but they do need their butts beat. In todays kinder, gentler society, is it any surprise that evrything is going worse? Check out the teenagers these days. Pants down to the floor, acting like they're from the ghetto, disrespectful to say the least.

YOU GOT TO BEAT THEM!!!!!!!

Answer 10

when I was growing up we got the belt or a swicth off of a willow tree ( which we had to go get ourselves and God forbid it be real short) And we all turned out fine. Bust the kids butt a few times and ground them from the tv phone whatever they like doing the most and give them chores to replace these things that they are grounded from.