What is it men want?

Question

I have SO much to offer, why can't I find someone? It shouldn't
be this hard. And don't say they want a hot, skinny chick - please. I already know that's what the15 to 30 age group will reply. This is a serious question. I'd really like some idea as to what it is men think they are looking for. Aren't there any men out there who want a decent, warm, loving, sexy, devoted, independent, strong, intelligent, REAL woman?

Answer 1

Yes! The thing about relationships is they take time and if you jump to soon you end up next to the frog! Take your time, be patient and don't worry about it! The anxiety you feel will carry over into your potential love encounters and you risk becoming cynical, a quality most men run as fast as they can away from! Be positive, be all of the things that you asked if men want and you'll have them lined up at your door! i PROMISE! Don't look or act desperate, if one doesn't work, go on to the next, try getting 2-3 in the mix and then weed out the one you like! Best to you, I want an invite to the wedding! V

Answer 2

I don't think you are going to like my answer, but since you put it in a public forum I am going to answer it.

Men want sex! Why don't women get this. What happens beyond that is dependent on the guy and how the woman makes him feel when they are together. I don't mean only sexually either. All the qualities you say you posses in your post are those any real man would want in a woman. The trouble is everyone claims that they have all these wonderful qualities, but as time goes on, we soon discover they aren't really who they said they are. They live in a dreamworld where these attributes may exist in them when you first start dating, but as time goes on, they reveal their true selves.

Be realistic here. You know who you really are. Think about guys you've been with. Think back on how they've reacted to you and re-evaluate who you see yourself as. Personally, if I found a woman who was everything you say you are, and I was attracted to her, I would never let her go. And don't argue about the attraction thing, we all know there has to be some physical attraction as well.

I have dated a lot and the reason I haven't stayed with any of the women I've dated is because I eventually saw who they really were. I am not into serial dating, I hate it and think its a waste of time. I have better things to do, but it doesn't keep me from looking for the perfect woman for me. We all have our differences and none of us is perfect, but I do believe there is someone perfect for each of us and that is what I look for. The problem I have faced is that most of the women I have run into here in Los Angeles are selfish, materialistic, ***** about little things that really aren't important when it comes to life in general and use sex as a tool. I don't go on dates where I have to take out a loan, or take them on vacations or buy them expensive gifts anymore. I now save these things for a woman who deserves to be treated this way. A woman I have built a relationship with, who has shown me that she is worth it and who has also shown me that she cares enough about me to where she is willing to reciprocate. Love is not a difficult process. When you find someone you are in love with, everything comes naturally. You don't have to think about what you can do to make her happy or feel special, it just naturally comes from the heart. If the woman I am with enjoys all the things I give and do for her, but does not do the same for me, then I know she's not the right woman for me and the life ahead. I love women, but I'm not going to just settle for just anyone. Re-think your question. You know the truth behind what you are experiencing. There is obviously something that is keeping men away from you. Maybe its your choice in men. You might want to find other ways of meeting guys that have more in common with you. Just a thought.

Answer 3

I don't know what you're doing, but it sounds like maybe you could be very intimidating. The secret to guys is that they want to be needed by someone who is super hot, but they don't want anyone to know that because that would make them vulnerable. Men want to be in control and if you're too independent, you make more money, or you show them up, then why do you need a man? (That's what they think anyway - because that's THIER job.) If you really want to find someone, you have to tone your business down a notch. Don't talk about how successful or brilliant you are but talk about the guy and how he makes you feel. Sex is HUGE for guys, so that's just part of the game, even though it's not all that women want. Anyway, I'm sure you'll find someone - it's just timing and what you're doing for you. Go to eharmony.com or match.com and see if there's anyone out there as well. GOOD LUCK and don't get discouraged.

Answer 4

Yes there are. I would very much like all of the above. The one thing that men want in addition to those things is to be left alone. Not all the time. Just 80% of the time. Men need a space in which to dwell without the input of the female. A cave if you will. The problem is that our need for alone time is in direct conflict with the feminine desire for constant companionship and conversation.

Answer 5

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<<...any men out there who want a decent, warm, loving, sexy, devoted, independent, strong, intelligent, REAL woman?>>

Ok, you've left out a TON of info here. One, men want an attractive woman. PERIOD. Two, you're not telling us how much you weigh, what you look like, etc... So we have to assume you are overweight, and unattractive. But now lets assume you dont fall into either category, you are attarctive, ok? A REAL woman, would never have to ask what is it men want. Real women already know. Men like most of the qualities you said you possess.. but wait... strong? independent? Those two qualities to men mean, b|tch and bossy. Sorry, just calling it like I see it.

Answer 6

I am going to be completly honest with you. I am 24 and from Ky and I am looking for a chic myself that i can feel comfortable around. I am looking for a girl that i can give my heart and trust with my deepest desires. Sexual attraction has to be there somewhat but a great personality and laugh is the way to my heart. I am a good cook so i dont need a woman who knows how to cook but hey that also helps. The most important thing is that you have to accept me for me and i will do the same.

Answer 7

Hi there, Men need security. Securities varies from different persons. Some example are an attentive partner, good looking , foxy lady. :Lady, you may think you have everything but just that somethings you wont understand about men is there`re human and humans are never perfect. To me a perfect relationship is to have 2 imperfect person learning to be a perfect couple. Hopes it help. :)

Answer 8

Everyone is different, ask this question to millions of different people you will get a million answers.
It is said "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and this is true. Look at yahoo groups and you realise that there are many different interests that people have, sexual as well as philosophical, religious as well as personal.
I can speak for myself and hope this helps but I can not speak for all men because everybody is different.
In the correct order I want ..........
1: Excitement. What is exciting about you? You could be the most beautiful, sweet caring person in the world but if you have no charisma then you are dead inside.
2: Enjoyment. We need to have mutual interests as well as personal ones. Yes we do need to spend time together doing things we love, but we also need to spend time apart to realise that together we are perfect.
3: Mutual respect. Respect your partner for who/what he/she is. Without respect there is no trust, without trust there is no love, without love the relationship is a sham.
4: Looks. Experience tells me that I must be physically attracted to the person I am dating. If there is no attraction there then your partner feels no physical affirmation of the love you feel for her/him. I won't say what I find attractive because it is worthless. While one person loves slim blondes with big breasts another will love BBW brunettes with small breasts. Preference should not really come into this.
5: Intelligence. I must be aroused mentally as well as physically and I can only get aroused mentally by someone who is able to speak her mind in an intelligent forthright manner.
6: Spontaneity. To be able to do something unexpected, to always keep me guessing in the fun things.
7: Devotion. When we pass the first stage of the relationship and we have settled into something resembling a routine I want someone loving, caring and passionate there with me at the end.

Truthfully I think most of us are looking for love to come, who wants to die single? But when they start to feel the first tingle of love they panic and cut it off before it develops. It's like we all want to love but feel it is taboo. It should be celebrated.
I don't think there is much difference between what a man and a woman want in love, it's when we start questioning that love that we act differently.

Dave

Answer 9

i would love a decent, warm, loving, sexy, devoted, independent, strong, intelligent, REAL woman?
the best choice to have in a partner, a complete person.

Answer 10

we want to walk in the door when we come home from work and not be asked 20 questions let us relax some first leave us alone and let us watch the game and play PS2 and drink some beer and give us some freaky sex and we happy wanna know what men think we think about women and beer thats it