help from other parents please?

Question

my daughter is almost two she will not give up a pacifier at bedtime she will scream all night until she gets one ive tried just taking it away but i know i sat up 5 hours that night trying to get her to go to sleep without one i should have taken it away a long time ago but mother inlaw kept telling me to let her have it to teeth on that it really helped with teething a granted it did but she didnt get her first tooth until after she turned one and now i cant get the pacifier away does anyone have any advice

Answer 1

Has your pediatrician told you to take the pacifier away from your daughter for medical reasons? If not, then my advice is to let her have it.

Answer 2

I am sure your daughter wants her pacifier so that she feels secure at night. Take her out one day for a "Big Girl Day" and let her buy a new blanket and stuffed animal or doll that "Big Girls" use to feel secure. Also, you could let her buy a small radio to listen to until she falls asleep and a special night light of a character she really likes. Then finish the "Big Girl" celebration with a stop at a restaurant of her choice. Let her know before you leave to go shopping that her pacifier has got to go because "Big Girls" don't use them. Talk to her about how exciting the day will be and how proud of her you are. Change your attitude and instead of making a big deal about your daughter keeping her pacifier, make a bigger deal of her giving it up to be a "Big Girl". Make it special day all about her.

If all else fails you could dip the pacifier in lemon juice before bedtime.

Answer 3

I had the same problem with my son. Everytime I tried to take it away from him he was traumatized nothing worked. I finally left it alone until he was 3 years old and started to understand reasoning better. Shortly after he turned 3 we started to talk about preschool and I took him to a couple of schools and I told him that big kids who want to go to school cannot have a pacifier. One night I told him it was time to sleep without it and he gave it to me and finally fell asleep after a couple of days it was over and he wasn't so upset. Two is a hard age you can't reason with them so maybe it is better to cut things out before two or after three. Anyways I don't know if this will help you but it worked for me this way. You know your own child so listen to your instinct for when is the right time for her. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

My son is 22 mo and has to have a "yucky" in each hand and one in his mouth, but only uses it when he sleeps. The best advice I've had and what seems to be the easiest and least stressful way is poke a hole in it and it will collapse when she sucks on it. Let her have it for a couple of nights to see if she gives up on it, if not then cut part of the tip off, let her have it, wait a couple of nights, if she still wants it cut more off and so on and so on until there is nothing left. I can't do the cold turkey way...I would have to take 3 weeks vacation from work. I would be a basket case before he would give up.

Answer 5

I took the binky away from our 2nd child at 3 months. He never missed it. My 1st child, however, was 2 when we took it away. One by one, we threw them away after we "examined" them in front of him. Upon my declaration that it was "broken" and that it had to be thrown away, he was ok with it. When we got down to the last binky, and it was thrown away, he certainly had a hard time going to sleep. I think it took him 2 full days of adjusting to the fact that there would be no more binky. For his first nap without the binky, I literally had to lock him in his room and let him cry. I know it sounds mean, but it worked. I checked on him every 10-15 minutes to make sure he was physically ok, but then just let him cry it out. He's now 3 and thinks that only babies need binkies. Good luck. :)

Answer 6

it will take some time but after a few days she will give it up. the worst thing that you can do is give in. You probably shouldnt have given in after 5 hours even. now its going to even take longer because she "thinks" that you are going to give in. Tell her that she is a big girl. tickle her back, sing her a song....... good luck. I have been threw this with two of my three children. both my kids were about two and a half. If you have already given in to her. you may want to give up for about a month or two and try again later. Do not let her have it during the day in the mean time. tell her that its for bed time and nap time only. dont let her take it out of the bed. good luck.

Answer 7

With my first son - at two and a half - I started having him put his "sucky" in his bed so that it was only for "sleepy time". Once we got that worked out I snipped a small bit off the end of the nipple - it didn't bother him at all. A week later I snipped a bit more off, etc. until there was none left - so he just slept with it in his hand for a week or so and then it was done.
This did not work for my second son - he had a really bad fit that lasted about a week and then he was off the "Sucky" too.
A friend of mine had her daughter 3 and a half - plant hers in the garden before bed and told her "Sucky" tree would grow there. My friend then planted a really nice bush with pretty little flowers that looked like "suckies" in that same place. In the morning her daughter was thrilled. That was That!
Hope these helped.

Answer 8

Well lemme tell you that you're going to have to endure a couple nights screaming. There's no way to avoid it either.

My daughter was a little over 2 years old when I finally got her off the binky. I took all her binkies and through all seven of them out. I listened to a couple nights screaming and it was rough but she hasn't asked for a binky since and she's almost 3.

The best advice I can give to you is to get rid of EVERY single one and throw them out. I rocked my daughter to sleep the first couple nights and then she got over it.

I wish you luck ... stay strong!!

Answer 9

Well, I didn't wait that long but my son was very attached to his when I did. What I did was I first took it away during the day. No matter what don't give it to him. I did that for about two weeks. Then I took it away during nap time. He cried allot but finally went to sleep. I did that for two weeks then took it away at night. When I did he only cried a little bit for a first few nights. He had already learned to go to sleep with out it for his naps. Your going to have a few long tiring weeks ahead though.

Answer 10

You can borrow from the toothfairy idea. Tell your little girl that the "binky (or whatever term you use) Fairy" needs to collect the pacifer for all the babies waiting to be born. Tell her that you will either leave them on her windowsill or hang them out in a tree limb and the next morning, the "Fairy" will leave a gift for her in return for all of her binks. Don't push the idea, let her warm up to it. When she decides she wants to leave them out, make a big to do about it. After she goes to bed, take all the binks and get rid of them. Make sure you get a gift she really has been wanting. (Within reason, no binky is worth a pony... :) ) Then make a big deal about how proud you are of her.