on tuesday I ran into my boss at a local bar--we were both drunk--long story short, we had sex and I regret it terribly--she sends me texts and calls my cell, I want nothing to do with her but i dont want this to affect my job..if i tell her it was a one time thing--shell fuvk me over in the end....
2006-06-16 09:15:18 · 14 answers · asked by gs_analyst 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her it was hot. Tell her it was wonderful. Press her to do something slightly degrading, and ask for a little more perv each time. She'll find a way to cool your relationship, and it won't be your fault.
2006-06-16 09:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by U. N. 3 · 9⤊ 5⤋
I wouldn't want to go nack either. ;-)
But really, you should know that relationships are not allowed in the work place. it's not really your fault or your boss's though cuz you both were drunk. if anything, i guess you can talk to her about it. I'm sure she's dying to talk about it too. She's probably thinking the same thing as you but you should not let that get in the way of your job. try to be professional. Talk to her and if she thinks the same as you (being a one time thing) then it is fine. Never mention it again. But if she wants a relationship, you better quit your job fast. OR you can tell her that relationships cannot effect your job....although she CAN screw you over...all in all. Look for another job. Pronto!
2006-06-16 16:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by mekkimaru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, she can't, legally, do anything to you that affects your job situation. It's called sexual harrassment, and it goes for men as well as women. The best thing about the law? It doesn't matter if you were drunk. The fact that she is your superior and direct supervisor at work is what matters. And it also doesn't matter that the "act" happened off work premises.
Tell her you were drunk and it was a one-time thing. If anything happens that affects your job in any way, report her to HER supervisor and the HR department. She'll be the one who gets fired... so, if she's smart, she'll just let it go.
2006-06-16 16:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which is why you never sleep with co-workers, and especially your boss, unless you want to find another job. I don't get why people cannot understand this. There are way too many women out there worth being with, but irresponsible people like yourself still go an sleep in their workplace. Now you have to go and find another job. Well done sir. Let this be a lesson to all who have or are thinking about sleeping with a co-worker or boss. They do have consequences.
2006-06-16 16:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this is a really tough one. You can't ignore her, you'll totally see her at work. Maybe you need to talk to an HR person about the policy at your company with fraternization. If it's not totally frowned upon, maybe you can ask to be moved to a different department.
Bottom line, sorry man, but you're going to have to suck it up and tell her it was a one time thing, then deal with the consequences. There's no way it won't affect your job.
2006-06-16 16:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Christine E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep you are right she will. Learn a lesson from this never date co-workers it is always bad. This is a place where you have to go everyday and people you see everyday. It is just bad news. I know I have done it and ended up quitting because of it. But maybe you need to just sit down in private and talk with her she may feel the same way.
2006-06-16 16:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by T B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't dump her... it will make work a lot more difficult, even if she is really ethical and won't do anything like firing you or never giving you any promotion, it would things unconfortable. Just keep it goiing and don't give it any attention without being a dick, she will get tired and then you can both say "oh ok it was good then, friends? yeah shure let's just be friends"
2006-06-16 16:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by iv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have been pulling this one on women employees for YEARS!! Be honest and risk losing her "affection", or lie and keep pleasing her in every way, but make it worth your while!
It all depends on the strength of your character!
2006-06-16 16:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by bradhartel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man suck it up and keep hitting it till she decides to talk about it. or take it to the next level.
Then the both of you can discuss it without all the tensions.
Once it has been started its hell to stop without getting into a jackpot.
2006-06-16 16:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for another job. Now.
2006-06-16 16:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by rob h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you can't see her anymore because some chick you slept with on Tuesday gave you an STD
2006-06-16 16:20:38 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋