It's simple - but not really. I met a girl thursday in class, we hit it off instantly, she gave me her number and told me "You have my number, make sure you call me!"
So my roommates go through my phone last night and send her a text message (without my permission) that says: butts*x - naturally I'm EXTREMELY angry.
So I go to class today and she seems cheery and fine, says she didn't even mind. So we talk all class, make each other laugh, just have a good time. Then she drops the bomb says: "My bf lives up by so-and-so pub" and Im thinking to myself: ok... um now what
So we leave class and I walk her to her car and shes telling me how he works a couple hours out of the city and can only come back so often... I kind of just let it roll off me, not saying much about it - then as she was leaving I asked her if she wanted me to call her on Sunday and she said "Definatly, make sure you do" and she gives me this innocent smile...
So what do I do... go after her or not?
2006-06-16 07:40:38 · 40 answers · asked by gp_angelo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Lucy you've got some splaining to do!!" let me say this much if she really loves the guy then you are gonna make an *** of yourself going after her cause more than likely she's miscontruing the situation as you wanting to be her friend and due to the fact that you guys bonded instantly innocently she thought hey this guy is really cool. but if you guys were fliriting while doing that then that means that she doesn't really like this guy cause she is openly willing to talk to other males. if my man found out i was doing that it would be my azz. but think about it do you really want to go for a girl that might be willing to cheat on her man of several years.? do you want that by yourside. i think Genuwine said it best when he said " your telling me it's different but what the hell is different if you cheated on him you'll do it to me", so i guess either way you shouldnt' but then again you don't want to be kicking yourself in the azz if you just leave her alone. if i were you then i'd definetly call her sunday but she what her and her man have been like if it's serious then back off even if she does follow but if it's not then i think you have the green light to go ahead and snatch. hope it helps...
2006-06-16 07:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go for her. Who your friends are says a lot about who you are. If they are immature and sending messages like that it means you're immature as well. Think about why women prefer to date older men, MATURITY. Being mature is a huge turn on and it's obvious that you've turned her off completely. She was nice enough to not totally reject you to your face, but will likely not answer any phone calls. When a woman hints at having a boyfriend you should always say, "That's great, but I don't want to hear about your problems" in a sarcastic tone. Get them laughing and act like it didn't even phase you.
One last thing...If your friends knew you got this girls number it means you were bragging to them a bit, possibly. Otherwise they would not have known about this woman at all. It's not like they go around sending out random messages to women on your cell phone. So basically, you sent her the signal that you were already really interested in her and had a chat about her with your buddies. Women are really good at over-analyzing a situation and making assumptions from little details. Learn your lesson for next time.
2006-06-16 07:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by TonyDrummond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The final decision is yours to make. If you want to hook up with her just so you can have sex then do that, but if you respect the fact that she has a boyfriend then I would let her know (and make sure you both are on the same page) that you really like her but you can only see being friends with her for now. With that said, that gives you time to get to know one another better and to see if she is playing you and trying to cause drama between you and the boyfriend. Its a sticky situation but in the end the choice you make is the one you have to live by.
2006-06-16 07:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's worth asking her about her boyfriend and asking if they have an open relationship. Perhaps you've misunderstood. If she is again unclear, you might want to think about the fact that already she is hard to communicate with. Once you find out that information, you can ask yourself these questions:
Do you want to date someone that has a boyfriend?
Are you looking for a purely physical relationship or an emotional bond too?
Are you going to feel more guilty for dating her if she does have a boyfriend?
When you answer these questions, you'll have a better idea of what to do.
2006-06-16 07:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is Simple, My Friend If you Lust for her or Lust after her then youyr Anwser is No do not go after her if your interested in her by herself yes, but beware of the cheater for her words are like honey and are smooth as oil. Now Im not saying you cant be attracted to her but Do not go after her because she looks good, take what I say to heart my friend it will help you. And If she is taken by a boyfriend she is not commited to him You and any other Man has the right to earn her heart and the choice is hers. but make sure she confronts the other and ends it first before being with you:; If you Like any More Advice Like mine Please Email Me at cl656@hotmail.com that goes for anyone who sees this
2006-06-16 07:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah man your in but just make sure her bf dont show up when your with her rent a room out for the night then take her out after that you go to the room so her bf wont know where she is
2006-06-16 07:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by big_bizkit_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave her alone. She has a b/f, and even if you're into her, there's always the b/f to contend with eventually. There's enough trouble out there that falls into your lap -- you don't have to jump into some. Best wishes!
2006-06-16 08:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by rabecky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont go for it because she wouldnt have brought up her man if she had intentions on messing with you she only wants to be friends dont make a fool of urself. She basically gave you boundaries as soon as she mentioned him. Trust me a woman who wants you will do every thing in her power to keep another man from you.
2006-06-16 07:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-06-16 07:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by muffbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to clear the air first. Then decide. If she thought you were messin' with her, she may have been doing the same. You don't need to start a realtionship like that. However, if she does have a boyfriend, don't even go there!!!
2006-06-16 07:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋