His beautiful two children 6 & 7, have moved in with us. We've known this was coming for two months now, and have taken steps to find a proper daycare for them while we're at work. I did all the research, prepared all the paperwork, even shelled out some money to help out to pay for it. However, becuase he procrastinated, the daycare is full and now we have no where to put the children for a week. It's been taken care of now, they're staying with a friend of ours, but I just want to smack him! Those kids are getting tossed around enough having to move in with us (mom is temporarily out of the picture) and to have them stay with someone else for a week!?!?! I just needed to vent that. Thanks - feel free to offer any encouragement or comments.
2006-06-16 07:31:11 · 16 answers · asked by krystal_leighton 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
joey322 - I actually don't want children of my own - so thankfully it's not something I have to worry about. I'm happy enough with his kids right now.
2006-06-16 07:49:19 · update #1
What is it with men and procrastination? If I didn't know better I would swear you are talking about my husband. I completetly understand where you are coming from. It's like, okay, it's not just affecting his life alone anymore, he is affecting your life and the childrens lives by acting like a Peter Pan in Wonderland himself!
I dn't know about your man, but mine will just completely tune it all out. Ignore me, ignore the situation, ignore the penalties for his actions, and really almost wait for someone else to come along and pick up the pieces because he knows if he waits long enough they will.
I don't know how to go about changing the behavior, it seems my hubby gets on track for months, even years sometimes then just careens off out of no where...I guess in your situation, it's going to fall on you to show those kids they are loved and wanted and this is just a bit of a time out before they start their daycare. Don't let them in on what is going on, they will only feel like they are to blame, maybe try making it fun for them. Like it is a vacation, go to the park when you pick them up, or for pizza after, go in to work a bit late and stop for dounuts, things like that.
Good luck, and good for you to vent, I totally know your fustration on this one. Try not to let it stress you too much, there is nothing worse than trying to control someone elses life and actions, its an impossible feat and you will be the one to loose in the long run.
2006-06-16 07:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah guys tend to screw up everything sometimes. I give you props though because you are taking the responsibility of two children who aren't yours, and your not married to this man. I'm thinking they're lucky to have you. Good luck with the procrastinating thing though, you're going to have to be on his a**. Next time tell him that you need something done a week or two before the actual deadline then you'll know you'll at least have it by the real deadline....that's what I do and it seems to work. Good luck! Brandi =)
2006-06-16 14:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree he should have had things taken care of for the kiddos! Smack him upside the head for me..lol... The important thing is that they are being taken care of and you are working to get them stabilized! My children unfortunately live in two homes there father and I have shared custody so they go back and fourth constantly! I have my regrets about it but they would have been worse off had we stayed together! Just try to treat those babies as well as you can even if you do not want your own! ANGEL
2006-06-16 15:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all I would like to commend you for having a big heart. I understand your fustration my husband is a big time procrastinater and it makes me nuts sometimes. Just some advice since the children currently do not have a mother figure in there lives, try to give them as much love as possible. That way they can feel they have there dad but also someone who is close to a mother figure as well.
2006-06-16 14:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by sugamama1121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell how you fell!Or at least.....try.so i think men are sometimes fustraiting but you'll get over it. and if he dosn't have the money for daycare what happens if you do want children?huh?well atleast the children have a responsible pair of parents to look up to!And god bless u take care please pick me for best answer!
try considering yoga classes!!!
2006-06-16 15:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there....
men can be VERY frustrating at times. i know my husband and i just got through a big ol fight. he made me soooo mad!
luckily, it wasn't a serious as your situation....
please take care and i'm thankful that at least you are there for these kids. sounds like you may be the only responsible person in their lives.
however, i do want to make one little comment.
please don't take offense to this, but...
if he can't take care of something like getting his kids daycare, what's going to happen if you guys decide to have kids together??
do you really want that kind of dad for your own kids???
i know you'd be there like a champ for them, but would he? trying to be supermom can be tough if your partner isn't giving it his all.
so, please take care and i'm glad you got things worked out in the end!
2006-06-16 14:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful that you care so much for these kids and their well being. So many step-moms are so nasty when it comes to the kids of another woman with your man. Keep doing your best for them.
2006-06-16 14:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEN ARE THE WORST WHEN IT COMES TO PROCRASTINATION!! It doesn't matter iif you hand-deliver it with a bow he will still take too long to open it!! I don't understand why they don't just get things done and out of the way!!!
2006-06-16 14:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only the beginning girl. Good Luck!
2006-06-16 18:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical man LOL
Remember the old saying..if you want something done right, do it yourself.
2006-06-16 14:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋