GUYS.......are you all HONEST enough to ANSWER THIS???

Question

ok, tell me if you will...........................

what makes you cheat or think of cheating on a girl your suppose to love? is there something lacking in the relationship or do you just want to have your cake and eat it too?

Answer 1

No, guys are not honest enough to answer this. But I'm going to try anyways.

Many *people*, not just guys, have this limitless capacity to love and care for others. Often, they feel obligated to share it with as many as they can safely.

Nobody trusts a single other person enough to put their life in another's hands these days. Nobody at all. After all, is it not foolish of a thing to do?

And entire lifetime of focused attention and loving on one single person is scary and creepy. It's literally obsessive - which is not necessarily the BAD thing people make it out to be. But they still make it out to be bad. And people, even madly in love, can only tolerate so much from one another before one becomes "smothered" and burned out by the relationship. Which is EXACTLY what is trying to be avoided.

And the person that needs the loving more will find it one way or another - because they give it just as much.

Finally, these days there is no standard of coupling. There is no example to follow. There is really no concept of a "right relationship" anymore, either. Even a monogamous, married couple is nigh-impossible to live as, these days. It works well for "simple givers" and "simple takers", but many people these days need to be both - and 90% of them don't feel like being "takers" - even though that's really what it's all about. Once you're a couple, be a little selfish, and trust each other with your wants and needs. And with lack of standards, many people don't really have "expectations" to judge their relationships by, either.

It doesn't help that secrets, lies, affairs, and drama are *highly publicized*, almost to the point of being worshipped.

*Sorry if that's a little long winded...*

Answer 2

listen crazy, guys cheat because its a primal instinctive behavior. Guys want to have sex with as many girls as possible. Those without dedication to thier loved ones easily fall to these primal insticts and unfortunately they hurt the ones that they love. I know lots of guys that really do love thier spouse or gf, but when that opportunity arises, they take advantage and to be honest I dont frown on it because I know these guys to be good at heart but with weak dedication. Giving the guy no reason to cheat is a start but its still not foolproof. If a wife stops putting out for whatever reason, then you take on that risk because a man does not marry a woman who changes into a shrew after they get married. Some guys in that situation will either divorce or cheat, which do you prefer? Women will have a different opinion because some women depend on thier husband financially and emotionally and will take back an admitted cheater because of this.

Answer 3

I don't cheat. The one time it can be said that I did cheat I was about 21 years old, I think. I had just started dating a girl long distance, a girl I'd met on several occasions and really liked. But I found out the same night that a girl on the dorm I lived in had a crush on me, and she was someone I really liked, too.

I fooled around with the girl that night and felt so bad about it that I ended up calling up the new girfriend and telling her about it at 3:00 AM. That ended the relationship before it really got started, but I figured it was good to be up front about it. It made me physically sick to my stomach to cheat on a girl I'd only been in a relationship with for one day... so I've never had any desire to find out what that would feel like in any other relationship.

Answer 4

Well i must say this i have never cheated on a woman that i was in a relationship with. But honestly i would break up with her before i would cheat. But I think the reason people cheat is because of pure lust for someone else or the fact that the person they cheat with is giving them something that the person they are with is not giving them i.e. attention, some for of sexual pleasure.

Answer 5

I feel that curiosity and instinct to "conquer" are what made men cheat or thinking of cheating on his love ones.

There usually nothing lack if the the relationship. A smart woman would "close one eye" on this and keep sending signals to her husband that she still love him. He will realize that after all the fun, he will still return to her.

Of course, there are exceptions. If the men did not love the wife in the first place, then he will be gone forever.

Answer 6

I think at first it's the lacking something in the relationship that makes a guy find someone else willing to participate. After the first time though, it's have your cake and eat it too.

Answer 7

First of all... I've NEVER cheated on any G/F or my ex-wife. I wouldn't even CONSIDER cheating... cheating is lower than low, sleazy, selfish, dishonorable and extremely cruel to say the least. But, I suppose the reason many guys cheat (I can only tell you from a male's perspective) is they're less than satisfied with their sex life. They're either bored... don't get enough or enough of the kind of sex they're looking for... or just may no longer be in 'that kind' of love with their g/f, partner or wife. They may get all the goodies of being in a committed relationship at home - security comfort etc... but when it comes to hoochie action they're less than satisfied with the home cooking.

Answer 8

READ CAREFULLY!!. what women don't understand is that men can separate sex from lovemaking. what i mean is that when men make love to their wives or girlfriends the emotional attachment is there. they love that wife or girlfriend. but at the same time a man can **** some random chick as easily as he can change his socks. most men don't even have to like the woman. there's no emotional attachment. Most women invest body AND soul into their sexual partner. even if she doesn't love him she at least likes him. the sooner women realize the difference between physical cheating and emotional cheating. the better off you'll be. besides, whats more important, having a mans body, or his heart?

Answer 9

Nothing would ever make me cheat if it's gotten to the point where that could even be a consideration, then it's time to leave that relationship and move on.

Answer 10

tough question.
I think oppurtunity is the biggest factor in cheating, love has very little to do with it. and the thing that is lacking is that the one that i love is not the one i cheat with....cake and eat it to, maybe so, i like the thought. but you really have to better define cheating.