i need more answers(he's 26 and I'm 18) some one help?

Question

i need more answers..i like this guy from my church..he is 26 and im 18..i just graduated from high school.so im moving on to better things(the real world) i feel like i am mature enough and would be considerd (on his level)...im just not sure what to do..he is so sweet..It;s something about him...i need answers..some one please help me....fast

Answer 1

you already know what you want and he does as well. you do not need answers or advice. your a big girl now start living your life and endure your happiness.

Answer 2

You seem kind of young to be entering into a relationship with someone that much older (8 years is quite a difference when you're as young as you are - look at Mandy Moore and Zach Braff- she is 22 and he's 31, they cared about each other but the age difference just broke them up). I say if you really like him, go for it, but go into a relationship with him cautiously. Besides, you may go out on a few dates and find out you're better as friends. If he's from your church, chances seem to be good that he's a stand up guy and not some loser, but still, the age difference is significant. If he was a few years younger, it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but when you're 18, 8 years really is a lot. He's at a different place in his life than you, and if you do go out, he may want to progress to a different level than you're ready for because he's older and ready but you're still just experiencing life for the first time as an independent adult. A few dates never hurt anyone, just be careful and cautious. The pros for going out with him would be that he probably is more mature than guys your own age and he probably has had several relationships by now so he knows how to treat a girlfriend, but the cons would be that he might not be into the same things you are into doing and there could be an inequality between the two of you because he's older, and that can lead to the older person being controlling. So, think about it, and if you still want to, go out with him. It's not as if you have to proclaim your undying love for one another to go out. Keep it casual at first.

Answer 3

Women mature faster then men do, So your probably on equal playing field. besides, he is not that much older then you. the only problem I could see for a few years would be if he likes to go to bars. Since your under the legal drinking age.
There is an old saying " a man chases a women until she catches him" . It just basically means you have the power. Cater to his ego and you will be fine. bat your eyes at him and smile. Let him know in suttle ways that you are interested in him. Eye contact is key.
If he seems to be oblivious to your moves, then just ask him out. Ice cream always works. Just make sure that you order a cone and not a sundae. And when you lick your cone, do it in a way that isn't to obvious, but will send a message across. But keep the eye contact. good luck, Jack

Answer 4

Hmm.... This is a rather touchy one. I was in somewhat of the same situation. There's a 10 year age difference between me and my GF. Once I got past the age difference everything is going great. It was a large risk because while she(you) might feel mature and an adult the person you are is still evolving very much. As you change a lot over the next few years he will change a lot less. There are people that will disapprove of the disparity between your ages so be prepared for that. I would go for it, just be careful. Older men don't give their heart as completely as young women do. Me and my GF fit together like lego bricks so in my case the risk was worth it.

Answer 5

Be careful. I married a woman 7 years my senior and it gets more difficult as we get older. BUT....we have been married for 26 years. Make sure you both know what you want the other to be in the relationship, now and down the road as well. For example: my wife tends to shy away from people my age lately. This causes me problems because I am very sports minded and don't always want to compete against an older crowd.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are in a quandary and doubting if you should be in a relationship with him. A relationship should be a no-doubt thing...If you are asking yourself what you should do, maybe a relationship at this moment isn't a great idea. Especially with an 8 year difference, you have to get to know him a lot better. It's great that he and you go to the same church! Try to get to know him in other settings, too. Also, consider college. Will you be faithful to him all throughout your college years? Will he be willing to wait for you to finish college? Try to think things totally through! Good luck!

Answer 7

I think you should let him know that you would like to spend some time with him .. as friends first .. see how that go's .. you will be able to get a feel if he likes you the way you do .. maybe join some of the things at church that he is in .. good luck ..

Answer 8

there are 11 years and 2 weeks between my husband and I, We have 2 kids and are happy. There was 30 years and 11 months between my parents, they were married for 19 years. Age is only a number, it depends on your level of maturity. Just don't base you life around him, and everything should be fine.
good luck

Answer 9

You are of legal age to date whomever you wish! I think you need to go for it after all there is only an 8 yr difference between you and him. My husband and i are 3 1/2 yrs apart and his brother is 8 yrs younger than his wife and they have been married for 7 yrs and are doing great! Age doesn't matter and he isn't that much older than you, he is still young also. Good Luck!

Answer 10

If you truly feel a connection with him and the both of you have the same beliefs, then nothing should prevent you from being with him. Its okay to be liking someone that's older than you, just be sure that you two really are on the same level.

Answer 11

What's your question? Guessing...."is he too old for you or that you are too young for him?" It's only 8 years. When you are 30 he'll only be 38. Doesn't seem too old to me. However, you may want to move on to better things regardless of this sweet guy, you've got plenty of time and experience gives you more to offer a relationship.