Has it strengthened or weakened you? Would you change anything given what you know now from conception until birth? How did your partner manage? Do you consider your child a special gift from God?
2006-06-16 06:46:10 · 4 answers · asked by Sleek 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't have a special needs child, I have just always wondered, with the knowing possibility that God could make it His will to give me such a child. You know, I can honestly say it wouldn't matter to me one bit. It would be challenging, but I'd love and care for and celebrate the child just the same. That being said I am expecting and have an increase risk of having a baby with Down's Syndrome. It's in His hands along with all of my trust.
2006-06-16 07:03:34 · update #1
Our oldest is autistic and wasn't properly diagnosed until age 6. It was actually a relief to find out what was going on. We felt like complete failures as parents because it seemed like everything we did for him was wrong. Once we knew what was going on and were able to educate ourselves, we were able to relate to him better and find a comfortable home life.
As for how my partner dealt with it... there were times when he was so frustrated he blamed me, himself and the doctors. Of course, I did the same thing. It made our marriage hell for awhile. The important thing is that we resolved ourselves to deal with the situation and we've made it through.
I think all children are a gift from God... regardless of a disability. And, no, I wouldn't have changed anything from conception to birth. There's no guarantee that anything would have turned out differently.
2006-06-16 07:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is adopted from China. We were told her had no special needs. When she was 2 1/2 she was diagnosed with mild Cerebral Palsy. She also has some emotional issues. I was sad at first, but love her dearly and would not have changed anything. If she had stayed in CHina, she might not have ever walked. The hardest part for me was that after working for UCP for 8 years and I couldn't see it in my baby, mostly because it is so mild. Sometimes I still find myself thinking there isn't anything wrong. But then she falls down. The other hard part is other parents. We are trying to encourage her to be strong. If she falls and doesn't cry, we just wait for her to get up. Sometimes other parents look at us as if we are insensitve jerks. But, if she isn't crying, she's OK. If she cries, we scoop her right and and give her attention.
2006-06-17 17:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by adkwolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular needs little ones are very incredibly in touch little ones. they choose consistent interest. i'm effective he's particular courses interior of his college to assist him with certain aspects of his habit. if you aren't to any extent further completely committed to this. you want to leave your boyfriend. there is no opt to carry a particular needs baby right into a house that would or received't very last. in case you ever pick marriage with this guy then you definately settle for each thing that's him and what comes with him. you would opt to act this way at the same time as the baby is on your domicile too. he's a twelve three hundred and sixty 5 days previous boy whos mom rejects him, friends reject him. the most suitable component he needs is more desirable rejectment from someone. This boy should be the fathers volume one precedence at this aspect and also you may opt to comprehend that. imagine about what you could and cant tolerate. you need to be able to tolerate all of it or none of it.
2016-10-31 00:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's life...no one says it would be easy...having any kids at all isn't easy...it's just another bump in the road...having negative thoughts is not an option...this is still your child...and love should be present...you do what you have to do...it is what it is....and your partner should stick with you...it's their kid too
2006-06-16 06:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by kawika712 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋