i feel like if i dont agree he wont be happy .. whta shoudl i do?
2006-06-16 06:41:32 · 20 answers · asked by carla h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be happy too. If he can't respect your wishes to wait until you're ready, then he doesn't have your best interests at heart. Wait until YOU are ready to do these things. If he treats you badly or leaves you because of it, then good riddance to him! Guys like that aren't worth your time and there are plenty of them that will wait and respect your wishes.
2006-06-16 06:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER ever do anything that you don't feel comfortable in doing with anyone. The biggest mistake you can make is to feel pressured into doing something, and then give in. The person that was doing the pressuring will only lose interest and get bored because they got what they wanted.
2006-06-16 13:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by aloha_lea413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But if you do agree, you won't be happy. If he can't go as slow as you want to, he is not a gentleman and not worth it. Take care of yourself first
and "take care of your man" is the worst thing I have ever heard, he should be ashamed of himself for saying that
2006-06-16 13:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST express your concerns to him - if he really cares about you and sees you as more than a means to fulfilling his immediate desires, then he'll respect your desires and wait until you're ready to move things further. Believe me, you'd be wasting your time in this relationship by going along with him and not expressing yourself fully: you MUST to be able to BE YOURSELFand have him respect you for it or the relationship is doomed to failure and heartbreak.
2006-06-16 13:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by nickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your logic, he requires you to do something you do not want to do to make himself happy. That works out pretty well if you are in to the slave - master type of relationship.
I think you are about to find out how much both you and he respect your feelings.
Oh yeah, if he hasn't laid the "I experience great pain when you refuse me sex" bull on you yet, no doubt he will.
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2006-06-16 13:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are ONLY 2 choices here, either talkk it ALL out and come to an agreement, that you BOTH decide is proper and correct or you BOTH, or Find someone who WILL give YOU what YOU want. PERIOD !!!
2006-06-16 13:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is suppose to be your man he should respect your decision but then again you should cater to him also find a good medium like you know other stuff.
2006-06-16 13:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by hot_mommie00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows you don't want to do that stuff, he should respect that. if he doesn't, you need to break up with him. love does not involve guilt tripping. he sounds like a jerk to me. i'm sure that you can find another boy who will treat you right.
2006-06-16 13:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by dcfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating seriously for less than 6 months, hit him.
If you have been dating seriously for more than 6 months, hit yourself.
2006-06-16 13:44:58 · answer #9 · answered by D Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he will respect your feelings. If he does not respect your feelings, then he does not love you. He cares only for himself and you are better off without him.
2006-06-16 13:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by rempuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋