My boyfriend [soon ex-boyfriend] is a wonderful guy, and seems pretty into me. Yet I have decided to break up with him; I'm tired of him, and I am absolutely sure I need to.
The thing is, I can't do it for the next there days [I'm busy], and the only other chance I get is in two weeks at a gathering with friends [I would break up with him near the end, when people are leaving.] He has contacted me by phone, and I am desperate to avoid him - I'm really not into him anymore. But should I just break up with him over phone? Or drag it on until the gathering and do it in person? [I hear in person is the best way, and most fair, to break up with a guy.]
2006-06-16 06:40:47 · 8 answers · asked by Alpha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've looked at all your answers, and most of them help. I want to break this off, but I don't really have any ideas on how to do it. I mean, I don't want to meet up with him at a movie or something just to break up with him - this is my first actual relationship, so I'm kind of new at this. But could you maybe give me some tips?
2006-06-16 06:55:12 · update #1
You need to be fair to your boyfriend. You need to do it in person, that is the best way, and if you keep avoiding him, he'll know something is up, so I would suggest to just find a spot of time where you can meet him and do it gently then.
2006-06-16 06:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by aloha_lea413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While, yes, it is preferencial that you give him the respect that he deserves by going through with the break-up in person, dragging it out is definitely not the way to go either. You should either a) make some real time to do this or b) go with the second best way, over the phone. The phone option isn't the best, and may cause more problems that you're ready or willing to deal with, but at least you'll be giving him the release that he deserves. Waiting will only make things harder for both of you. And honestly, waiting until the end of a gathering with friends to do this....how rude and lame....you're better than that, and so is he.
2006-06-16 13:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by Poosie Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot break up with him over the phone. It sounds like he's going to feel like he was hit by a bus, and I think it would be even worse if it's over the phone. Also, avoid doing it front of others. He'll feel even worse then. Breaking up is never easy, but be as fair as you can about it. Think about how you would like to be broken up with.
2006-06-16 13:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Edith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're and insensitive person.."he's into me" ...."I cant do it for the next three days (I'm busy)" Yep....you're insensitive all right...Well...all I can say is...One day you will find someone that you really love and when he is TIRED of you like you are of Ur present BF....he will ponder the same questions as to how to end it with you...you know the old saying..."What goes around Comes around"......do whatever is convenient for you...and then wait for your turn
2006-06-16 13:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and breck up with him soon. if their is anyway to avoid him by the fact that u are busy then u should try it. you might get lucky and he could get the idea that u don't want to be with him anymore cause u are ignoring him so much. then u don't have to say anything.
2006-06-16 13:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea just break up with him at the end of the party.dont do it over the phone.
2006-06-16 13:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by munchkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are
do it over the phone if you want to get it over with
2006-06-16 13:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Shade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
putting it off just makes things worse and you know it. leaving him hanging for more time when he could be single and looking is not nice. go find the time im sure you can and tell him.
2006-06-16 13:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋