They just purchased a new home and I know that I will be invited to their gatherings. Will it be wrong if I do not attend? My husband and I really can't stand her husband and in-laws. I'm scared that I will tell the off one day. My husband is black and they make him feel un welcomed. They are iggnorant and racist.What should I do?
2006-06-16 06:20:41 · 26 answers · asked by lifeislove 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
reported to the second person or animal whatever you are.
2006-06-16 06:24:48 · update #1
greencaddyman-- do you even know what you are talking about? Another racist in the house!
2006-06-16 06:31:49 · update #2
Im Puerto Rican and proud! Love has no color!
2006-06-16 06:33:47 · update #3
Go if you feel obligated to. You and your husband stand tall. If things go dark, you always have the choice to leave.
2006-06-16 06:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Khrystal W 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Go anyway! See what they say or do. It is their problem if they seem to be ignorant and racist, not you and your husband's. Just go enjoy yourself with the food and new company and just be nice and "all smiles" haha like you don't have a care in the world and stick with your husband while you there. And if one of them suddenly cracks it, tell that person that this is the 21st century now and attitudes towards racism has changed.... ALOT and they need to catch up for they are very far behind hehe.
2006-06-16 06:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to like or associate with your cousin's husband. If they make you feel uncomfortable, tell you cousin when she invites you that you would rather not come because her husband's family make you uncomfortable. Explain further if asked.
2006-06-16 06:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong if you don't attend. You shouldn't have to go somewhere that you feel uncomfortable and unwelcome. If you're looking for something you can tell them, just know that after awhile, excuses get old and if you want to maintain the relationship with your cousin, you can just say "hey, we're not comfortable because people make my husband feel unwelcomed." Then, if you're ok and comfortable with just her, maybe you could invite her to do something once in awhile to build that relationship.
2006-06-16 06:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by jada_riab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "I'm sorry, but we already have plans," and leave it at that. They don't need to know that those plans might be doing the laundry or just enjoying each other's company.
If you're close with your cousin, you might want to explain things to her privately and explain that her husband's conduct and that of his relatives makes you uncomfortable and that you won't be subjecting yourselves to that kind of treatment from anyone.
2006-06-16 06:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they make your husband feel unwelcome, then I would not subject him to that kind of behavior. If you and your cousin are on good terms, perhaps the two of you could meet some place else. I would not go to her house and if she asks why I would tell her the reason up front. If she does not understand your feelings, how much have you lost?
2006-06-16 06:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by fivestarmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Your Wife/Husband Doesn't Know?
2016-08-09 11:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely terminate your relationship with your cousin. It sounds like you don't have strong family values, so ditching your family and the people you belong with should not be a problem for you. Try not marrying any canadians, you asked for it. It sounds like you are putting a strain on you family and you have a ethnicity problem, so it would probably be easier for your family if you stay away. You are the morally compromised one who is iggnorant and racist against your own people.
2006-06-16 06:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by greencaddyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you are most comfortable with. If your cousin is understanding, she would know why you put your husband's honor before their sentiments. Racist people suck.
2006-06-16 06:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very uncalled for Screen Name, STINKY HO, you do not need to respond like that.
To answer the question, i have a cousin and i do not like her husband. He is a stuck-up arrogant pig, but i try my best to deal with it. She is family and I just try to avoid being near him at gatherings. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-16 06:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth you have to like him just don't touch him in any way so that your cousin won't beat your *** that all and you not married you him so bye on that note.
2006-06-16 06:24:38 · answer #11 · answered by kenisha_ma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋