we are fighting!?

Question

My boyfriend and I are fighting. I have a 2 year old daughter and he is always going over my head and trying to discipline her and sometimes he gets so frustrated that he yells at her. We have only been together for 4 months. Do you think he has any say in how I raise her? I feel like he is trying too hard to be 'daddy'! He always asks what's wrong and when I try to tell him he gets defensive and won't listen. I don't know what to do... I feel like I don't have say in how MY daughter is raised when I'm around him. How would you guys approach a situation like this? Is it even worth working out!? Why does he do this???

FYI: We don't live together, but thanks for your advice...

Answer 1

he can give u his opinion but that's about it, he has no say so what so ever on what's good 4 your daughter especially after only 4 months, he shouldn't b yelling a her and it's sounds like he's very controlling, i don't know how he is as a boyfriend so i won't say anything on that, but a father figure he is not, he should have more respect 4 u and 4 your daughter, goodluck.

Answer 2

it isn't under no circumstances should he yell at your child for several reasons:
1. He is not the father
2. He has only been there for 4 months
3. He doesn't respect your feelings towards this
4. Your daughter is in her "terrible twos" and he cant comprehend that. He loses patience these are not good signs.

Make it clear to him that he is YOUR boyfriend not your husband not your baby daddy YOUR BOYFRIEND. When it comes to the baby leave that to you.

How long have you know him before you moved him into the house. Because you have a baby girl I'm not telling you who and how to live your life. However hold into consideration that he has only been there for four months you don't like that he yells at your baby and you cant distinguish weather or not if he should have a say or not!!

That fact that you added that he doesn't live with you should have made your answer even easier he is only your boyfriend he shouldn't have any say at all when it comes to your daughter or your home. That's yours you worked hard for that. He can only have a say in things that you allow him to have a say in always remember that


If I've offend you sorry but you did post the question up.

Answer 3

Do YOU think he has any say in how your daughter is raised??? I say no, you're not married or even engaged. Does he live with you? If not, its best to avoid situations where he is around your daughter.

Answer 4

My reaction to him would be quite violent and he would be out the door faster than he can blink.

Grow a spine. Kick the man to the curb and concentrate on your daughter. If you are feeling the wrath that your "boyfriend" is instilling upon your child, imagine how she feels.

Answer 5

People want to raise and control children just as they do puppies. Biology has nothing to do with it. He lives with you and your child, so he's naturally undertaking some parenting role. He may suck at it, and you and he may need to come to agreements, or end the relationship. Your child needs a good male role model, and you and your man need to agree on basic parenting codes of behavior.

Answer 6

Get rid of him because he will eventually hurt your child by constantly yelling at her.That is called psychological abuse. In time he may start hitting her out of frustration. You need him out of your life. Remember-your child's welfare comes before even your own.

Answer 7

is it worth the chance of him going further with yr child as in hitting. i wouldnt risk it there are many nice guys out there. yelling at yr daughter is abit much this is verbal abuse already.

Answer 8

i agree get rid of him right now cause he should have no say in how u raise ur daughter.

Answer 9

get rid of him and keep you daughter

Answer 10

get rid of him. what a dummy men are just dumb.