The family has financial & marital problems. Then the baby boy of the family (4 yrs old) died suddenly. The big sister is turning grief inward. Tt only comes out as anger. She's very smart, but wouldn't turn in homework, so she went to summer school. Then she managed to get kicked out, so she will be repeating 6th grade. The parents love her but aren't very strict disciplenarians.
She doesn't exercise much.
The family doesn't eat right & kids get themselves snacks like chips & coke.
She sleeps all day & stays up all night.
She locks herself in her room all day.
She has hinted at suicide. We are treating this as a serious cry for help, but we think thats all it was.
Medication is NOT an option.
The family is Christian, so don't give trite anwers like "Put your faith in God." They are already doing that. They need hard advice WITH DETAILS & WEBSITES. But Bible verses to support suggestions will carry a lot of weight with them.
Please include website
2006-06-16 06:12:23 · 8 answers · asked by leopardlady 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are trying to find a councelor they can afford
2006-06-16 06:22:19 · update #1
You might want to try to get her involved in a small teen group at church. They work wonders. Teens do not want to talk to adults generally, they want to talk to their friends. Christian friends generally will give better answers for one and if truly serious will tell leaders. I have seen kids open up to leaders too. God Bless you all and I'll be praying for her as well as the family.
2006-06-23 21:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by AngiB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I can say that not only is it a cry out for attenton but i have asked what have yo have done to lead this child into this not saying you did anything but even though we think we are doing thre right things and giving good advise but we sometimes push to hard give her her space for a while because she is going to greave the rest of her life abut that situation just be only thin gi can say is as u are being there for her now be there even more when she decided to let it all out like the trouble she knows that it is wrong, but dont keep telling her trust me she will come out and when she does she is going to need someone to be there if not she will stray away .
2006-06-16 13:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello. This issue sounds like a very devastating, huge problem to the family and i'd like to help, how ever i don't know any websites but i'd like to just give my advise and opinions if that helps.
I think the parents need to give her more attention and let her know that they love her alot and will support her with everything in her life like help with homework, school. Perhaps even bonding time like taking this girl out to some fun family time like bowling or iceskating, for it sounds like this refinement she is doing to herself in her room is not good.
The parents need to put in effort to try and communicate with her or else things won't go any further and the problem will remain as stuck as it already sounds like it is. THey should also try and talk to the girl about their brother's death, and that life is the way it is. It is not pretty or easy. She's still young and need to know and learn about life and get over the death of her brother. Talking about it helps for it helps give more closure. Not talking about it will make this girl more angrier and sad and lonely. So get the parent to start to open up and communicate and hopefully they will see some changes. And you might already be sick of this, but a little praying never hurts either. Perhaps even get the parents to pray together with the girl.
2006-06-16 13:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling with a Christian based counselor seems like the best option. She needs to talk to someone to get out of herself and back into the world.
2006-06-16 13:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow off the christian bull and get the kid to a mental health professional immediately church can come later her head needs help now. if you believe god made everything he made mental health doctors and meds too. I had problems that undealt with caused me to wind up homeless and suicidal once diagnosed and treated with meds I live like a regular human member of society now, at 13 you can save her lots of grief.
2006-06-16 16:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by fun97501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs to speak to a child psychologist. She's obviously acting this way due to the loss of her little brother. I don't think she needs any medication, even though it will be hard, she needs to openly talk about it. Especially since she has hinted at suicide. Keeping bottled inside will only make it worse.
2006-06-16 13:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by It'sMe23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her into counceling, shes greiveing and its hard for a 12 yrold or let alone anyone to deal with greif. meds you have to be careful about because on teens they can make suisidal thoughts worse. she needs help.
2006-06-16 13:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by irishgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of the people who lives in this wourld, so dear , every one is created by allah and allah also knows where his slave is every time , so do not let your self be crazy and wait the decision of allah because he is the creater of this wourld ........
2006-06-16 13:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by afgooye2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋