My ex used to make me have sex with him by telling me that if I didnt, someone else would, and If I didnt then i had to be sleeping with some one else, and crap like that all the time. I used to just lay there and cry the whole time. Would you consider that the same as being raped?
2006-06-16 06:11:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I dont know if this matters, but he also used to hit me, and destroy my stuff, so i always felt like i had no choice. i know he was jerk.. but i just wanted to see what other people thought. Thanks.
2006-06-16 06:22:55 · update #1
yes it is consider rape my ex was the same way untill i had him charged withit i was with him for 4 years and in that time he was still married i had to kids for him and i was never alowed to do anything by myself untill one day i had enough of it and i said screw u and i call the cops on him and charged him u cant be with any partner when there like that it just get u all mixed u inside and u dont know what to do with yourself i hope u get through this
2006-06-16 06:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by angel_blue_tattoo 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this but you raped yourself. When you let others control you with words you consent to it just as if you said OK. Look saying NO is not a sin. He was using the what men may call pimping on you. That mess about him being with someone else, you should of let him hit the curb then cause he's a dog.
If a man isn't concerned about how or rather you want to have sex he isn't concerned with you. Only his labedo. Men can be persistant but we woman can also be in denial. We can also speak and say NO. The next time some three legged creature tells you either your cheating or he will, let him go. It's better he
have sex with someone more his type then someone unwilling.
Sounds to me like he has the tendencies of a rapist. You know more about the situation than I and I can tell you this: Any contact unwanted by any woman or man is rape/ sexual harrassment. Especially when it's unwanted. Don't cry scream No Next time then he'll hear you. Make em wait ....
2006-06-16 13:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by precious 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't say it was rape because u still had a choice u could still say no. It sounds more like it was emotional blackmail. Just be glad ur not with such a jerk any more. Try to find a guy that will respect u and not pressure u to have sex with blackmail, someone who will care about u.
2006-06-16 13:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not rape but it is certainly bad behavior on his part. A good relationship often requires mutual agreement.
You were obviously not strong enough at the time to call him on his ploy. Did you "love" him...or should I say, have more of an obsession?
You obviously deserved a better partner, Fortunately you can now call him "ex"
2006-06-16 13:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by 4Baer 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it feels pretty much the same way. Not to take anything away from rape victims who have been threatened and subjected to violence, you gotta respect what ppl have gone through. But being emotionally bullied into having sex is a pretty crappy feeling and you'd react to it about the same way. So get yourself help, talk it through, take it seriously.
2006-06-16 13:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by simsta 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's rape if you tell him NO and he does it anyways, or if he holds ou down and forces you, in my belief. I also believe it sounds like your bieng emotionally abused, and that is equally as painful as living with rape.. not trying to sound insensitive, I've been through similar situations. it helps to talk about it. hire an on call counselor, or get a good friend to go for a jog and talk to them. ditch the guy, and get some counseling.
2006-06-16 13:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is rape. If consent is by force, then it is rape
The lack of valid consent does not necessarily mean that the victim explicitly refused to give consent; generally, where consent was obtained by physical force, threat of injury, or other duress, or where consent was given by a person whose age was below the age of consent, a person who was intoxicated by drugs or alcohol, or a person who was mentally impaired by illness or developmental disability, the consent is considered invalid.
2006-06-16 13:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Donta P 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You can consider it whatever you like, however, RAPE is forcible sexual contact. You were being played, manipulated, duped and taken advantage of. The great part about love and relationships is that you learn everything about that person; you know all of their buttons, unfortunately, it also is the worst part about love and relationships. In your case, your ex certainly knew and pushed your buttons for his personal pleasure, instead of pleasing you.
2006-06-16 13:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by Cash 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, because it was up to you to make that choice. It was emotional abuse or even blackmail, however. I'm glad he's your ex. Some women are so broken down by men like that they are unable to leave.
2006-06-16 13:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me get on your level. You have the control in the bed. You have the power to say no. You let him take that from you. No man should be able to do that. Anyway you should have let him go cause he wasn't in love he was just using you and no it wasn't rape.
2006-06-16 13:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by lebrontaylor 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋