i hv an arrange marriage... im desi... getttin married in aug... jus had an online convo with my finace... [im a girl by the way]... so i told him to shut up and there was 30 sec of silence... sooooo... then he said.. u shudnt say tht... i had the SHOCK of my life.. i mean its not like i said **** off or go to hell.. anyways then he was offline.. i know it was close to him going to his work.. so i really didnt expect him to come back online... sooooooo. i sms-ed him twice... and hes not answering... there could b a slight possablity tht he might not hv gotten it... but all this happened an 1hr ago.. and still no reply... so wht shud b my next move.... HEEELLLLPPPP.... shud i call.. shud i appologize... but i DONT want to appologize... HHEELLPPPPPP
2006-06-16 06:08:11 · 7 answers · asked by victoria... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Relax, you don't know each other that well yet, particularly since this in an arranged marriage. If he takes offense to this, wait for him to calm down, apologize and explain to each other those things that you can't tolerate. Maybe he doesn't like being told to shut up. You have some things that cross the line with you I'm sure. This situation is particularly tough, but you'll get used to it. Just give him some time to cool down and quit freaking.
2006-06-16 06:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I want to say Congrats to you both.Now about what happened I don't know what the conversation was about or why you told him to shut up but every couple is gonna have an arguement or get upset with one another every once in a while and make up and you know your right it's not like you told him to **** off, he shouldn't take it so seriously, I'm sure he will get over it even before the day ends or maybe it hurt his feelings it is your decision if you want to apoligize just talk to him about it tell him you love him it's not like you two are beating each other up. Good luck!God Bless you.
2006-06-16 06:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need a little more background info on this one! However, I am going to assume that you two didnt really know each other before you got engaged, and therefore you dont really know what makes each other tick. It sounds to me like he would prefer a woman who just does what he says, no questions asked, and if you arent that kind of women, I think it'll all end in tears (or you being bashed around if he cant get his own way).... However, I dont think that you should apologise- if you arent sorry, then dont say you are! He is probably sulking wherever he is, waiting for you to apologise.... stick by your guns girl! Good luck!
2006-06-16 06:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by puddleduck82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still rude to say shut up to someone. So you should prob apologize and say you didn't mean it rudely. The bigger issue is whether he expects you to be more submissive than you are planning to be. Maybe you both need to rethink the marriage.
2006-06-21 13:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said something really offensive, you should have told him that it made you feel uncomfortable, not to shut up.
I suggest apologizing, and say that it came out the wrong way - explain why you wanted him to be quiet.
Good luck
2006-06-16 08:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by irishcreaminator83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been rude and you should apologize. Telling someone to "shut up" is every bit as rude as the other expressions you mentioned and if you didn't know that then, you sure know it now.
Learn some more acceptable alternatives, for example:
"Can I say something?"
"Please, no more!"
"Do we have to talk about this now?"
"Alright, that's enough!"
"What a terrible thing to say!"
.. and so on.
2006-06-16 08:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll get over it... if shut up is the worse thing ever said to him, he has had a charmed life
2006-06-21 10:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋