I have been with my man for a year and half now. We are both 22. Recently (like three months ago) I had a minor surgery to remove part of my cervix....since then my sexual appetite has dipped to an all time low, while at the same time it seems as though my boyfriends has peaked.
he is never fully satisified, by this i mean he wants it like three to four times a night, like three nights a week. He is getting frustrated because I would only like to do it once.
I have tried different things to curb his frustrations, but I am getting to the breaking point.
What can we/I/he do to get through this rough patch...the more he pressures me for sex and the more he doesn't listen to me the more I do NOT want to do it.
2006-06-16 05:50:46 · 16 answers · asked by cookies_n_cream0218 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and that once is once a night, not once a week.
2006-06-16 05:51:14 · update #1
You need to explain your feelings to him and tell him he can't pressure you anymore. He needs to be understanding and caring about your situation and it sounds like he is being very selfish. If he can't compromise with you you should find someone more caring!
2006-06-16 05:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he is just young still so he will not actually peak til 30's but he is at the point where he is very active. I have had the same almost and my sex appetite went nowhere I still wanted it all the time , so I think it is more of a mental issue with you. Sounds to me like you just arent as sexually aggressive as he is and theres nothing wrong with that but if he considers sex to be the main priority then you will have a problem. So you need to figure out a way to tell him that your just not into it that many times a day but you would like to please him more so ask him how you 2 can com to an agreement on how often you have sex. Whatever you consider it has to be resolved because its an issue for both of you and if you dont communicate and work toward trying to find a resolve then you both will just get more and more frusterated and end up apart. So good luck
2006-06-16 06:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a sex shrink to get the proper answers.
Do other men/women turn you on more than you BF even in the shortest and slightest way? If yes then you are just getting over your BF. This happens all the time.
If the answer is no, then you need to see a shrink or genital doc to get evaluated.
As for your BF, that's how most men in their early 20s are. Odds suggest that if he doesn't get sex from you, he will go out looking. But even if that doesn't happen, lack of sex can often end relationships between young people. Now I'm not saying you should let him rape you to save what you have. I'm saying you two need to work it out by talking or just break it off.
2006-06-16 05:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by cigarsmoke1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u tried telling him? that u only wanna do it once a week? u really in love ? u know attached to him?..cuz then if u r then okay then just ......tell him this what u just said to us ppl u know this little story of yours tell him that and if he does understand then u r lucky .....and keep it that way.but if he gets mad and doesn't agree wit u then his probably not a good man now is he? a real relationship considers honesty and agreement and u guys seem to not be on the same page....in order to have a successful relationship u need to have those two things in your life..tell him as a talk a relationship talk that u only wanna do once a week and the more he gets fusterated the more u dont wanna do it ..if he is a good man he'll agree wit u..and he'll try to stop having the feeling of having sex.just say u dont wanna do it also cuz of your surgery..if he is a good man he'll except cuz he cares bout your health and he should care! if u ant gettin what u want by this relationship then ill say its over wit u guys ..talk wit your doc. but before cutting it talk to him k
2006-06-16 06:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by I want to believe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me like he's just being really insensitive. I think you have done all you can, except maybe try talking to your dr. about something that you can try. In the meantime I would cut my man off cold turkey. If you don't like the little you're getting and want to complain then you are not going to get any. That's the way I look at it.
2006-06-16 05:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by sbg172002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try going to sex therapy, I think that is what its called!!! They can help you get your sex drive to an all time high, but you still could be tired from the surgery. Have you tried talking to your BF, he may understand.
2006-06-16 05:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by ***ROCKSTAR*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a night is a lot. However, each person's capacity is different. This is really a very difficult situation. Either breakup or adjust to each other.
2006-06-16 05:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go back to your doctor and ask if what you are experiencing is normal. The doctor may have suggestions as to what may help you.
Has your boyfriend always had this appetite, or is it just recently?
2006-06-16 05:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Granny1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your drive is low b/c of the surgery. You are afraid of something wrong happening. May want to toughen up and go with anal.
2006-06-16 05:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aphrodisiac?
eat some oysters. lol
Good Luck
2006-06-16 05:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by codyb_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋