I am just realli nervous....i have no support....no baby father or my own.....idk if i want the baby?

Answer 1

I raised three kids on my own when their wonderful dad decided to leave for the thousandth time. I never one time had a dad in the delivery room with me. It was sad, but I will tell you this......that baby is all you have. It was meant for you to become a mother. Now what you have to do is hold your head up high and move on. You can make it. Dont worry about the dad.......I went back to school and Ive been a paramedic for 6 years now. Im in nursing school now and I am married to a great guy who accepted and loves my kids like they are his own. You can do the same thing. When love comes your way again, youll be stronger and you wont make the same mistake again. Learn from this. Im sure you are going to be a great mother!!!! Please try it.......God gave you a life inside of you, give it life.

Answer 2

Of course you can try to keep the baby. Do you have a job though where you could support it? Maybe you can ask friends or family to babysit for a reasonable cost so that you do not have to pay a lot. I understand that it will be very difficult but you will probably regret giving up the baby.

There area always people out there who try to help people who need it. You can also work part time (I am not sure where you are living now, but if it is with someone maybe you could stay there, if not maybe you could find someone like a friend to bunk with for the time being.)

Also, try to get child support from the father because it took two of you to create the child so he should help out, if not be part of the child's life.

Good luck, and know there are people that care and want to help.

Answer 3

First of all, you didn't "mess up". People that say you messed up are saying that they were a messed up mistake when they were born.

In one sentence, a child is a lot of work and requires an adult alertness to their well being and requires a lot of responsiblility, but if you can step it up and get your head together a child can bring the highest joys. Being a parent is a totaly different style of life than not having kids. Your friends will becomes like aliens (well atleast for me they did) because you'll have nothing in common with them. Will they still be your friends when you can't go to the mall, or you can't go here or there because u don't have a babysitter? You'll find out who your "real" friends are. Anyway a lot of us had babies when we were babies and had to adapt quick to become good parents. It's all a learning process, all u can do is try. that one girl is right keep your head up, you can do it if you want. There's adoption, but believe me once you know your 2 year old or 4 year old child, you'll never want to trade them in for ANYTHING.

And shame on u people just talking down to a confused girl who's just asking 4 help. You're really making the world a better place.

Answer 4

i end up answering in the previous question..
i felt that the father was not around .. hope u have understood the lesson in this .. to not let ppl use u and protect u'rself so that these things don't happen...
sorry not something that u want to hear now...
if u don't want the baby ..try 4 adoption... right now... don't make it wait too long and end up getting close to your child...
there is nothing wrong with getting close to the child but somehow (as u have wrote it ) i think there is the problem of support.. if u can try to keep the baby...
but if REALLY cannot then u give the baby 4 adoption..
good luck with whatever decision u make...
try to take a decision which u feel is best 4 ur child

Answer 5

Okay, Your pregnant and confussed right now. I know how you feel believe me I do. I once was in your shoes. I am a 21 year old mother of a 2 year old son. When I found out I was pregnant, I cried and cried. The difference is I did have the father in my life. But here is the funny part me and him is no longer together. I can tell you during my pregnancy I was depressed and was sad and moody but after I held my son and felt his little hand grasp mine I knew i could never do anything to hurt him. You have to take responsibility for your actions yuo may not have anyone around to help you so you think but you always have God. God wont put you through things in life that you cant handle. It's time to grow up and be that great mother I know you can be. And again, your not alone I am here for you I dont know you but I am always willing to help anyone My email address is [e-mail] and I am available everyday. Don't be afraid to contact me. Be strong and please dont resort to an abortion a innocent child should never pay for someone else wrong doings. Have a lovely day.

Answer 6

First of all every mother is nervous when having a baby once you have it remember its for life, with regards to not having no support i take it you mean family support , but there is other support you can get out there such as single mother and baby groups dont be afraid to ask for help, but at the end of the day the decision is yours, just remember you are not just having the baby for your baby father its also apart of you, talk to ie your family doctor and get the best advice you can on this, and the most important thing is to do what is right for you, but dont make rash decisions based soley on having no baby father around. good luck

Answer 7

However it happened is irrelevant. Keep your baby and be a mom. You'll never regret that decision, I can guarantee that. God did a beautiful thing in you and you don't need to be ashamed to be pregnant. I think the biggest crisis is how alot of people don't see that a baby doesn't ruin your life or take away your chances for a career. Being a mommy is the most beautiful thing that can happen to you as a woman. Think of it this way, whatever you did to become pregnant - we'll WOW that's God's grace that he gave you a healthy pregnancy. You can find help. I don't know where you live but Care Net is an awesome organization and they can point you in the right direction. You'll never regret keeping baby.

Answer 8

Consider adopting the baby to a family that can raise the child the way it needs to be. Here's my story.

I was raped when I was 19 and I got pregnant from it. It was the scariest time in my life. I was afraid of what my parents would think and afraid of what other people would think. However, I was adopted myself and I knew what it felt like to be loved from even before you were born. I had the baby and my parents ended up adopting him. He is the smartest, cutest little boy I have ever seen. So full of love and joy and laughter and hugs and kisses! He'll be 2 on Monday. It was the best choice I ever made.

Answer 9

Well, I am 6 months pregnant, husband left me for another woman when I was 9 weeks pregnant he isn't paying a dime or has anything to do with me because it makes him feel guilty and I have a 9 and 11 year old from my first marriage and I don't know what the future holds but you have to pick yourself up and move on. I like to think that this has made me stronger. Yeah I have bad days but, I focus on my children. My mom always told me that God doesn't give you anything more than you can handle and you just have to keep that in mind.

If it is absolutely something you can't do on your own, there are lots of other women who can't have children that would love to be able to adopt. Good Luck

Answer 10

I know it's difficult and unlike these idiots I don't judge you, you made a mistake, but now you can do something about it. If you absolutely have no support, get help from the government, have the baby and give it up for adoption. If you don't want to go through that then drop him off at a firestation, church, police station, somewhere safe and make sure that someone finds him. Please don't make the mistake of abandoning it somewhere else, also don't risk an abortion, especially if you're more that 5 months, it could kill you.