My new boyfriend thinks since he is not as educated as I am. That I am too good for Him and does not want to take me seriously. I try to make him see differently but he still is not convinced. He thinks I just want to play him and dump him. I find this discouraging as I find myself drifting back to my ex. We broke up because he cheated but he claimed he did it just to gain favor or support from the girl. He sends me text and begs for reconciliation and I findout that I cannot stay without thinking of him. I find myself everyday drifting back. Please I need an advice am tearing apart.
2006-06-16 05:12:25 · 6 answers · asked by Precious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about your ex. Focus on your current BF. Explain to him that what he thinks is not true. That you are not just playing around on him. Then if he still doesn't believe in you, tell him to grow up!
2006-06-16 05:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by athame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Interesting. Here's the best advice I can offer. First and foremost, you need to decide exactly where you are, as far as your relationship with your ex is concerned. If you want to resume things with him, then don't continue to string along the new boyfriend...it's not fair to him, and he will be right about the "playing and dumping him" statement.
I fear that this new guy, for you, is just the "rebound boyfriend" and is doomed, and it's a shame, because you are better off with him than the ex. The "education" thing is just an excuse. Since you are now getting signals from the ex, you want to go back to what you were comfortable with.
Here's what you need to ask yourself: "What's changed now that makes me think this cheating won't be a problem anymore?" Answer: It WILL be. The lame "gaining favor" excuse you got means that the girl he cheated with dumped him, and magically now he wants back with you...translation- he needs someone, you're better than nothing, and when someone better comes along, you'll be out again.
My advice...put the ex in your rear view mirror, pursue things with the new guy, and try to convince him that you take him seriously. The education thing is immaterial...
Hope this helped.
2006-06-16 12:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you decide to go back to that previous relationship make sure you look at the relationship how it really was. A lot of times when you look back on old relationships, especially if it just ended, you tend to only remember the good things. Try to look back and remember all the horrible things that occurred and how bad they made you feel. Also, remember how you felt when you both broke up. Though it sounds weird, it works. It helps you put the relationship into perspective and you're able to see if the relationship is really worth saving.
2006-06-16 13:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by ICUD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to follow what is in your heart. My ex and I cheated on each other and we still find ourselves in each others arms at times. Sometimes true love needs a break and then you realize that's where you belong. Follow your heart. If the new guy can't handle things then.... try to work things out with your ex or maybe just let them both go and see which one is more important to you. You will know what to do in time.
2006-06-16 12:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by tndixiegurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur ex is not the one for u.he didnt understnd u.so its better u forget him.are u sure he wnt do the same thing again.so just forget it.he might beg u for a few days but after tht he will be seein another gal.and about ur present guy dnt come to a conclusion too soon.take time and thnk whthr u like him realy,cos it is ur life.if u do make him understnd tht.ok its ur life n only u can live it.be happy.
2006-06-16 12:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by daisydee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel!
2006-06-16 12:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋