There is a cute girl at work who I think likes me. The thing is we are very opposite. She is very outgoing, talks to everyone, has a lot of friends, goes to parties and clubs, and does all things that a dork/loser like me would not normally do. I don't have a lot of friends, I mostly work and then stay at home after work and on off days, I don't go clubbing, going out for me basically means going to the movies or accompanying my mom to the groceries (Yes, I live with my parents but it is because we're immigrants who bought a house and trying to survive here in America altogether supporting each other) and I am not outgoing. When I first met her, I thought that we could really hit it off since I thought she was like me. But when I found out that she is very outgoing (through her blogs), it made me step back a little. So, do I have to change in order to be with her?? It sucks to be me sometimes. Any advice?
2006-06-16 04:50:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be yourself, be true and tell no lies. If she likes you for who you are then great, but if not then who cares? She's not the only fish in the great big sea. Just go up to her and say this, "Listen, Do you like me enough to go on a date with me?" and if she says, "No." then you say, "Because I just bet (co-worker name) $20.00 dollars that you would say, "No!" Thanks, I just made $20 off your @ss and I'm not even a pimp! And if she says "Yes" then ask what time should I pick you up this Friday/Sat.?
2006-06-16 05:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, give yourself some credit. You sound like a well rounded guy who knows what he likes in life but you seem to have no self confidence. Try to be a little more open minded and start trying new things. This girl may or may not be right for you but if you try new things in life, and doors may begin to open up for you.
2006-06-16 06:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just becuase you are different doesn't mean it won't work. My wife and I are very different but complement each other very well. Maybe you will too. But it will take a little bit of compromise (but hopefully not haveing to change who you are.)
Go for it. What do you have to loose? Worst case? You've got a new life experience. Best case? Maybe you meet your soul mate.
Good luck.
2006-06-16 04:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by ksjazzguitar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a chance. Maybe you like her interests, too, and hadn't given it much thought yet. You don't have to change; you just have to explore. There's more to this life than being stuck in a box of your own making. And if in case you really do like her (or even love her), don't you think she's worth the risk? Peace.
2006-06-16 05:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by professor x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't change. Just be yourself, what if you try being different and you f*uck up when had you been yourself she would have liked you?
We all put our heart on the line, some times i pays off and other times it doesn. Just be honest and yourself. She couldn't ask for more than that and if she does then she doesn't seem worth it
2006-06-16 04:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by Christian S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, you are only a "dork/loser" if you say you are. Be yourself, but if you can discover courage in yourself, you've found out she is really worth it. So go for her, but don't put yourself down, because that only makes you scared.
2006-06-16 04:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no need to change. youve heard that opposites attract right? just b/c your not like her dosent mean a thing, cause personally, i like the quiet guy, but i`m not so quiet. so just be yourself, but get up the guts to ask her out. I mean, even if she rejects you *i wouldnt* just move on, theres a girl out there just for you, even if it isnt her
hope i helped
2006-06-16 04:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by jesus_freak_forever3days2grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont change to go out with someone ive made that mistake and it sucked talk to her and see what she has to say if its true you wont be the shy guy anymore
2006-06-16 04:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out to a club or something, do it with her
2006-06-16 04:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. you ALWAYS have a chance with anyone you want. just go for it. She wont say no.
2006-06-16 04:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋