I am 18 and currently live in Mooresville,NC!! I have an AMAZING bf whom I love very much!! problem is...I am going to USC in the fall and we are only going to be able to see each other on holidays,vacations,ect... My bf proposed to me last night and of course I said yes! my parents and his parents are doing what ever they can to break us up!! can anyone help me?!?!?! he also told me we could run away and get married but idk if thats such a good idea!
2006-06-16 04:35:33 · 27 answers · asked by NC_baby_gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am NOT going to throw my education away!! I am going to college to become a dr. and he already has a career so yea!
2006-06-16 04:41:57 · update #1
no my parents are not funding me!! I have got scholorships in sports and academics!
2006-06-16 04:44:57 · update #2
Call the marriage off . College has alot of opportunities to meet people. Of course if you have invested many years into this relationship then it might be a different story. If you have dated this man for a year or less then call it off.
2006-06-16 04:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Agent E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for you to marry your boyfriend just because you're going away to college.
That said, it doesn't mean you have to break up. If you're truly meant to be together permanently, then your relationship can survive the distance. After all, look at the many couples whose relationships survive military deployment or other seperations.
If you have doubts about running away to get married, then its obviously NOT a good idea.
I was in a similar situation when I was younger, my boyfriend proposed to me not because we were ready to get married, but as a way of KEEPING me, because he was insecure. What a terrible reason to make such an important commitment! Thank goodness I didn't marry him, that's all I can say!
Anyway, there is just no reason to get married right now. If it makes you both feel better, you could just tell your bf (and parents) that you're planning a LONG engagment, and will not get married until you graduated from college.
If for some reason it doesn't work out (and at 18, there are a lot of those reasons), then ending an engagement is much, much better than the expense and agony of filing for divorce.
2006-06-16 11:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Marjorie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea definitely. Don't run away. You may be going far and being apart from each other is difficult. But think about it, you might seldom see each other but at least you can see him at all! I find getting married that early is not really a good age to start but I'm not going to interfere with it.
I just want to let you know that your parents n his are trying to do what's best for you but you have to understand too that you've got to study 1st and marry later. Why rush? You still have a whole year ahead of you.
Your parents might try to break you guys up but don't worry, as long as you're both in love then nothing can stop that. Explain to them about how you feel and what are your plans. Communicate with them and understand each other.
Congratulations on your proposal though!
2006-06-16 11:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by IdOlIsTiC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your best bet is to just wait on everything. If your love is as strong as it sounds then you guys will have no problems being happy and spending each and every holiday together. If you run away and get married then go back to school things might change. Though it might not seem like it, this is the true test for your guys' love, if you can go to school in USC and still be faithful and true to your man and him also, then your love is meant to be and you guys will remain happy forever. If it doesn't then you know that it would have never worked out even if you would have ran away and got married because remember one thing, everything happens for a reason! Good Luck!
2006-06-16 11:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18 and heading to college..is that USC the one in South Carolina or the Southern California one? I think it's a little early to be getting engaged/married, especially considering you have an awesome 4 years ahead of you. I don't think it's a problem to be in a relationship entering college, but even that requires work. Now add in the fact that you said you won't see him very often, that requires even more work and a ton of trust. While I think being with someone you love is important I think there are a lot of obstacles yet to overcome, and of course I think engaged at 18 is a little young, and doing so before college might make things more stressful...just my opinion
2006-06-16 11:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by SKully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is paying for your education? If it's your parents, you may have a problem there. Also, him telling you to run away and get married is pretty immature.
Marriages at your age generally do not work out. You may love him to pieces, but you need to do what is best, for both of you. Postpone the wedding, go to USC. If he wants to be with you that badly, let move to California and be close by. Your parents and his are 100% right.
2006-06-16 11:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd seriously consider waiting until you're done with college before you get married. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being engaged, but keep in mind that you're going to be meeting alot of new people at school. The fact that he seems to want to rush and do it makes me a little worried that he wants to keep a leash on you and control you. Just take your time and don't rush into anything.
2006-06-16 11:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by My name is not Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of parents are they? TELL THEM FACE TO FACE YOU LOVE HIM AND IF THEY REALLY LOVED YOU THEY WOULD SUPPORT YOUR DECISION!
Don't run away... it's not worth it to suffer at such a young age. But you see, from what i've heard, parents think that 18 is too young. 18 is too young... but still love is love and if you really love him and he really love you then it's okay. And try to get him to send you an email daily or you guys could chat with a webcan XD
2006-06-16 11:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by silvs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18, sweetie, the only thing I can tell you, if you really love him and he really loves you, everything real work out. This is going to be a really big trial for you two to see how deep is the love for you two. You may want to explore other men, or he might want to explore other women. But don't worry LOVE 5 conqueras all
2006-06-16 11:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by dqchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been ther sweet heart. I wish i would have just told my parents to stand behind me if they love me. Because of my parents and his we ended up breaking off the wedding 2 weeks before becaus ewe couldnt handle it. It is like our families are now friends. They love thwe fact that we are not togehter. But i love him so much and he tells me he loves me but we could not withstand this parent thing. we finally stood up to our parents and we will get married we are adults and love achother. Our parents neeed to relize that we did not help pick who they married. The whole school thing. You can go to school anywhere and if you are married it will all work out. Just follow what your heart says.
Good luck.
2006-06-16 11:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by chantell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋