2006-06-16 03:57:21 · 9 answers · asked by Itiswhatitis 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Which is better active duty or reserves? How long would he be gone? Benefits?
2006-06-16 04:46:43 · update #1
expect the worst, hope for the best! Military is both physically and mentally exhasting. Be supportive and help your guy out when you can, is the best you can do. And be strong, they teach there men to marry a strong women, cuz if your not strong you won't last. Tell him you love him and show it, it will help him get though!
2006-06-16 04:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did 4 years active duty in the Marine Corps. I am a reservist now. If you don't want him to deploy ask him to join the Active Reserves. They are like your typical active duty person working full time on base. The difference is they NEVER deploy. The pay is the same as an active duty guy and benifits are all the same.
Simply being a weekend warrior is going to be hard money wise. Oh and an AR might have to change bases once every 3 years. This is not always true. It depends on if he is needed where he is.
Does this help?
2006-06-16 11:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by WDubsW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should probably plan for a deployment. I don't think it matters at this point if he is guards, reserves, or on active duty. If they want you they will take you. My husband is on his second deployment since I met him 3 years ago. He is in the national guard. Deployments are difficult to deal with but you just have to be strong. As far as benefits..he will have health and life insurance. But as a girlfriend you won't have any. If you aren't married they don't usually acknowledge you even. Times will be hard but you'll get through it. If it's really something he wants then this is a good chance to show him how much you love him by supporting him in his decision.
2006-06-16 20:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by SSG wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.. I am in the National Guard.. I am currently deployed to Iraq.. I went to basic and AIT came home 1 month and got my a$$ deployed to Iraq.. The fastest way to get deployed is in the reserves or Guard.. What to expect.. More than likely he will be deployed.. I know it sounds bad but the upside to it is that the military has a lot of advantages.. He can go to college plus his military skills will help towards a good paying job on the civilian side.. I enjoy the military..
2006-06-16 11:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Butterfly-
I can give you some insight from a personal observation. My neighbor (female) is in the Air Reserves. She has been to Iraq & back 3 times!!! - about 8mos each tour. A co-worker of my Hubby is in the reserves & got called up about 2 months ago...now in Iraq. A few of my neighbours' troops came back with some nasty symtoms (simular to MS). Strange thing is that my husband was in the Army. We were stationed in N. Germany. At a healthy +40, 2 years ago aquirred MS. He is now in a wheelchair with eyesight waining. I will keep my opinions of the "WAR" to myself.
2006-06-16 11:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by Gleep Glopp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's the Army Reserve, say your goodbyes right now. There is no question where he's going. Army TDY's (temporary duties) can last up to and over a year. Then again, it all depends on his type of job. If it's a combat soldier, once again say goodbye.
2006-06-16 11:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Juan232 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deployments are on the rise. Reserves and Guard are the ones that usually go first. However, active duty deployments are right up there now.
2006-06-16 17:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by mrsstephaniekay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the branch of service, but in general I would expect rough times. I can speak from Marine Corps experience and tell you that he will undoubtedly change. Be fair and don't expect too much from him while he is in training. Most of his attention and focus will need to be put into basic training and MOS school. Don't try to hold him back. This might cause him to resent you or even ditch you. I did it to mine. Support him and send letters, lots of letters while he is in basic training.
Encourage him to get all pertinent information before he makes his decision. He shouldn't trust the recruiters. Tell him to get a second and third opinion from people who have done it. And he needs to make sure he knows exactly what his MOS is before he signs the papers.
Best of luck to you both.
2006-06-16 15:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by DS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex-boyfriend.
2006-06-16 11:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by fast f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will turn bi-sexual soon..!!
2006-06-16 10:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by noms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋