You need to break it off immediately. This poor guy deserves someone who will be faithful to him and someone who WANTS to marry him. If this is how you're feeling, don't marry him. It's easier to breakup than to get a divorce.
2006-06-16 03:46:05
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answered by SuperJenn 4
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You should *seriously* talk to your boyfriend. You don't have to get married, no matter how far you have already gone in the process. Yes, when you look at your contracts and realize how much money you owe it might be scary, but it would be much worse to go through with the wedding (and yes, you will probably have to return presents), be unhappy, continue to cheat on him and then get a divorce.
Also, realize the person you are cheating with your boyfriend with does not respect relationships either and you should not stay with him either. If the person you are cheating with realizes you are in a relationship, they probably would not be a good person to have a relationship with.
Before you consider marriage again, realize how serious it really is. You are making a decision that affects the rest of your life because from that point on you will be married to that person, or after you get a divorce that person is no longer just an ex-boyfriend but an ex-husband. You will carry that with you forever. If you guys happen to have any kids in the process it will hurt them a lot too (speaking from experience, my parents are divorced).
It is a serious committment and you should think about it long and hard before you jump in. Listen to the responses other people have given about what marriage means, read up on it, learn about it and maybe the next time you consider marriage you will feel better about making that kind of committment.
Overall: End the torture. Let him and yourself go and don't get married. You, and your fiance, are much better off if you don't get married.
2006-06-16 04:01:19
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answered by Vanessa G 1
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If you want to spend the money on a wedding and then even more money on a divorce, then by all means... stick with it and get married. Just remember the average litigated divorce costs about $17,000.
Now, the smart thing to do would be to tell him that you don't feel the same way about him, call off the wedding and find someone you are happy with. That way he's not miserable, you're not miserable and you both save a bunch of money on legal fees.
2006-06-16 04:22:07
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answered by My name is not Rick 3
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You need to tell this man that you have changed your mind and do not wish to marry him. You don't have to break his heart any more by telling him you've been cheating or even that you don't love him any more. Just tell him you've decided that you don't want to get married right now and that you want to see other people. Just don't be cruel about it! And certainly DO NOT get married to someone you don't love or just because the wedding plans are already in motion....you will not be doing either of you a favor.
2006-06-16 04:59:53
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answered by Dr. Jules 2
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It became 1945 and WW2 became over, my dad met my mom at artwork, as quickly as he got here out of the army. They dated for a 12 months and a 0.5 and have been given married September 1947. I asked her this very component many circumstances while i became a newborn, she says there by no ability became a suited notion. they only assumed they might get married. they only the two knew it. He gave her the little diamond engagement ring, and that they've been given married in a civil ceremony with my dad's sister and her boyfriend because of the fact the only travellers and witnesses. Epilogue: I got here alongside 8 years later, the only newborn. They have been married almost 40 two years til my dad died in 1989.
2016-12-08 09:41:44
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answered by ? 4
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Why would you marry someone that you don't love anymore? Are you so dysfunctional that you don't know whats the right thigh to do?
Even an 8 year old wold tell you to NOT go trough with the wedding and to dump the person that you are having the affair with.
2006-06-16 03:48:53
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answered by bootsigirl 2
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Back out now. I was engaged and realized that I wasn't in love him, so I ended it. It was a huge pain because we had nonrefundable deposits and lots of arguments about who owed who money. Looking back, it was the best decision I could have ever made. While it was horrible for the first month or so, I can't even imagine how unhappy I would have been. Trust me on this. It isn't worth it.
2006-06-16 03:52:36
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answered by mine 3
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First of all, I think at this point, you need to call off the wedding. If you don't love him like you used to, you probably will never love him that way again.
If you think you may still have feelings of love for him, seek premarital counseling. But I suggest you do this if you and him are both serious about working issues out, not just one.
Good luck!!
2006-06-16 03:57:48
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answered by prettycute4u62040 4
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Ok you need to tell him and break it off. Think of it this way, if you keep this up and actually go through with it then you arn't going to be happy and after spending thousands of dollars on a wedding and getting all of the gifts then you will end up just wanting to get a devorce right after it's all over and the excitement dies down. Then you'll have to spend more money on lawyers and papers and to send all of the gifts back to your guests. You need to be truthful to him and yourself!
2006-06-16 04:16:02
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answered by crazy_daisy1982 1
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dont get married! If you dont love him. You have to have respect for yoursef! Marriage is a commitment that you have to have respect for, if you get married and then later divorced, it will be hard to get married again, cuz the next one will wonder if you mean it or not, and so will you! And the Bible describes it as a union that joins two flesh as one, and the only thing he will allow to break that bond is death or unfaithfulness. so unless your willing to degrade yourself and cheat, or kill him, your really stuck with him until the end! its marriage people, not dating.
2006-06-16 03:56:40
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answered by Blonda 4
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