and the child pulls the " You did the sam thing when you were my age" card?????
2006-06-16 03:30:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes...but you typically get a tantrum.
2006-06-16 03:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your child of all the constructive/self-improving/career advancing things you just wish you would of done when u were that age. Let him/her know that you know he/she is human and you know how it is to face temptation, and how more likely you were to fall for it at his/her age.
Take a look at it if it were a friends' child doing this, this may give you an idea of what you would think of not having a "tough" bias since this kid is your child.
I tell my nephew of all the music related stuff i should of done instead of doing drugs and hanging out. I say, "imagine where i would be right now if i would of focused my energy on my music career instead of farting off" he sees the situation and realizes my point. Not a miracle fix, but I'm sure I helped my nephew in some way.
2006-06-16 08:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang on,... if the kid is smart enough to even concieve of pulling that card, he/she is old enough to know that just because he wants soemthing, he/she wont necessarily have it. Also, dont get started with the whole, u'll only get wat u want if u get good marks or something. That'll jsut get him initiated into the whole rat race that most of us are stuck in.
Basically, just explain to him that most things have a certain value which is why they are bought. And other things are just bling. Explain that if something has value or will go toward making a happier, healthier, well rounded person, he'll get it for sure,.. but otherwise, he'll jsut have to wait till hes old enough to earn for himslef. (for example, i want a superbike, but that aint gonna happen is it? lol)
Above all,....make sure u maintain control because u are the parent and the child is the child. A child does not need a friend as much as he needs a guide to help him to get adjusted to the world.
Gud luck.
Peace out.
2006-06-16 03:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by louzadodude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does work as long as you can give her valid reasons why she is not allowed to do something. You tell her that you may have done the same thing when you were at her age but you experienced something not favorable so you`re afraid she may encounter it too. Instead give her some options and make her choose what best interests her. I think there is nothing wrong in telling our kids what are fears are for them.
2006-06-16 06:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by yammetcebu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should work ! How can the child know that the parent did the same thing when he was at same age of childhood ? It is misconduct of the child by saying so !
2006-06-16 03:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother used to pull the "you let sis do it when she was my age" card. My mom just used to tell him "your sister was a lot more mature than you!!" If my kids try that, I will tell them times have changed, and I AM THE MOM!
2006-06-16 03:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by momx4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is you are the momma. Dont let no child who dont pay rent, pay for food etc tell you how things are going to be. Please .....I have 14 yrs old twins and they may try it but it dont work. Im about to have my last little girl and trust me she will not run over me. Put your foot down or Woop that ***.
2006-06-16 03:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by dark_lipps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you (parent) say maybe I did but that was me and you are you and when you grow up you can say the same thing to your child NO!!!
2006-06-16 03:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by lindiloowazup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times but if u want 2 u can say things were diff when i did them but i usually dont work at my house
2006-06-23 01:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweettart1325 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wont work for my son and it didnt work on my mom when i was a kid
2006-06-16 03:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋