What do you do when you get to your invitation list and there are people you don't want to invite?

Question

I don't want to invite my mom because she is embarrassing....We all know how that can be. I mean she is REALLY embarrassing.

Answer 1

Unfortunately it is kind of hard to not invite your mother since she is exactly that, your mother. Friends/aquaintances and far out relatives (aunt's cousin's step-father) are easier to not invite.

Answer 2

Not inviting your mother to your wedding may cast a shadow in terms of how other people think about you.

In between my fiance's mom and his sister I am sure they are probably much more embarrassing than your mother is by herself. Believe me. No seriously.

But a wedding is supposed to be something that brings people together and is an opportunity for your own personal community to tell you how they feel right before you get married and start your life together. I am sure your mother would feel very hurt if she was left out.

There are also 2 things I'd like to add that should make you feel better about inviting her. You would gain her support and expertise on that day. Chances are, if you give her a special job, you can help her find what to wear that will go with your theme (so she won't wear anything embarrassing), give her a special job that she can take care of (so she won't do anything especially embarrassing because she will be concentrating on her special task) and you can probably get more out of involving her than excluding her.

Do not forget that it is your dad and people will be asking you a million questions before it happens and on that day you will be in such a rush that almost nothing could take your joy away. You will be much too busy with getting ready, taking pictures, dancing and having a wonderful time to let your mom embarrass you too much. By the time you slow down, you'll be on your way to your honeymoon.

Good luck with your planning.

Answer 3

Your guest list should NEVER give clues to who you are or aren't getting along with at the moment, especially it shouldn't be telling the world that there are problems between family members. Here is how you handle guests that you suspect may cause problems. Assign some trusted person or persons to stay with or near your mom to "to keep an eye on her". If she gets out of hand, these people insist that she "go outside for a little fresh air" until she "feels better."

Answer 4

I think to some extent everyone is embarrassed of their parents. I think it would be in your best interest to talk to her, telling her exactly what she does that embarrasses you. For example, if it is the way she dresses, tell her you would love to go shopping with her for the mother of the dress. By doing this, you both will be happy in the decision. You will be able to veto something that would perhaps look better on a teenager, and she will be able to veto something ultra conservative.

Best of luck to you and congrats!

Answer 5

Are you that concerned about what other people think, that you don't want to invite your mother to your wedding. I could see if she was a murderer, abuser, etc. But you simply said she was embarrassing. Not allowing her to share such a momentous occasion with you sounds pretty harsh.

Answer 6

I'd say suck it up and get over it and invite everyone, and if you're truly worried have a talk with that person. If you really dont want certain people there, I'd suggest a small prive ceremony. But dont expect many gifts either.

Answer 7

Well say mom i'm having a *party as you know* (exclude if she doesn't know) *And i would like to invite you*(exclude if you dont want to) But you can make me feel very uncomfortable at my parties you embarrass me and i dont like that feeling ****I would love to invite you, if you dont embaress me*** (list things she does nd exclusde if you dont wnt her to come)

Answer 8

concentrate on your daynotthe hate and nothing feels better than letting people see that they did not stop your happiness

Answer 9

Hey shes ur mom...live with it