i need HELP !!!!!! someone please HELP me NOW !!!!!!!!1?

Question

my mom got a new boyfriend and now she doesnt spend anytime with me and ignores me she acts like i dont even exsist now my life is almost ruined and she sits right there in my face and kisses him i feel so left out and un loved someone please help help me me what should i do i feel like i have no one to turn to or no mom i beg u to help me your advise really matters to me at this time

Answer 1

go down and get some baby power and some food dye the brightest color you can find and turn the powder that color dress in all white the powder your self clothes and hair everything this one color. in a demanding way enter where your mom and new b/f are kissing and say in a firm voice mom I think we need to talk. I am sure she will give you some time to voice your concerns.

Answer 2

First of all calm down.

Your mom is a person too, and just as much as you at your age want someone to love and be in love with she does also. Just because she's your mom doesnt mean she isnt a woman.

You need to wait until you have some time alone with her and discuss how you feel. Make sure you're putting things into perspective.

It can be really hard as a teenager, or younger child, to have to suddenly share a single mom. before, you had all her time, all her attention. Now she has her attention on someone she is falling in love with. You have to allow her some room and grace to figure out how to be mom and girlfriend.

It doesnt mean that she loves you any less, it just means she learning again how to do both at the same time. Its not easy being a mom, especially a single mom, and even more so, a single mom of a teenager.

So, my biggest advice is for you to calm down, and realize that your mom still loves you. Wait until you have a moment alone with her and let her know that you want to talk with her about your relationship. Tell her that you feel ousted and rejected, and that you have to come in second to her new boyfriend. Let her know that it does bother you to see the two of them affectionate with eachother.

And then you need to sit yourself down and see if you can find a place in you that understands a little about her and her situation. Being a mom with no one to love you is a very lonely scary place. Imagine if you were her. And then imagine if you were her and you met someone you thought you could love.

Your mom will do the right thing and find ways to help you through the process of her having a boyfriend, and still being mom to you.

If you still feel that things arent going right, you can go to your teacher, or principal, they will be able to set you up with a counselor at the school to help you through this time in your life.

Answer 3

You need to have a long talk with your mom alone, without anyone else in the room. Tell her how you feel and what it looks like from your point of view. Try to stay calm, and don't yell. She is way more likely to listen to you if your voice is calm and quiet. Also listen to what she has to say. Don't storm off or anything, even if she makes you mad. Sit there and talk to her calmly until you are sure she understands how you feel. Ask her what she will do to make you feel more comfortable. Don't expect her to break up with him because of this, but do expect her to be more considerate of your feelings by not kissing him in front of you and spending more time with you. Maybe you can make a date each week for the two of you to do something fun together without him so you can talk to her and she can be just your mom that day.

Answer 4

Try not to think about it and move on with your life. My mom pretty much did the same thing. She was with my dad, left him for my stepdad when I was 8. Well, now that I'm 22, she left my stepdad and married another guy. Now she is always around this new guy and never has any time for me. She moved in with him and the house I grew up in is empty. I asked her if me and my man sold our house, if we could live there until we could find somewhere else to live. She told me no. She doesn't care if I have no where to go. I'm just going to ignore her and move on. I do know where you're coming from though feeling like you have no one. My mom and I used to be VERY close. I'm her youngest and My brother lived at home until he was 25, my sister moved out and came home up until last year (she's 29), but my mom won't help me at all. If you need someone to talk to, E-mail me.

Answer 5

look dont worry about it. you mom is still there, you can stil turn to her if you need something. like you said its a new bf so give it some time and things could work themselves out. or even better, tell you mom how you feel. i highly doubt she can read minds so if you let her know hopfully shell change and spend some more time with you. i dont know the whole history behind your mom but im assuming she hasnt dated in a while so she is excited to get back out there again and if she has been dating then maybe she sees somehting in this guy and really wants to persue it. but the best thing to do is to just let her know how you feel. just like relationships, families also need to communicate

god luck

Answer 6

you need to get a little maturity. Your mom is happy. It sounds to me like your just jealous and it's probably not near as bad as you say. Communication is the best key here. Talk to her, but it would be awful selfish of you to demand she get rid of the BF. How would you feel if you got a BF and she said oh i feel left out, i don't like him, he takes you away from me. Dump him and go back to devoting your time 24/7 to me? You would be ANGRY!!! and on here saying she is ruining your life. Get perspective, give her a break and talk to her about that you are feeling left out, maybe the 3 of you can do something together.

Answer 7

well hun, first you need to talk to her about it. if she is in the first stage of "love" shes going to be totally clueless about how you are feeling. it's not right but love is blind! she probabley doesn't realize you are feeling left out and alone. go talk to her, try not to get angry but just say how you are hurt over this. ask her if the two of you can just spend sometime together. if that doesn't work then write her a little letter and don't be mean about it either. you will see when you experience "love" that nothing else in world is seen to you. it just happens to people they get caught up in the whole feeling of it. sorry sweetie you feel this way, she still loves you.

Answer 8

I think you should tell your mom that you need to talk to her. Sit down with just her and explain to her how you feel. It will be okay. Your mom's boyfriend is not replacing you. No one can ever replace a child. Promise! Try the talk and see how it goes. Just make sure you are honest with her about how you feel. Good luck!

Answer 9

Talk to her. My dad is doing the same thing with his new girlfriend. Just talk to your mom and see what she says. tell her how you feel about it. How you feel about your mom and him kissing and hugging in front of you. The best way to talk to her would be to offer to take her out to dinner, an talk to her there. It really helps.

Hope this helps you with your mom.

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Answer 10

Your mom is human. She has normal needs and a right to be happy and a right to spend time with a significant other. She probably doesn't realize that you feel neglected because she's enjoying herself. In my opinion, you should try to be happy for her and realize you won't be replaced and you're not unloved.