my sister is a compulsive liar....?

Question

my sister is a compulsive liar. she lies about things she does'nt even need to like taking the dog out. she never changes. what can i do to make her see how much its hurting my family? ive tried telling her straight out but it hasnt worked.

Answer 1

It's more than just a habit, it's a sickness. She'll probably need some professional help to stop.

Answer 2

My sister is a possible pathological liar, what steps can I follow to address this & resolve it?

Q. My sister is always lying about the smallest matter. I need to know how I can remedy this disorder? I am at ends wits as the whole family is suffering and we’re ready to disown her so that she can learn what the real world is all about woithout us being her safety net. Now how can we derive to the conclusion that she suffers from this illness and what realistic steps can we as a family follow to save her life. She has one child and another on the way and is only 23 years old. She is clearly not mentally syable to be on her own and I’m aware that we are spoiling her but is harshness a form of cure. She will not be willing o go for counselling and anyway I as her older sister have no more financial resources available to aid her. Please help us!!!

A. This is a very good situation for family counseling. Even if your sister does not want to go with the family, the therapist can help you with techniques to deal with your sister. Remember everything you do will have an impact on your sister. Your efforts might help but they also might hurt her. It is the greatest responsibility that you act in the capacity of counselor or therapist. Are you sure that you are qualified? Will you be able to accept the hurt and responsibility if your actions hurt your sister? A few sessions with a family counselor will guide you with educated advice. I can not recommend you do anything without seeking such advice.

Answer 3

Start calling her out in public. If you catch her in a lie and you're in a group of people, just say "why would you say that? that's not even close to true!" The more she gets called on it, the more aprhensive she'll be to lie again (at least in front of the people who catch her for it). Tell her friends (if she has any, most people get sick of the lies, and leave) to do the same. Tell them she has a compulsive order that needs to be controled and your family needs help. It may seem mean to embarrass her like that, but she's embarrassing herself by lying. Imagine what people say about her behind her back...and ask yourself 'would I rather embarrass her for a couple weeks until she gets the picture and stops lying, or should I let her continue to embarrass herself for the rest of her life?' bosses won't take lightly to the lies, and she'll never find a boyfriend who'll stick around. This is serious and needs to be stopped asap! for her own good...
Trying asking her why she lies. if she doesn't give you an answer, ask her if it's because she thinks her life isn't cool enough, or if she feels she doesn't do enough exciting things to talk about. if that's the case, get her out more! do things she can talk about. everyone loves a great story, and maybe she feels compelled to make some up because she doesn't have any. just make sure she quits lying, if she ever wants to have any credability in her life. which if far more fulfilling than lying.
If you have to be mean to get her to stop, be mean. It's meaner to let her continue on that way and be considered a lying fool. Be strong! and consistant...and hopefully she'll be receptive to what your family and her friends are trying to do for her. hope this helps :)

Answer 4

my sister acts the same way- you can tell her until you are blue in the face and all it will do is cause an argument. If she refuses to acknowledge what she is doing she will just think you are trying to hassle her. My sis will not even talk to my mom anymore- she is the type who will not take responsibility for what she has done and tries to blame it on everyone else. I hope you can find something that will allow her to see how much she hurts everyone. Best of Luck!

Answer 5

I've meant someone like that before, I think it's an attention thing or maybe insecurity. She may grow out of it but maybe not! If she recognises she has a problem she could get counselling for it. God I hate people who lie! Good luck xx

Answer 6

OMGosh......so is my brother......... we have just reached the point where we either ignore him or we add to it .... like ... he will talk about things he did in vegas or somewhere and we will day no way really and did you see brad pitt ?? we just exaggerate to the point where he knows we are or we will make up the same story .... to show him how silly he sounds ... the other way I handle it is to just tell him to "stop it, that I don't want to hear anymore"

Answer 7

OK
1.start lying to her and see how she likes it.
2.ignor her and she'll come to her senses
3.ask her if she likes it when other people lie 2 her.if she dosent now she knows how other people feel
email me 4 any advice

Answer 8

I am sorry but that kind of behavior usually does not change on its own. You may try to get your parents to get counseling for her.

Answer 9

i know how you feel girly my sis is the same way...i hope one day both of our sisters grow up to help both our families....

Answer 10

TALK TO HER IN A NICE WAY...OR WRITE HER A LITTLE LETTER TO TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL BECAUSE SOMETIMES IT'S EASIER TO SAY IT IN WRITING... JUST TELL HER I FEEL ETC..EETC...I MEAN, SHES HURTING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.... MY SISTER'S KINDA IMMATURE LIKE THAT TOO.!!!