help!!!!!!!!!!!...me out of this serious problem?

Question

iam in graduation second year n my best frnd is in another class wen i was in first year i used to go to her or she used to come to me during breaks and free hours but now the problem is my first cousin has taken admission in my class n expects me to b wit her all the time.i dont want to hurt her but i also dont want her to b wit me wen my best frnd is around for the simple reason that i hav an informal frndship wit my best frnd n ill have to behave myself wen my cousin is around ie ( i cannot talk openly to my frnd wen she's der)wat do i do?

Answer 1

Maybe you could introduce your cousin to some people so she would have some other people to hang out with. I would think she would like to make some friends.

Answer 2

I'm not a wise man but I think U may try to make your cousin your friend. Then try to be a close friend. If your cousin will be your close friend then there may not be any problem hang out both of your best friend & your cousin.Before this at first talk to your best friend about your cousin.

Answer 3

First of all, you need to use the "check spelling" tool that Yahoo provides. Then you need to practice speaking your mind without being hurtful. This means you actually have to look in the mirror and say the words that you want to express to your cousin...like, "You won't mind if we have lunch/break alone, will you?... (this puts the pressure back on her)... We have some things to discuss in private." If she takes offense, it's her problem. You have communicated to her that you want to spend some time with your friend alone. Be true to yourself.

Answer 4

ur not alone. i felt that way, too, when i was in college. I don't feel at ease when i'm with my cousin. I don't enjoy coz i have to think of her if she's doing well. What i did was, introduce her to my friend and let her know indirectly that there are times and activities when she can't come along. It's difficult to explain how i managed her but i was able to get rid of her!

Answer 5

Let her know (in a nice way) that you already have friends established and that maybe she should do the same, meet new people make new friends. She might find that she doesn't need to be with you all of the time.

Answer 6

Where there is no trust there is really no love.

Can she trust you?

Tell everyone the truth. The truth always comes out.
And it is better to here it from you than someone else.

Also try to pray for self-control. Since you are weak in this area.

Answer 7

Tell your cousin to make new friends, tell her its for her so she'll have more friends not only hanging out with you.meanwhile tell your bestfren the situation and tell bfren also sometime you'll like to have your cousin with you.

Answer 8

Just because she's family, does not mean you have to hang with her all the time. Tell her like it is. Be honest. Tell her you have things to do alone, and you will catch up with her in a few days. If she's nosy, tell her its personal.

Answer 9

Give it a few weeks, sounds like you don't know her and she does not know you. You both will go you own ways after some time. Just have fun now, chill out, life is a dream. manifest destiny.

Answer 10

the purely component he's extreme about is entering into your pants stupid lady. Then he will dump you and bypass back to his committment...as he has in all likelihood executed many cases till now. i do not understand who's worse off...her for believing he loves her...or you for believing he loves you...they're both lies. talk is more cost effective...if he's extremely extreme have him get rid of the dedication till now you bypass any further.