My son has just turned 11 and has been wetting the bed several times a month?

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He has also been going on the carpeting in his room. He can't seem to tell me why he is doing this, but will acknowladge that does it on purpose. He is an otherwise pretty good boy. He does have ADHD and sees both a phychitrist and therapist, which we will be talking to about this. Does anyone have any idea as to what could be going on with him and how we can best handle this?

Oh good lord ihelp What a useless answer that was. Ok so I get it you don't like therapists. However, my son adores his and can talk to her easily he says she helps him alot. His father is very much involved....Whatever, you won't be getting my 10 points for best answer! BOO!

Answer 1

Ok first things first about the answer you got from ihelp try not to be to offended she has issues and needs a theripist. Be thankfull your son is not as messed up as she is emotionally. Know this children don't always behave in a way that makes sense to us. They have a different way of communicating problems. Children with ADHD have an extremly hard time expressing themselves with words. If it were me I would do my best to make sure he knows he can talk to you. Sometimes kids are scared of our reaction to what they have to say. That we will judge them for how they feel ( get angry,think its stupid,their wrong,) Kids are very tuned in to what their parents views are. They hear us even when we don't think they are listening. He may be afraid that you will not understand. be carefull of your body language when you talk to him also. Our facial expresstions say more than we think. I am speaking from experiance here. I would talk to him about any other issue first. Show him he can trust you with the little stuff. Then mabey he will open up more about the deeper problems. Also let him know that he has the right as a person to feel how ever he feels about anything that is what make him who he is and you love him because he is who he is.You may not agree with him all the time but that no one agrees all the time and thats ok. Do your best not to talk down to him. Make him feel like you do respect his feelings you just don't like his behavior. Hope this is more encourageing than some of the other answers you got before. God Bless!! Prayer never hurts either.

Answer 2

He may have some type of bladder infection or smaller bladder. Does he drink late at night, if so you may have to give him a cut off time, and change some to things he's drinking, the best thing for you to do is to contact his primary care doctor and let them run some test. My son who has also has ADD went through that and he's 13 now and has out grown it. But he too was 10/11 when he started. Things were changing for him, new school, new environment, Lil people get stressed out too. We show our doctor and he gave us some medicine that he took that actually keep him from wetting the bed. The best thing to do is talk to him, ask him what's going on in his life.

Answer 3

Maybe he doesn't like the therapists. I know I wouldn't! Sit down with him and ask him why he's doing it. Perhaps there's something he needs to tell you but doesn't know how. I would do that before telling his therapists. It could be that THEY are causing the problem. Where's the Dad in all this, by the way?

Get more then one opinion. I wouldn't put all my trust into the therapists. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't even take any family member of mine to a therapist. I've been to a couple myself because my mother made me go and they don't help anything...they just take your money.

The whole concept of having therapists for this and therapists for that is something I absolutely can't stand. What ever happened to talking to your family and getting help from family members who love and care for each other. Why go outside the core family to get advice from strangers and people who don't even live a clean and healthy lifestyle themselves? What ever happened to talking to your pastor or seeking God's Word for answers to your problems or your children's problems?

Bed wetting is something you can literally search for answers for yourself right on the Internet. Perhaps he is going through some type of puberty change. Why does everything have to be psycho-analyzed by strange doctors?

Kids will be kids. Teach him that it's improper to do what he's doing. Time to change your methods of correction perhaps. Get DAD involved!!!

In response to your additional comment: Do what you think best. I said what I had to say.

Answer 4

It seems to me that if your son is wetting on the floor on purpose, and you've reprimanded him for that behavior, and he cannot tell you why he's wetting the floor, there may be a problem with authority. How is he doing in school? If he has ADHD he could be doing poorly in school (lack of focus and concentration). If he is taking medication for his problem the medication could be causing him to act out in strange ways.

Definitely talk to the therapist about this matter, but not in front of your child. Call the therapist before his next session.

Answer 5

Have there been any significant changes in the household?

Has this been going on all his life or did this just start? If it just started I'd have to wonder what triggered it.

I read in a book by Louise Hay that when a kid wets the bed sometimes it's a way of expressing that s/he's "pissed off". Obviously I don't know your situation, but perhaps it's something to consider.

Answer 6

Some kids are just bed wetters. Don't shame him or make him feel bad. Just get him into a routine so he goes to bed every nite at the same time, and make sure he wee's before he goes. Try to not let him have anything to drink a couple hours before bed.
Put plastic sheets on the bed and buy plenty of laundry soap. Eventually he will stop and it will all be a memory.

Answer 7

I have had the same problem. I got my son to stop wetting the bed by not giving him drinks after 7pm. I also stopped my son from wetting himself by playing games with him. I got some fruit loops and placed them in the toilet. After words I told him to aim for them and watch them dunk under the water. After about two weeks he quit wetting the bed and wetting himself. I found this method to be very successful. I think that mental help is not necessary, because most doctors in that field like to use drugs to stimulate the mind. I have a kid that has A.D.D. and I found that if you keep his mind working you will not have to worry about the hyperactivity. Always be on alert for new things he might do for attention.

Answer 8

you say that he says that he is doing on purpose. humm.... i dont know exalty what to tell you other than he might think he is doing it on purpose but he is realy not, he may remember getting up to go, but then not making it all the way to the pottie, and so he goes on the carpet. i cant say any thing for sure, because i am not a doctor and i dont know him but if that was my little brother i would take him to a doctor, the therapist is a start but i would take him to a urolgest (I know i probably spelled that wrong but any way...) take him to a doctor that deals with wetting problems.

and i do agree that the "ihelp" did not "help" a bit. she needs to grow up and think about what she says before she opens her mouth.

Answer 9

I would have him checked for nutritional deficiencies. Look into getting him on a good omega 3 fish oil supplement. It can help kids with ADHD greatly. Also elliminated sugar and processed foods. If it is behavioural then seek help from a guided coucellor. Maybe he has had something happen that he is not willing to discuss with you. You do however have the ability to help him with nutrition which has a great impact on mental health. Good luck

Answer 10

My daughter did this last year when she was ten. They did all these tests for her and came back nothing. Ends up that she is just a really sound sleeper..Solution was to wake her up once during the night and limit the amount of drinks before bed. Daytime accidents were rare but because she was trying to hold it and too embrassed to ask when in school. That too was solved.