My sister insists on dating "losers and users" Nice men are attracted to her but she totally ignores them, I am always there for her during the pain of transaction of loser to loser. should I force a blind date with a decent man or just give up?
2006-06-16 02:49:42 · 19 answers · asked by KatGotHerTongue 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well my sister is married to a man i hate...he is a no good drunken ************* ************ ************** ************ ***************** **************, but i just keep my mouth shut because she wants to make it work.......so i would say just be there for her always and keep your opinions to yourself...that is what she and i do for eachother.....she don't tell me sh*t and i don't tell her sh*t...seems to work out just better this way!
2006-06-16 13:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let my sister date whoever she wants. If you warn her that's your choice, it's good as well. But if she doesn't listen, that's her choice. You might think they are losers and users but she might not feel that way. From the little you are saying I think she needs attention and she would take it from losers and users by helping them which makes her feel like she is wanted. She doesn't go for nice men because she doesn't feel they need her for any kind of help. That, my dear, is called attention depression. Both of you have different taste in men. What better way than to learn from your own mistakes?? Let her learn from her own mistakes. And don't spit it in her face that you were right.
2006-06-16 04:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by sweetnsourcorona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you were always right beside her during the pain then you should try to help her right now. You should not force her but just gently ask her about a blind date with a decent man.
2006-06-16 03:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Junun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about forcing a blind date. If she doesn't want to go out with him even just to have something to do, it could go badly and if he is a friend of yours it could cause trouble for you if it does go badly.
My sister is kind of the same way, but she's beginning to get that she's worthy of a great guy. I think women either think they can "change him" or they get some weird probably subconscious idea that they deserve a jerk for some reason.
Just keep reminding her how great she is and that she deserves someone who is great AND realizes how great she is too.
2006-06-16 02:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by alliekat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortuantely, no one is going to change until they are ready too. try introducing her to some "nice guy" friends of yours, but don't force them on her or she'll go back to losers and users to spite you. casually introduce them at a party or wherever then later on say "I'm going out for a drink with joe and chris and we'd love you to come" make it more friendly than romantic
2006-06-16 03:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister think I date loser and I think she marriage to one. So we decided to just stay out of each other love life.
So I think you should just stay out of her love life. It a lot less head ache in the long run.
2006-06-19 10:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by gsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her make the mistake then she would probably learn from them. are you the older sister? Deffinatly dont force a blind date on her.
2006-06-16 02:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kjo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up. It's a lost case. Go get a man to date yourself. She'll soon see that she's crazy when she sees you having a decent relationship with your guy.
2006-06-16 02:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by nakedandsucking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the blind date idea is a winner!!
2006-06-19 09:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give up. one day she'll learn that when there's no one there to pick her back up on her feet she'll stop going for the losers. she needs to find that out on her own.
2006-06-16 02:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Blade Strife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in life you have to make your own mistakes, as hard as that is for families and friends to witness
2006-06-16 02:54:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋