I am 30 and still living with my parents as my mother is very traditional and would never let a girl go live by herself without being married. I am stuck, and I can not find the courage to stop this all. Feel guilty to hurt her...anybody has been through that? any advice?
2006-06-16 02:46:09 · 7 answers · asked by Zoula 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are your own person stand up on your own 2 feet and walk right out that door and start living your own life that God gave you. It's time to start making your own decisions You're 30 years for gosh sakes, well past the time to cut the cord now go tell your strict mother that and start packing.
2006-06-16 02:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by Tbaylinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your mother that you are gracious that she is so concerned for you and that you are lucky to have her as mother. Also, tell her that moving out is something you are doing for yourself. Let her know that just because you are moving out does not mean she will no longer be a part of your life. Tell her that it is something you feel you must do for yourself. Do not let her guilt you into feeling bad. You must be firm and let her know that you already have your mind made up. She is probably just having trouble letting go of her baby!
2006-06-16 09:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get a life of your own your mom is just trying to suck u dry and keep you to herself don't feel guilty she will not die if you move out in fact after you are gone she might realize she likes it and if not you can always visit or down the road let her stay with you for a visit so she can see whar a great job you are doing
2006-06-16 09:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by bridgettemarie123@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES......your gonna have to find a way to live with the "guilt"...find a female room-mate(don't tell mom until your set to go) and just DO IT....yes you will feel crappy for a while,yea mom will be upset for awhile but you both WILL get over it.....you will feel so much better with yourself and your life....and mom might even enjoy (after awhile) coming to YOUR home for lunch or dinner......trust me, been there ...once you realize that "guilt" your mom feeds really isn't that bad,you can live with it....things are much easier....good luck
2006-06-16 09:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by krnsspott 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stand up for yourself. Explain to her that today, it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to live on her own. Also, let her know that it may be harder for you to meet a potential husband while living in her home...it's obviously stressful for you and that will convey to any relationship you have.
She's your mother and she should respect your decision and love you unconditionally no matter what you do.
2006-06-16 09:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move out - you are 30 for heavens sake and an adult. Tell her you are moving out and would like her to respect your decision. She may not like it straight away but she will come round to the idea eventually.
2006-06-16 09:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Keira 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
politely tell her you are moving out. And that you are sorry if it hurts her, but moving out is not a crime, morally or legally
2006-06-16 10:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋