i have a 2year old son from a previous relationship- which ended badly when i was pregnant. His natural father told me he wanted nothing more to do with me or the child, and has kept to that, i have not seen him since the day he left us, and he is not on my sons birth certificate, he has paid no money for him, never even seen him... I moved on and found a great bloke who has stuck by me through thick and thin, we now have a daughter together and are due to get married this september! My son calls him daddy and he loves him so much, they get on so well! my new partner has been the one that was there from the start and has given him all the love a dad could give! i want to make it so he has legal rights to him and is on his birth certificate! Can my new partner adopt my son even if we dont have permission from the biolgical father (we have no idea of his whereabouts) i want to make the man that has given my son everything a real part of his life.
2006-06-16 02:37:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
does this apply in the uk too? what if his father does not want to give up rights? not that he even cares about him as he has never been bothered with him!
2006-06-16 02:43:04 · update #1
thanks for all your help xxx
2006-06-16 02:46:00 · update #2
yes but this man has walked out of his life never even bothered, he was told when his son was born-i told him myself,(ok only a text message but i was in hospital seriously ill with pre eclampsia) with no reply and not a care in the world as my son was born 3months early and almost died! he did not want to see him then! i would not have walked out of my son like he did!
2006-06-16 03:02:03 · update #3
Yes, he can. If the bio-father was on the birth certificate he would need to sign a termination of his rights. Since he is not on it I would guess that you are clear to do what you need to do. Check with a lawyer -you'll need one to help with the adoption anyway so you may as well ask about this.
Good luck and congratualtions to you and your son for finding such a great guy!
2006-06-16 02:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on where you live on what you have to do. If your in the U. S. alot of states you can simply go to the court house and tell them you want to add "your sons father" to the birth cirtificate. Since you werent married when you two had your daughter just simply say you two are getting married and you want him on the birth certificate and change his last name so all will be the same. I know its a lie but hey i know lots of people who have done it. It saved them the whole adoption and legal expense. Just tell them that the hospital never ask about the father and he was simply left off the birth certificate. Now if you want to do it the legal honest way. You need to get an attorney and file to have your sons real fathers parental rights terminated and it probably wont be to hard since you havent seen him and hes never seen or spend time or money on the child. What they will do is file a petition on your behalf with the judge and it will be posted in the paper for 6 weeks to give the man time to respond. If at the end of the 6 weeks he hasnt filed a motion with the court to stop the adoption, the judge will terminate his rights leaving it open for your new husband to adopt your son.
2006-06-16 09:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find the biological father and have him sign his parental rights away. Once you are married your husband can they petition the court to adopt your son. If you can not find the biological father a lawyer can publish an announcement in the local papers and if there are no responses then the courts will deem your son abandoned by his birth father opening the way for adoption. The ad has to run for a certain amount of days and in a certain number of local papers. It is definitely worth the money for a lawyer. Any man can be a father but it takes real men like your husband to be to be a DAD. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-06-16 09:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by housershoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- The Boys Natural Father Might Have To Sighn Some Papers.
2006-06-16 09:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can since the fathers name is not on the birth certificate just play dumb and say you don't know who it is. No I'm just kidding but it will be easy for him to adopt since the father has no interest in him and this man has claimed him as his own and taken full responsibility for the little man. The lawyer will walk you through all the steps.
2006-06-16 09:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why that should be a problem , if you were not married to the biological father then he has no legal rights at all, if you were married to him I am not sure if his permission would be needed or not.
Good luck sounds like you have a really good partner now who has been more than a daddy to him
2006-06-16 11:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by mumoftheyear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost sure that there wont be any problem with that.... speak to social services- they will tell you what to do and even if the biological father doesnt give up rights im sure that your future hus will still be able to adopt through some kind of law that the bio father lost his rights as soon as he cut of all contact with u and the boy.... Good luck!
2006-06-16 09:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by chnuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really ask this of a lawyer in your state, but for all intents and purposes, I'd say yes. It may take some doing to get the biological father legally removed from his life, but considering his history, this shouldn't be too difficult. Again only a lawyer in your area can answer this correctly.
2006-06-16 09:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to try to find the father of this child or he can come out of the woodwork later on and say he never agreed to the adoption. All trying entails is publishing a personal ad in local newspapers. At any rate you cannot (to my knowlege) adopt without a lawyer, so find one and consult him on the rules of your state. You can go to legal aid for this. It should be easy..good luck
2006-06-16 09:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by shibanan1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isnt mentioned on the birth certificate then it should be no problem at all! Contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau for their help on making a start. Good luck with the future!
2006-06-16 13:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by felicity_pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋