2006-06-16 02:34:45 · 14 answers · asked by faith m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
what do you mean??
2006-06-16 02:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by townsizz7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By getting to know the person well, but there has to be some kind of separation so that you don't let your feelings get in the way. There should also be a barrier so that you avoid "romance". Watch and listen to that person in a large variety of situations and settings, and with time, the other person's character will come be seen more easily. It is not easy to have a close relationship with a person that does not have a good character and it will take a lot of work on your part.
Accept other people as they are, do not set high expectations from the other person. Do not try to change that person, but if you consistently set a good example, he/ she will change on their own.
As a good friend, you will help others to achieve their goals and in all types of situations. The best way to do this is to live by the "golden rule". Love your neighbor and your enemies, and always be kind. That is the duty of a friend.
2006-06-16 09:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Marty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend has openly expressed that there are things that they want to change or enhance in themselves then just support them. If there are things about their character which upset you personally then let them know and if they are good friend they will take that into consideration.
As for helping your friend achieve their goals, all you can do is support them and let them know that you will be there if they have any problems. In the end it is up to them to make these goals happen.
2006-06-16 09:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Icequeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your job to develop anyone character or help them achieve their goals.
It's your job as a friend to model what a good character is and support their goals.
2006-06-16 09:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be careful that you're not trying to put your own opinions and beliefs into someone else's head and that you're trying to 'develop' this person because you disagree with him/her about something. part of being a good friend is accepting each other as you are.
but i don't think there's anything wrong with trying to help someone achieve his/her goals. just be sure you're supporting their goals and not your own - this friend might choose a goal that you don't agree with. if you're really determined to support your friend, you might have to live with supporting something you don't agree with.
i reckon if you want to help develop someone's character, you've got a kind of parental feeling towards this person. no problem with that, but remember you're NOT his/her parent. wait until this friend asks you for help before doing anything, otherwise you're just being pushy and that's the last thing a true friend should be.
2006-06-16 12:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by stufetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be your friend's decision to develop his or her own character? We can always help a friend achieve their goals by being supportive but you can't *make* a person change to suit your own needs or even what you might think are your friend's needs. My advice would be to ask your friend what he/she thinks he/she needs and then be supportive if that person asks you to be.
2006-06-16 09:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that we are all 'perfect' and unique individuals, just as we are, who each have our own perfect and unique journey in life.
Then encourage your friend to choose what they really want out of life, then to 'go for it', remaining confident that they can achieve anything they singlemindedly go for, by staying positive at all times, without any judugment of themselves or the outcome.
2006-06-16 13:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by lit_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a deep down dream to live, give support to each other to lift it and live it. As friends we should support each other to rise out of any behaviors that pull down our greatness, conversations that center around complaining and gossiping hold back ourselves and literally our lives, help hold each other accountable to that standard. Committing to the focus of greatness for each other's lives changes struggles in our lives to freedom and achievement.
2006-06-16 09:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anne Ribley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your character should be the same as you want in a friend.
2006-06-16 09:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by ravinder k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well support said friend in whatever they belive. If they are a horrible person, stay away from them. If they simply belive in a different magic person then you, support their belief. Whatever you do, never try to convert a friend to your religion. Its wrong and makes you a bad friend.
2006-06-16 09:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Arcturus R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through prayer and by demonstrating Love, and Faith in the plan The Almighty has for you and for your friend.
2006-06-16 09:47:25 · answer #11 · answered by jacobjmr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋