my girlfriend (soon to be fiance') seems to be putting on excess weight lately. Even though I'm actually a bit underweight, I'd be willing to exercise with her, eat healthy, etc. But is there really a safe way to ask her to lose weight without being offensive to her?
2006-06-16 02:29:48 · 21 answers · asked by brandon 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
No girl likes to hear that they're fat---even if they're always like "i'm so fat," "i should work out more," blah blah blah. If you make it more like you're concerned about your health as well and that it would be good for both of you, then that would make it more encouraging and less like you're attacking her. Say something like "Its been proven that people who exercise more and eat better live longer. I was thinking about starting an exercise program, and we could do it together." It will make her feel good that you want to spend time with her that will help both of you in the long run. Sign up at a Gym, if there is one nearby. Since you're a little underweight, you should head for the weights to put on some healthy muscle weight. If she is overweight and hasn't exercised in a while, it is a better idea for her to start of with something slow, such as walking on the treadmill. Just the extra energy, better sleep, and looking better will be enough motivation for a girl to start working out more. Trust me. But she needs that initial push and needs to get herself up off the couch, and just that small feeling of relief and accomplishment will get her far. Just keep encouraging her. If you notice even the smallest thing, compliment her. Such as "wow, those jeans look amazing on you" or "good job at the gym today, you really kept up with the rest of them out there." small things like that keep her motor running and will keep her working out for the long run--to stay in shape, keep her healthier, living longer, and looking her best. I hope this helped.
2006-06-16 02:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by scoot 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Before asking her to drop the weight, i suggest you investigate into why is she been eating alot lately. People do thing out the normal due to some stress of some sort. If there's nothing amist..maybe you can plan to go hiking or walk on the park, beach, and mall, making like time together and exercise without asking her to lose weight. Once she starting to drop even 1 pound, tell her how wonderful she looks and how she looking thinner. As a woman i know by telling her that will keep her motivate to lose even more weight.
2006-06-16 09:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by mj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no way to ask her to lose weight without hurting her feelings. You can start preparing healthy meals for both of you. You can also go for a walk, hike, bike ride, etc, with her. If you want to keep your girlfriend, don't say anything, but your actions can help her lose some weight.
Another thing you said is that she's soon to be your fiancee. A lot of women will want to lose weight before their weddings. So, once you propose, you might find she's asking you to help her lose some weight.
2006-06-16 10:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is no way to ask her to lose weight without either offending her or hurting her feelings. The best way to do this is for you to take action yourself and include her in it. Tell her you want to get healthier (you read an article or saw a tv special or something). Start exercising and ask her to come with you. Buy healthier foods. When you eat out, you set the example by ordering healthier meals.
2006-06-16 09:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by Carlito Sway 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't need you to remind her of something she already knows. If you wanna lose her then go ahead and say hey baby I think you're getting heavy - let's go for a run.
Instead, If you would like to keep her - ask her to take a romantic walk with you around a lake or something!
If you want to marry her - it shouldn't matter if she weighs 100, or 200 pounds.
2006-06-16 09:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by bluskygreengrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her any less with the "excess weight"? Is it affecting your relationship? Is she unhappy? Are you unhappy?
Maybe you can suggest going on a walk after dinner or making her a healthy dinner.
But you are walking a fine line, my friend. And you need to ask yourself why.
2006-06-16 09:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better not SAY a word, or she will be major hurt and/or pissed! When it is time to eat, offer to make/ purchase / take her for something healthy. Take walks afte dinner (or when you are together). Blame it on yourself,, say you don't want high blood pressure/high cholesterol/ want your body to be healthy, etc., because you love her and want to be around with her FOREVER!! Being healthy is a good thing anyway and it will slowly, keep in mind slowly, rub off on her and she will begin to want to do the same for YOU>
2006-06-16 09:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by jeffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there really isnt. the best you can do is not tell her youd like her to lose weight and just buy foods that help you lose weight or soemthign and ask her if she'd like to go for a run with you or go the the gym or play soem form of sport. do not tell her outright that you'd like her to lose weight though
2006-06-16 09:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by aliza c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are underweight and she's overweight - sounds to me like you both need to do something more physical. Try to find a sport or other physical activity that you both like and do it together.
We ski - so that is motivation to work out to get in shape for that. And it's something we enjoy together which helps our marriage.
But whatever you do - DO NOT tell her you think she's overweight.
2006-06-16 09:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by sorshablue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, just get her to do more casually active things together. Go for more walks together. A weekend bike ride. Stuff like that.
2006-06-16 11:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋