Parents Only plzzz!! How old do you think your daughter should be allowed to date?

Question

My mom won't ALLOW me to date officially even though she knows I have had numerous boyfriends. I will be 15 in 1 month and I make straight A's in school, I have a job, and I am very responseable and wouldn't think about doing anything that girls my age shouldn't. Do you think she should let her gaurds down?

Answer 1

I would let my girl go out with a group of friends after having set a curfew hour when she is about 14 but on a date not till she is at least 16.

I know you must think we are old fuddy duddies who think you young ones are incapable idiots. That's not really so. We HAVE see and heard about the ugly side of life and we are so very afraid that you will come face to face with it at this early age if we let you go out on a date and the guy happens to be of the wrong side. Its NOT that we don't trust you and love you. We DO. Its just that we want to be your Armour against all things bad for as long as we can. Yes we are all aware that one day the little bundle in pink is going to flow the nest and rest assured when that day comes even though your mom's heart will be breaking into a million pieces you will see only a smile that reaches her eyes and a strong voice telling you in a matter of fact manner"Do remember all that I have taught you."

Answer 2

32? Just kidding.

If you are responsible, try talking to your parents about what your expectations and their expectations are. Maybe you could convince them to let you date in a group or supervised setting, and not date guys older than you (that's just asking for trouble!)

You will find that things can get weird when it's just the two of you out alone, and you may be pressured into doing something you wouldn't think that you'd do.

Your parents are trying to do what is best for you. Don't try to grow up too soon. Work on a compromise that lets you have a social life and allows your parents some peace of mind.

Good luck - you sound like a mature 14 year old.

Answer 3

I'm not a parent yet, but when I do become one I plan to use the same method my parents did with me!! I wasn't allowed to officially date until I was 16! I could have guys over to my house at 14, but I couldn't go "out" with them until I was 16! I think it's fair because most younger teens are too immature to be dating! I don't know what to tell you about your situation though...maybe give it another year and maybe your mom will be more open to letting you date! Have you asked your mom why she won't let you date? Maybe if she tells you, then you'll be more understanding of her decision! I hope everything works out for you, though!! Good luck...

Answer 4

16

Answer 5

My daughter can group date when she is 14, and single date when she is 16. I must meet the boy in question and check out where they are going. This is a right you earn, so if she screws up, it is a right I can also take away.
Why don't you sit down and ask your mother to explain her reasons (keep an open mind) and when she has explained, see what you could do to help her change her mind. You sound responsible, but since I do not know you, I can not say for sure.

Answer 6

Well you said you have had boyfriends, is that not dating or not enough? If it is not enough for you then you probably do plan on doing more than you have stated. If you want private time with a male you are too young for that. Your mother is more experienced and is trying to protect you from yourself, it is easy to get in over your head and get taken advantage of when alone with a guy. Even one you trust!! She knows this probably from experience, and you should be willing to wait for a safer situation. Like when you are 16 and driving your own car so you can control the situation better. You don't want to have to rely on a horny boy to keep you safe when you tell him no you don't want to have sex with him! SO she should not let her guard down neither should you! 25 year old female, and mother of 2

Answer 7

With a group of friends or chaperoned - 15 is okay. One-on-one dating - not before 16 and then I would make a judgment on my daughter's maturity (and also that of the boy). The boy must be within 3 years of her age and must always come to the door to pick her up - no honking the horn in my driveway.
Oh, and he must be able to hold his own against my husband because he's even tougher than I am.

Answer 8

Nope. 15 is when it can all start to go wrong.

If you are getting straight As with writing the way you do, you are in a school with very low academic standards. It is essential that you get into a good college so that you can actually learn something. 3 years is not very long. Look, listen, and learn instead of whining like such a child and you might manage not to screw up your life before you even reach adulthood.

Answer 9

I think 16 is good. But don't go out alone go out as a group of people or maybe an older sibling, this way your mom can be more comfy with the idea, and bring him home to meet mom, you might be responsable but your mom isn't thinking of you she's thinking of him, she's worried he'll make you do something you wouldn't normally do. So let her meet him maybe have him over for dinner a couple nights, once your mom knows him better she might be less porotactive.

Answer 10

My daughter was a good student, played in the band and sang in the church choir. I let her date at 16 1/2. If you "wouldn't think about doing anything that girls your age shouldn't" then why are you thinking about disrespecting your mothers rules?
You have the whole rest of your life to be tangled up with some boy.