I am having a difficult time coping with breaking it off with an ex off mine of 4years. I am dating someone that works with him and it caused bigtime drama between the three of us. my ex found out that me and the new guy were screwing and he got pissed and is now screwing a girl that always tried to get in his pants everyother time we broke up for like a week or so then got back together. i am so hurt by this, but why? i am screwing someone too. it doesn't make any sense to me. this new guy is a wonderful person with so much too offer me in the long run but right now i am so upset and hurt i just don't want to do anything but cry and be in bed. do i need to see a shrink?
2006-06-16 02:10:09 · 18 answers · asked by TextnQueen 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You will adjust. Spend more time with the NEW GUY and continue to avoid the OLD GUY. It just takes a little time.
See if you can go on a weekend trip somewhere with the NEW GUY, and begin to build some new and good memories. Go to places where you did not go to with the OLD GUY. None of the NEW experiences should be a reminder of the OLD GUY.
2006-06-16 02:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if you really did break up for good then you probably wouldnt care but since you still care who he has sex with then you probably still like him. but then again if you are sure it is over then it is probably the past 4 years have become a type of habit/ ritual. so no matter what it is gong to be hard to break the cycle. if you dont want to see him anymore and you are still having trouble with it, yes maybe you should at least a therapist not a psychiatrist thought they throw pills like candy and you arent crazy just confused.
been there in your position only mine was 2 years. but i went to a therapist and talked about it and after about a month seeing her once a week i was better and back to the way i was before. some people make it sound like a horrible thing but check around for a good one. and just because the last guy was an *** dont make this new guys life bad because you are still caught up if you cant give him a real chance tell him he will have to wait and if he really cares he will. but dont base the new relationship on needing someone beside you because it will never last.
i hope every thing gets sorted out -good luck-
2006-06-16 02:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by tn_wolf_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need to see a psychiatrist. That is what happens when you end 1 relationship and have an immediate rebound. You're feelings for your ex are still there, you are trying to make a new relationship work, and your ex is trying to get back at you by having sex with the chic he new would screw him! What a mess. I say dint worry about your ex or the new guy. Take a break from men in general and then try a relationship with the new guy in a while. Good Luck with all that!
2006-06-16 02:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by bluskygreengrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing a counselor wouldn't hurt. I don't think you have serious mental health issues but it does sound like your depressed. If it lasts more then a month or two get help, there are good medications for depression. But when a relationship breaks up a person needs time to grieve and feel sad , its the end of something and thats normal. Sounds like you didn't give yourself enough time before getting involved with someone else.When you say screwing, that might be a signal that something is wrong with the relationship picture, it doesn't sound like love and respect for each other.
2006-06-16 02:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer all shrinks see shrinks yet would have a mentor. some shrinks see shrinks and would refer different shrinks to shrinks. Any cut back this is prevalent with a cut back would desire to be the shrinks cut back. those solutions will hang-out me...
2016-12-13 16:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need to see a shrink. You just need some downtime. Maybe some time to just cry and let it out. You might need to just vent/talk to a close friend or go out dancing with friends or maybe a girls weekend away with no guys. You need to distance yourself from your ex and let the situation and emotions diedown. Time will ultimatly resolve the tenion. I've been in these kind of situations before.. but i was lucky and I was moving away in a month. (school was done and i moved home.)
2006-06-16 02:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Steve T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you just wanna have your cake and eat it too, you want to screw the one guy and have the other still in your back pocket, what you need is to move on and not be concerned with who your ex is screwing, after all YOU were the one who broke it off, and of all things started screwing someone he knows AND works with...
2006-06-16 02:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you should probably see a professional that deals with relationship issues.
Sounds like you and your ex still have the hots for each other...yet both of you are in denial.
Also, from what you say, it appears that you and your ex are using other people to get back at each other.
This is not only unhealthy, it is very insensitive to the people you two are having sex with.
Very dehumanizing.
Get help, soon.
2006-06-16 02:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, what drama. Sounds like you need to see a doctor for an anti-depressant and sever the ties with your ex. Work your way through it, move on, life is full of possibilites once you leave the garbage of the past behind. Refuse to let the past consume you.
2006-06-16 02:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by blue_lotus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that you have to see a shrink, but here's some things you can do.
1. totally re-evaluate your concept of relationships and the idea of sex, etc.
2. Find some one outside of your little circle of co-problem-ers, and talk to them.
3. Change your habits and get a different routine where you don't associate with your 'group', but rather associate with other friends that can actually be beneficial to your "psychological development"
2006-06-16 02:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋