how can somebody whos shy 'come out of their shell'?

Answer 1

First, make the decision that you are not going to be shy. Believing that you are shy, or somehow not as worthy as others around you will make you continue to be shy.

Second, start slowly, by giving yourself an assignment. Try making small talk to one new person. Practice at home when you are alone, so you have some things ready to say.

Third, try finding an activity that interests you, so you will meet people with the same interest. Then you have a topic to start talking about.

That is how I overcame my shyness. (It also helped when I turned forty and stopped caring what other people thought about me!)

Answer 2

Shyness is something I had a real problem with. I read about a side-effect, however, of the anti-depressant Seroxat whereas the recipient gets confident. I took it for about a year and I was amazed at how confident I felt after about a month. I must point out that, as a relation of Prozac, it can have a very negative effect on some people so you should be closely monitored by your doctor during the first couple of months and you should also come off it gradually. For the maximum effect on your confidence, whoever you're talking about should not drink alcohol with it.

Answer 3

There is a difference between 'shy' and having a social anxiety disorder, when you are really anxious about being in social settings. You can look that up and get advice on treatment with therapy or drugs if it is the latter. Just because our society values self confident, articulate people doesn't mean being shy isn't perfectly fine too. The world needs quiet, shy people too! Shy people are often great listeners!! But if it is making you unhappy or you feel you are missing out talk to a counsellor or your doctor about changes you can make in your thoughts or behaviour (cognitive behavioural techniques).

Answer 4

You just do it. You ignore that shy feeling that comes up and just do what you think the hot chick (or guy) would do, the one that everyone just loves. Don't be extreme, but just take "shyness" and set it on the table as you walk out the door. I used to be REALLY shy, and still have to fight it off sometimes, but I just started saying what I wanted to say and doing what I wanted to do instead of thinking, "OMG I can't do THAT!" Sure, I looked like an idiot once in a while (VERY rarely, of course), but I just started telling myself it didn't matter. That's all easy to say, but not as easy to do, but I just simply DID IT. You can too (or a friend or whoever you're talking about). If you have self respect and know that you are just as valuable as all those people who might "judge" you, I think you can let go and release some of the inhibitions.

Answer 5

Only time and environment can bring them out of their shell.

I known, my cousin used to be very shy. We ask her to involve in discussion or games or plays. She will always shy away. But when she was a toddler, she is the very active toddler. Talks a lot, plays a lot. I thought she will be a leader later in her life. But some incident in her life changed everything and made her feel shy.

But the same girl when she started college, changed a lot. A whole new girl. We still don't know what changed her.

We concluded that it has to time and environment.

Answer 6

move somewhere else and / or hang out with new people who don't know you were ever shy and just get crazy or whatever you are wanting to do. Just think of it as... "oh well, I'll never see these people again anyway" or "who cares what you think" that is basically what the shyness is about anyhow

Answer 7

Try to put yourself in a position where you have to interact with people, the more you use your skills the better they will be fine tuned. A job working with the public is a great place to start. You learn how to deal with different kinds of people. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Start by simply pretending. Play the role of someone who is of a confidently outgoing personality. When you realise how easy it is and see how positive the responses of other people are to that behaviour, it becomes self perpetuating.

Answer 9

Leave them locked in a room overnight with 10 willing Guys (or Girls).

That'll solve the problem, its usually something to do with feelings of inadaquacy around the oposite sex.

Answer 10

A good way to lose your inhibitions is to imbibe copious amounts of alcohol. I first started drinking in 1943 and have not been sober since.