My boss is getting married should I go to the wedding or reception?

Question

He's a very good friend of mines the problem is my date is coming with me and it's a 3 hour gap between the wedding and reception. My date is already getting the wrong idea about this so I don't want to prolong the evening any longer than I have to. On the other hand I don't won't my boss to be hurt either which one would you prefer your guess to come to? And any ideas for a wedding gift?

Most of you get the question for the ones who didn't my boss is one of my bestfiends not my significant other. I do have invitations and have been seeing this date for about 3 months who is very sensative and emotional.

Thanks a lot guys now she's talking about planning a trip to Vegas! LOL ok Wedding starts at 2pm reception starts at 6pm need any more details just ask thanks!

Answer 1

I think it would be more important to him if you come to the wedding. That is where the groom needs his friends to support him and be there for him. If you don't want to take your date to both just decide which one you do want her to go to, and take her to one and you can go alone to the other. The reception is a celebration of the bride and groom. That is where everyone gets to congratulate them and have fun with them.

As for a wedding gift.....Money is very welcome gift anytime in my opinion

If you don't like that suggestion, just ask him what they need....that is the best way to go

Answer 2

The three hour gap between the time to be at the wedding and the time to be at the reception, will pass quicker than you think. You will be at the church a good hour to hour and a half. The ceremony is the short part, the socialization while attempting to get out of the church to get to the reception is the long part.

I am confused as to what you mean by "your date is already getting the wrong idea".. Is your date, not your girlfriend too? If there is some problem with a misunderstanding with your date for the evening, then you should be man enough to tactfully deal with the issue prior to the wedding date. Most certainly, do not wait till the day of the wedding to clear up any "wrong ideas", it could lead to some pretty embarrassing situations and could even spoil you boss/friend's special day.

If your boss/friend invited you to the wedding and reception, then be there for him.

And Cash IS the number one gift in this day and age, easy to wrap... just tuck into a card.

Answer 3

Assume that the wedding starts at maybe 1 pm and the reception starts at 5 pm (just making up times here). If the ceremony is at 1 pm and lasts an hour you can go by yourself if you want. I am getting married soon (in a month actually) and would like for people to go to the ceremony. Tell your date to be ready at 4-whatever (however long it will take for you to get to the reception site from her place, subtract that time from 5 pm because you want to be there when the bride/groom get there).

For someone you have only been dating for a while, it is very easy for them to get the "wrong idea" about where your relationship might or might not be headed by taking them to the ceremony. If you take her to the ceremony and not the reception she may feel as though you are hiding her away from the fun parts, and/or she may feel as though you want to have fun all by yourself and act single. If you take her to the ceremony she *might* think you are telling her "take notes, we're next" which doesn't seem to be the signal you want to send.

But if you tell her to be ready at 4-whatever then you have time to make it to the reception and dance whatever, if things are not going well then you can dance in groups with plenty of other people around. She has time to mingle with others and meet people who work with you (I am assuming other co-workers will be there too).

As for the gift, money is nice but sometimes seems impersonal. You also get into the trick of figuring out how much to give, etc. If this person is your boss and good friend, you may be able to pick something off of the registry that will fit the couple well. People do not make registry's so their guests do *not* buy things off of them. But you may feel a giftcard or cash might be just what they need. Weddings costs money, so any money you give them back will most likely be well-received.

If they are going on a honeymoon and are having a dollar dance or something like that then you could just put in a good amount of money in there so they have money for the honeymoon, but you may just want to do a card with cash or whatever. The wedding is about the couple, so please be sure to give them something they both can use. Kitchen appliances, bedding, bath stuff, look on their registry and see what they need. They wouldn't need it if they didn't put it on there (sometimes you can find nice wine tasting kits that make good gifts, I put one on my registry).

Hope this helps and good luck figuring out what to do.

Answer 4

Ok if I were you I would go to either the wedding or reception. Why would your date get the wrong idea about going to your bosses wedding? Is she your gf and you think she would jump to conclusions? Well, like I said one or the other and you won't be hurting your boss. And as far as a wedding gift, a gift card you can't go wrong with that way they will get what they want and you won't be embarrassed by giving them something they already have.

Answer 5

Attend the wedding on your own and then take the date to the reception or take her to the wedding and then attend the reception yourself. I think the first option is more preferable in your situation.

Since he's your boss, you may know something that could be useful in the office. DO NOT BUY THAT THING. Gift the couple somthing that they could use together and which will remind them of you. A good bed-spread, a food serving set or something of that sort is ideal.

Answer 6

bring a guy Friend instead. after the wedding, just hit up a bar and relax a bit. you really shouldn't bring a date to the wedding reception anyway. what happens when one of the ladies there digs you? then you just screwed ur self dude. anyway, bringing a date to a wedding that only knows you and that might not have the people skills to go and mingle on there own will take away from the attention to the rest of the party. go stag and mix it up. you saw wedding crashers, take notes and go for it! cash always works for a gift. no one will be pissed getting it and all you have to do is write a card out.

Answer 7

Well first off if you don't like your date that way you might consider another one. and second I would prefer a larger turn out at the reception. But then I will look like I just came for the free food and drink. Don't worry about that. They bought all that food and drink for a reason to have there friends and family close by. So you should definitely attend one of the two it is the biggest day in your bosses life.

Answer 8

My serious advice... either get another date or go stag. This guy is a "very good friend" of yours. He's also your boss, so most certainly you should be in attendance with a nice gift to give him and his Bride. Your concern should be about the relationship you have with him, not some chick who'll probably wind up (from the sounds of things) a real pain in the ***. As far as ideas for gifts are concerned it depends on whether or not the future Mr. & Mrs. have alread set up "housekeeping" either as a couple or individually which they probably have unless they're still living with Mom n' Dad or in a dorm room. If so may I suggest something like a nice set of candlesticks or some classy type "accessory". good luck

Answer 9

Definitely the reception, free food duh! No really I was so nervous at my wedding I couldn't tell you who preformed the ceremony afterward. You have to show for your friend, but he will most likely not even notice who was or wasn't at the wedding. The fun is always at the reception anyway. I say we should always skip the ceremony and get straight to the celebration and then the honeymoon. Obviously you can't join them during that though. As for your date, you could always simplify the problem and either find a different date who is willing to go to both or not take a date and go to both alone. Good Luck.

Answer 10

2 options:

Option 1: Go to the wedding, then take a motel room for 2 hours and get the "wrong idea" out of your date's head. THEN go to the reception.

Opion 2: Go to the reception only. It's less personal, but it shows that you made it and both you and your date will have a good time.

Wedding gifts: My personal favorite is Dom Perignon sent to the Bride and Grooms hotel room ... they'll remember you at a GOOD moment.

Toodles.

Answer 11

A good friend has asked you to celebrate his (hopefully) happy day. Go to the wedding and make your presence known, then politely say you cannot attend the reception. Your friend will know you were there for him and your girl will not have to suffer the wait gap.

Wedding gift, When in doubt, a gift card trumps.