I was at someone's house and before they ate, they said grace. Well, I'm a protestant and they are cathlic. They all said the same thing at the same time and did the cross on their chest. My religion doesn't do that so I just stood there quietly and said a quiet prayer to myself. They asked me later, "aren't you religious?" I said I was, but not cathlic and didn't do that, but then they started drilling me on my faith. I felt out of place and like I didn't belong.
2006-06-16 00:47:45 · 24 answers · asked by Mayday Britty 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
As any denomination of belief, they should not criticise your own views on religion. It is going against the respect of that person and should never be done.
You did nothing wrong with your table manners. If anything, I applaud you for staying true to your beliefs. More than that, you maintained good manner on your method and it was only ignorance from my fellow Catholics, that might have made you question yourself.
You did nothing wrong and I am sorry that you had to get 'drilled' as if Catholics know more about faith and the truth than any other religion-Protestant or not.
Protestant is very similar to Catholic but the method of teachings vary to a small degree, such as you praying directly to God instead of going to confession. For what it's worth, I think that your religion makes sense in a lot of ways and that Catholics need to revamp the school of thought on the subject. (i hope i don't get any hate male from my fellow Catho's)lol
2006-06-16 00:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. It is wrong of them to try to shove their religion down you throat. Just tell them the next time, if there is one, that you have no problem with thanking God, but you didn't come there to have a conversation demeaning you religion. There are plenty of ways to tell them this nicely. If it is a friend's house maybe you should talk to him/her and tell their family that it makes you uncomfortable to have them drill you on your own beliefs. It isn't fair for them to question your religion like that. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs without being forced to believe someone elses.
2006-06-16 00:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by ivory_kittens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your behaviour was absolutely correct. You didn't ignore the grace and you behaved respectfully during it. You should not make the sign of the cross if you do not wish to - I am also Anglican, and when my brother married a Roman Catholic in an RC church there was no expectation from the church or her relations that the non RC guest should follow their habits. In fact, it was your hosts who behaved rudely by grilling you on your religious beliefs/habits just because they are different to theirs. Don't worry at all, I think they were at fault.
2006-06-16 00:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uff, this must have been awkward.
You did the right thing, it was appropriate to do what you did and they're the ones who were rude. They have no right to lecture you about your religion, they should just accept and respect the differences in your faith. You were very polite to be quiet and wait while they said grace.
2006-06-16 03:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different religions should have a respect for others believes.Your friends didn't do a right thing. I am sorry they made you feel very uncomfortable, maybe you need to stick around to the people of the same religion as yours
2006-06-16 00:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Eek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt feel out of place because yu are free to practice whatever religion you please and if someone is not comfortable with it and chooses to drill you, well its up to you to answer or walk away.
If the questions are more cynical than real then you shouldnt answer them.
But i must say this catholics feel a lot superior so don't be suprised.In the long run its your relationship with God that matters, no-one should judge you.
2006-06-16 00:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by cyberpaul007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the proper thing. Catholicism follows a more traditional regimented format. They were doing what they have been programmed to do since they were children. As for the grilling you about your beliefs, maybe they don't understand their own and were looking for you to explain yours so they could see if they believe the same thing. I wasn't there so that's just a thought.
2006-06-16 00:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by HD-Bikerin Fla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they were wrong to treat you like that. not everyone is of the same denomination. you should have told them that you respected their practice so why can they not respect the fact that you have your own faith practice. if religion is going to be the factor whether you are invited to dinner or not you need to know it up front. good luck next time sweetie.
2006-06-16 00:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing...they were completely out of line, they should apologize 1. for calling you out like that & 2. for making you feel uncomfortable and out of place.
2006-06-16 05:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Hold em Rox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were in the right, hon. they were in the wrong. i'm a protestant too and believe me when i say, you did nothing wrong. i have been known to do the cross thing over my heart, but not for the reason they do. i did it once or twice b/c it's a me and God thing.
2006-06-16 02:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋