kids fear being punished when naughty by fathers more than mothers why?

Question

i used to laugh when my mum told me off, but wet my pants when my dad told me off, did this happen to anyone else

Answer 1

I think there are several reasons for that. First, its the size factor. Dad's are normally bigger & they yell louder. Second, we tend to set it up that way. "Just wait until your father gets home". Sound familiar? We tend to put that onto the dads as "the punisher". The whole "good cop/bad cop" routine. Although, my kids know that when mom uses a certain tone..they better watch out and start toeing the line.

Answer 2

Because mum's let their children know that their Dad is the 'leader' in the house by telling them to wait til he gets home, or whatever. Children will only fear their father more if he is clearly the main disciplinarian in the house. If it's the mum that does most of the telling off while Dad sits and watches it'l be mum their scared of being punished by. If parents take an equal standing children will behave equally well for both parents. Children are no fools

Answer 3

Because often fathers are more forceful and if they say you'll get a smack, you will. Whereas a lot of mothers just shout and don't do anything. It might be because the child is with the mother all day(usually) so they get used to whatever she does. Dad might not be there so much so doesn't tell you off so much, then you know if your dad tells you off then you're really in trouble. It's not like that with my kids though and I resent it when my partner or my dad start telling the kids off. That makes it worse because mum already told you off and then you get upset my being told off again.

Answer 4

It's normally the Father - That administers the Punishment - When a Child has done something " Really Bad"!

Usually, Mom is the one scolding the Children for minor misdemeanors around the home...She only brings Dad into-the-picture when it appears a Particulary Bad incident occurs!...Often, it's due to an Act/Behaviour that is Uncharacteristic of the Child - eg. Caught Shoplifting, Drinking Under-Age, etc.

So, Dad...after...Worried Mom claims that the Kid(s) are straying into the Wrong Path in Life...& complains that " They're Your Kids, Too!...You Have to Do Something!"...Dad is suddenly thrust into the role of The Discipinarian!...after weeks, months, or years of little or no experience in this Area!

He remembers how His Father disciplined him for something bad & it almost-always involves Pain! ( Spankings, the Belt!, etc. )

Answer 5

I used to be terrified of my dad cause i knew if i was naughty i would get a good smack but my mom was a softy could get away with anything an she would'nt say nothin.

Now im older with 2 kids of my own its the other way around there dad is a big softy an im the one who shouts at them when they are naughty. I do not hit my kids i know how distressin it can be so would'nt put them through that.

Answer 6

not in my home when I was little(1 out 8 kids) my mom disciplined all the kids, dad worked afternoons(2pm till 11 pm--after we were asleep).
I worked in a daycare for a little while and there was only 1 man there to teach. and the troubled boys ,we(women) would have them in his class(they listened better) was told that kids listen to the deep voice and the sterness of his voice.
something about women's voices are not so scary and not deep enough to be stern. just the way it was.

Answer 7

I was (and still am) scared of being told off by my mother. My Dad would just raise his voice, and then five minutes later it would be all 'hugs and kisses', but Mum would be really 'furious' with me for days, she had to stop herself from hitting me she was so annoyed.

Answer 8

I think mothers by nature are more nurturing toward their children and fathers more authoritative and are usually the firmer disciplinarians. That is just in general because I have known situations where the opposite was the case.

Answer 9

becoz fathers have gone through this stage. After being a father one realises how naughty he was when he was a kid & what he lost due to this. He does't want to the same to happen with his own kids

Answer 10

Well in my house it was the other way around.

I could get away with so much with my dad, but when it came to my Mom is was not playing games.

My Mom was the disciplinary in the house, dad would tell on us!