(and sometimes for years before deciding to break up)
2006-06-15 22:48:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think people stay in unhappy relationships for may different reasons. I think allot of the time it just becomes habit, you get used to it and therefore see no need to change you're routine. Also, it might be something to do with the fact that they think it may change or they can change the person their with so it's no longer an unhappy relationship.
For others maybe there's too much to sacrifice, maybe your married with kids, the house, the care, the dog, etc etc for most that would be allot to lose and a frightening prospect that open a whole new can of worms.
Furthermore, you have the people who are insecure and lack confidence. They might stay in these sorts of relationships because they think that's their worth, or they don't think anyone else could want them in that way (ludicrous as it is!)
But i guess there's a million reasons. I think maybe people stay in relationships with people they love, but not with people they are in love with, sometimes it's easy to get that mixed up.
The bottom line is your happiness and the happiness of the other person involved should be paramount.
2006-06-15 23:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
They maybe unhappy but sometimes there is still alot of love there. If the love is there then it is worth trying to make it work. Then if the years go by and you are still not happy then maybe it is not really love you have for the other person. If you love them and are unhappy, stay try to work it out. If you dont love them and are unhappy, get out of it, dont stay where you are unhappy and unloved.
2006-06-15 22:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are all sorts of reasons.
It might be that they have children, and feel that they should stay together because of that.
Sometimes there is a family pattern - their own parents might have done that.
It might be that there is a love-hate relationship - that's a complicated one. They have built up a lot of mutual resentment. It's horrible.
Sometimes they don't have the confidence or self esteem to leave each other.
"Better the devil you know..."
Sometimes there is love there and they both hope things will get better.
Sometimes they just dont value themselves or each other enough.
I think it is very sad when this happens.
2006-06-15 23:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Suzita 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unhappy relationship!!!!???? there's no such thing.. The only thing here is one of them is still in the relationship and working out this relationship alone, the other one doenst do anything in that relationship and will just complain about everything coz he/she is not trying.(people think this is an unhappy relationship but as a matter of fact its not anymore a relationship coz thre's only one person in it)
It is easy to fall in love but to maintain that love is difficult and it takes both side to do the effort.
2006-06-16 04:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by vince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question, I haven't had that problem (yet!) but i know alot of friends and everytime i talk to them its always bitching about their b/f or g/f. its a pain in the *** i mean if you ***** about them so much and you are unhappy and your not getting along with your partner why not end the releationship and move on. But thats your answer alot of people are scared of being alone and alot of people can't move on, they feel a little bit of security in releationships and feel as if they always need someone there no matter whats going on. Thats another reason why people stay together in abusive releationships.
2006-06-15 22:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, because they're use to their situation. And they may complain to you, but in reality, they probably like all the drama that goes along with an unhappy relationship.
Also, if it's a woman that is staying with a man that's mean to her, the reason is most likely that she didn't get a college/graduate education and is obligated out of financial strain.
2006-06-16 02:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by BrownEyedGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They sometimes stay in an unhappy relationship as they are afraid that the other person might hurt them or themselves if they split up
2006-06-15 23:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are scared to be alone and don't like the thought of coming home to an empty house and sleeping alone and cooking meals for one, it does sound bleak but if only people would have the courage they would see they are better off alone than unhappy. Most people are rarely alone anyway, most have friends or family to support them.
2006-06-15 22:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were married I'd stay in the relationship no matter what because I've made a commitment and I promised myself to this guy. But other than that it'd be because they're so used to the other person, or that they're scared to be alone, or kids are involved, or even financial reasons.
2006-06-16 11:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many factors:
1. Financially constraint if to break up
2. Shared properties - need time to decide & liquidize
3. Children & family
4. Too emotionally dependant on each other
just to name a few.
2006-06-15 22:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rebornie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋