do you think that internet relationships are real?

Question

can people fall in love on line? is it worth?

Answer 1

Yes, people can fall in love online. Does it work out? Sometimes. My brother and sister-in-law met in a chat room, about ten years ago. They have been married since 1998 and have 2 kids.

Sometimes they are worth it. Sometimes they are not. You really can't get a definite answer with this question. If both people are willing to put into the relationship by treating each other with respect, trust, honesty, understanding, and the willingness to compromise and communicate thoughts and feelings openly, then things have a high chance of working out.

Though sometimes the most perfect matches don't work out. Other things get in the way, like time and distance. It's up to the two people involved to judge whether it's worth it to continue. But I think it's worth giving it a try.

Answer 2

Yes I do think that Internet relationships can be 'real'. That is not to say that all of them are.

In discussing the online relationship here I am assuming that both people are being honest with each other and that no intentional deception is going on. The possiblility of deception, of course, is one of the biggest reasons why an online relationship should be treated with great caution in the first place! However, let us assume that both sides are being as honest as possible with each other.

Often what one really falls in love with is an image in one's mind of an 'ideal person' which is projected onto the person one is chatting with. The things that person says then seem to reinforce the image and make it real. Actually, if one is honest, one finds that one knows very little about the person and one is 'joining the dots' to make a lovable image. It is almost impossible to explain this to the person who is 'in love'.

Most normal relationships start with a physical attraction and progress through a mental affinity to a mutually caring association. Love can be described as the desire to put another person's happiness above one's own.

In an online relationship the mental process, which normally follows the physical attraction, comes first and it is very tempting for the mind to supply the missing physical attraction from its reserve of images of 'the perfect mate'. It depends entirely on how critical one can be of this image and whether one is prepared to adjust it as one gets to know the person better. I compare the process to watching an artist sketch a portrait of someone. After only a few strokes of the pencil, a recognisable image appears. Maybe what is on paper merely suggests the hair, the shape of the nose and a line or two of the mouth but our brain supplies the rest from memory and we 'see' much more than is actually on the paper.

Many people don't believe how easily their mind can be deceived in this way. To demonstrate this, I have sometimes used the following experiment. I will ask someone their star sign (sun sign), Aries, Taurus, Gemini or whatever. I then show them a profile which purports to describe their character based on their star sign and ask them how accurate they think it is. Usually they read it and agree that it describes them remarkably accurately in many ways. They may point out one or two things which are not so true but, on the whole, they are pleased. I then reveal that it was a profile drawn at random from the twelve available ones.

The point of this is that we tend to favour things that fit a preconceived idea and ignore (or put on the back burner) things that don't fit or for which there seems not enough evidence. It's mostly an unconscious process, of course, and it's complicated by the fact that, in talking to the other person, we give out many clues to what is approved and disapproved and the other person responds to these and tends to reinforce our image. In a face-to-face relationship this happens as well, but there is the added advantage of body language which few people can disguise, so one is automatically doing a reality check all the time and inconsistencies between what someone says and what their body is saying are quickly picked up on. In an online relationship, it is usually impossible to do this. Even a web cam doesn't help a great deal because its frame rate is too slow and the resolution not enough to show the very small body language clues that we rely on.

So, yes, some relationships which start online can turn into 'real' relationships provided one is very careful to understand ALL the clues there are and to ignore nothing. They can only truly become real relationships when the people meet. Sometimes all the details are filled in exactly as we imagined, very often they are not. There is a great deal more that could be said on the subject and, in fact, there have been books written about it which go into more depth than I have here.

Answer 3

The question asked is very interesting as we see a lot of people fall in love or relationship via web without having much information about the web friend.
Internet relationship is good for you if it is up to some extent. It may work as a remedy for depressed, love for all, and so on. But one has to be careful to take any decision for life time.

Answer 4

Just remember that the people on both sides are REAL people and can be as good or bad as anyone that you meet in the street. Once you can sort the 'sharks' out, you will find some beautiful people on line and one thing is for sure, they all need someone in their life. On the plus side, you can exchange photos, ideas, likes, dislikes and loads of personal info before you meet ..... on the down side, you may be disappointed. But expect it and it won't seem half so bad. And remember, its only the introduction that the internet gives you, the realness comes when you meet. Good hunting!

Answer 5

Yes, any time spent in any type of relationship is real, or can be perceived as real as long as you can perceive the time being spent in that relationship. Applying love and worth to the time being spent in a relationship is relative to individual perception. In essence, this answer is in a relationship with this question, however, I do not perceive the time spent as being love, however, I do perceive some worth.

Answer 6

They can be, very much...

But you have to know that the person on the net is REAL...

Using the power of communication and only dealing with their personality is a very strong attraction...

But the only way to know the true them is to use webcams so you can see what you are getting...

I've known online relationships to blossom and the people to get married... Some just did it for sex...

Answer 7

they can't really fall in love on internet. However they can set up a date via internet and try it out. And who knows? they might fall in love after date

Answer 8

i think elisa chan is about right,yes it can and does work.but a word of caution you may have to tal;k to a lot of people and keep in mind you dont know who you are talking to,they could tell you there 17 and are really 70.
also cyber and picture exchanges and i dont mean fully clothed come into it,if thats what you want then go for it.
but yes normall dating can work online
mike
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Answer 9

In most of cases NO.
Actually when ever you keep offline for a week or two you will out that no one on your buddy list is online no matter how good friends they are.

True friends are those with you can physcially meet.

Answer 10

My step son met his fiance online - they have been together for 3 years and are getting married next year... I reckon it works with the right people