im in a dilemma..... i like my bros best friend yet i have a boyfriend?

Question

i have a seroius crush on my bro's best freind we even kissed and i liked it but i love my guy and we r happi thou at times the relationship isnt good. so shud i leave him and be with my new crush or try to make it work

Answer 1

it is not your bro's feelings that matter right now, you need to relax and think of what you really want but take into consideration that these things happen always, you maybe married and get to know a person with whom you fall in love but you need to control your feelings and keep the relation you have with the person you have had in your life before meeting the new one. you need to know that these feeling are temporary and it will fade away after a while, you have to think about your bfs feelings now, do't you think that he meets ladies he like too? don't you think that sometimes he compares you to them and wish you were like them? it is normal... what matters here is being faithful as long as you are with one another... specially that you love him...
forget about your new crush and keep the sweet memories in your mind and heart.

good luck

Answer 2

Personally I think you shouldn't be dating or thinking of dating either of these two boys.

Don't bother with your brother's friend. Chances are as someone else was saying that's only going to lead into ugly uncharted territory. More often than not it will set you at odds with your brother (unless you are really close siblings), especially if you still live under the same roof.

If you have a serious crush on your brother's best friend to the point that you've kissed him, you need to drop the act that you've got going with your current boyfriend. Even though you say you are happy with your boyfriend, the rest of your message says otherwise. Your message says that your current boyfriend is comfortable, but it's missing something and you're ready to leave the relationship when you find it in someone else. Don't keep your current boyfriend around as the safety net.

Let go, be single, and then test out for guys that have more compatible personalities.

Answer 3

Well he isn't a crush anymore if you kissed him, you crossed the line when it comes to not acting upon your feelings for another person. Not only have you cheated on your current boyfriend but what's the point in lieing to him and to yourself? You are just taking him along for the ride if you decide to see this other guy behind his back. How would he feel if he found out in a year that you were cheating on him all this time? Think about who you want to be with, this may just be some lustful feelings coming out, if you truly love your guy then you shouldn't have to go looking elsewhere for affection...something is wrong here and you have to figure out WHO you want...before you hurt someone you claim to "love".

Answer 4

Yes a dilemma indeed.

In any relationship, there will be a certain ammount of newness and excitement that one experiences when it starts off. However, when it starts cooling off, and the newness doesnt give you the feeling of butterflies in your stomach, then thats when its easy to wonder off in search of that great feeling. The feeling that you are loved and appreciated.

This is why it is super important to not let yourself be guided by your emotions, Rather, guide these emotions and keep them under control.

So its an innocent crsuh, but do you really want to throw away such a nice relationship for the sake of leaving based on pure emotion? And who is this guy, if he is loyal to his friend, then Im sorry to say this but he shouldnt be smooching it with the girl he clearly knows does not belong to him but rather to his best buddie.

Girl, I think its time for you to sit down with 10your guy and tell him how you feel. He can then decide how to keep distance from this friend of his whenever you are around. You know, to keep it clean and steady.

As for the other boy, maybe you might tell him that phyiollogically you feel attracted to him, but while you were in all your senses you gave it enough thought to conclude that despite his charm and amazing smooches you've decided to keep the relationship with your guy (If that is truly what you want and treasure)..

Shake hands with him good bye and keep that option open but with distance. If it doesnt work out with Mr. Right, perhaps it will be time to moveon to Mr. Smooch.

Best wishes, and no kiising with this man of his for the meantime.

Answer 5

Like with anything in life you will have very good moments and very bad moments. If you are with your boyfriend and you have good times, try to respect him. Of course some days you will feel like what the hell, how could I be attached with all the gorgous guys around, but that is normal for everyone. You do not love someone a lot all the time.

If the good times compensate for the bad times, try respecting him as you might regret it later.

When you have partner for some time you sort of do not appreciate the person at times and you might feel you do not love them.

But try thinking of what your life would be without them and if looks like a better life, leave them if not stay faithful.

Answer 6

First, you have already cheated on your boyfriend. A kiss like your making it sound, was in fact cheating. You should know that.

My advice is this. You sound like your still a kid, but you need to be an adult. If you really love your boyfriend then you owe it to him to be faithful and true. If you don't really love him or want to be with someone else, then you owe it to him to be a stand up person. Even if that means hurting him by breaking up.

Bottom line, I think you already know the answer, your just afraid to follow it. Be an adult and make the decision that you know you need to make. The one in your heart, not the one that someone here tells you. Make it fast though, other wise your just hurting everyone including yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Depends on how long you have had these feelings for maybe you should leave it for a while to see if what you are experiancing is love or lust Don't cheat on your boyfriend though if you can't wait to find out your true feelings then break up with you bf before you go any further with the other guy

Answer 8

I have a few names for you; but, due to the sensor-ship on answers, I'll not attempt to call you any of these names - right now. You should be ashamed of yourself! You're doing to your boyfriend exactly what you wouldn't want him doing to you(except he'd be kissing a girl). How would you feel? You need to consider what's a stake here and stop tasting the pie while you have steak at home! What gives you the right to treat your boyfriend this way? Has he done something to deserve this? If not, you need to go to confession! Put it behind you and move on. -choose love.

Answer 9

Blood is thicker than water. Never screw over your brother. It sucks to have your sister dating your best friend. It happened to me, and It hurt the relationship I had with my sister. Oh.... and stop making out with everyone.... people will think you're a sluttt.

Answer 10

if you have a boyfriend you shouldnt be going and kissing another guy...the decision is up to you! If you dont think that its gonna work out with your boyfriend dump him!