my wife and i have seperated today she is taking my children and i do not know where she is going what can i do
2006-06-15 20:17:06 · 23 answers · asked by Clive C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can file for custody, and that's about it. Yes she legally CAN take them if there is no judgement from the court requiring her to tell you where they are.
2006-06-15 20:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to read that you and your wife have separated. Both of you as parents have a responsibility to act in your children's best interests. You don't say why you separated unfortunately, so it is difficult to say for sure if she can "just take the kids without telling you". As a father you surely at least have rights to access and visit your children, even if the mother retains full custody of the children. If the children are older they have certain rights in how much of you they see too but I can't be very specific about that because I don't know enough. I think that you really need to try and stay on as friendly as possible terms with your wife, and keep communications open so that you can be in the best possible position to keep negotiating regular contacts with them. Talk to a solicitor specialising in family law.
2006-06-16 03:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Eleanora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. In most places, there's a presumption of custody in favor of whichever parent has been the primary caregiver for the children - which is often but not always the mother. Some jurisdictions do vary, though. You really need to get a lawyer.
You should probably give prayerful consideration to the idea that the children belong with their mother, at least for the moment. If there is some situation or abuse issue with the mother that could threaten the children, you need to contact the authorities at once; if you know that your ex is a good mother who will care for them, they might be better off with her. That's a judgment you'll have to make about your own situation.
Best of luck to you, and God bless.
2006-06-16 03:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no right to do that-- although if she is determined she will do it regardless
As a father you have rights but from that i dont know legally what you can do.. Perhaps you could ask her for an address so that you can keep in touch with the children..
If she says no-- im afraid there isn't a lot you can do other than call the police and say that she's taking them from you
2006-06-16 03:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Because your wife should have the presence of mind that they (The children) are a gift from God to the Both of you to take care of. Children are a gift, NOT a right of anyone's.
2006-06-16 03:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by RJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't mean to sound horrible but if you've been abusing them in any way i don't think you have any rights ... but if your not just let her calm down im sure she will contact you when she has calmed down, try to stay calm and she will react so much better , if she does disappear i suppose u can make a missing persons report not that would help much anyways.. maybe hire a private investigator .. but it probably won't even come to that.. It's all just happened so emotions are high just now and everything seems worse that it really is.. just be patient ask her please to get in touch with you when she gets where she's going ..all the best
2006-06-16 03:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband split up once and I called the police because he took off with our children they told me that legally there is nothing they could do if you are still legally married so untill you get divorced there is nothing you can do
2006-06-19 02:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can take them as she is till their legal guardian. Get in touch with a solicitor and start fighting for custody.
2006-06-16 05:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Ju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have shared custody then no she can't.... if you have access to your kids then no she can't...... but if she says you are violent and aggressive to her and the kids then unfortunately yes...... if she hasn't got anywhere to live then you need to tell her that she is being silly taking the kids with her till she is settled and got her own place and that she can come to see them as often as she likes.
2006-06-16 03:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by ptdemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temporarily, yes she can. Especially if she claims your abusive and enters a family services shelter. You need to find a good lawyer to discuss your situation.
2006-06-16 03:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋