whether we should have sex before marriage?

Answer 1

Always test the car before you buy it! That way if you don't like the way it runs you can always look for a better model!

Answer 2

Well that is quiet the double edge sword isn't it? In a idea world with the christian philospy all the answer would be no. But, and I am not saying this is right or anything. Here is some food for thought. If we followed what the Bible said (and we really should) we would not have sex until after marriage and we would only have one sex partner for life. The result of that would be no STD's , no children born out of wedlock and and a lot less sex crimes (no porno, child molestation, prostiution and so forth). You would be happy with the sex partner you have (you never miss something you never had). On the flip side reality tells us most people have had multiple sex parteners prior to marriage (if they ever do marry). At that point you need to know is this person I am commiting my life to (marriage is a life long commitment not a phase or a passing fancy) a compatible partner for me sexually? At that point you should probably test drive the car before you buy it.

Answer 3

Yes! Look at Jessica Simpson. She waited, and now she is divorced. Does that mean she's "used goods?" Sex is normal and natural. Do what feels right, and stay protected. Pick your partners carefully and avoid one night stands. Committed sex is the best!

On a side note, there is a risk of STD's which is why you need to use condoms and get tested regularly. Find out if your partner is also careful with his/her body and has regular STD checks. It will cut down on risk, especially if your in a committed relationship. You can enjoy sex before marriage as long as you educate yourself to the dangers and joys.

Don't let religion stand in the way of your freedom. (if that is what it is) God made us to feel and love. There is nothing wrong with that.

I've been in a committed relationship for seven years. We plan on getting married, just haven't found the right date. But I would have to say that making love to someone you are in love with is beautiful!

Answer 4

No, not if you don't want to be a parent or to get a disease. Even so called "safe sex" can be like playing russian roulette with your life:

While using a condom, you can still become pregnant. Condoms have an annual contraceptive failure rate of 18.4 percent for girls under age 18

Venereal diseases frequently spread through “skin to skin” contact even when condoms are used. This can happen because the bacterial or viral germs that cause many serious STDs (such as human papilloma virus, chlamydia, herpes and syphilis) do not infect just one place on your body. They may infect anywhere in the male or female genital areas. So even if the virus or bacteria doesn’t get through the condom itself, you can still get a disease, because condoms don’t cover all areas necessary to prevent infection during sexual contact.

Latex condoms have tiny intrinsic holes called “voids.” The AIDS virus is 50 times smaller than these tiny holes which makes it easy for the virus to pass through them, about as easy as a dime passing through a basketball hoop.

Answer 5

I am not a virgin but am currently engaged and ready to spend the rest of my life with someone.

I wish that I had waited and lost my virginity to my life long partner. It is up to both of you - mutually decide if it is better to wait or share your love for each other physically before your wedding.

I have mixed emotions in this category - part wanted to wait and the other wanted to try before you buy.

But good luck with it - don't be pressured into doing something that you are not ready for - sex is a wonderful thing.

Answer 6

Have sex BUT do not get married, sex is fun marriage is not and marriage is only a piece of paper but is expensive to reverse

Answer 7

i dunno i guess it all depends on tha two involved, i'd say yeah its acceptable, but only when both are ready

and i wish people would stop going on bout STI's - yeah there is always a risk, always this risk that risk, we're here once and we should live it to the full, theres just as much risk as there is catching any other disease by say not washin ur hands or accidentally drinking some polluted water as there is the same risk of someone dying from a hayfever attack, yes sti's are a problem just like every other disease, and i'd encourage anyone to perform safe sex, but to not perform sex, its our way of expressin our love, do as you please in life, let ur hair dwon a bit, if u wanna do something, go for it

Answer 8

This is all your opinion, if you do go for it, understand the risks, which were posted in another answer, and BE PREPARED. Get tested for STDs, always use protection, that sort of thing.

My personal opinion? I wouldn't, until you know as sure as heck you love and trust the person. Would you want to lose your virginity (if you haven't) to someone you'd break up with later?

Answer 9

If you fell that it is right then do it If you have morals and believe in your heart that you should wait then do that. If you are a virgin then it will be more special and more exciting to wait. If you have had sex before i don't know what would be stopping you now.

Answer 10

Being a Christian this does pose a serious moral dilema, but
if you are in a loving long term relationship, and it feels right , then yes. A one night stand or very short term relationship then a definate NO !!