wat do i do?

Question

im 7 months pregnant and jason(my boyfriend and the dad)knows.but he cheated on me and i just found out it was going on for 3 months.wat do i do?i love him and he says he loves me but i dont no ne more help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

im 16 also by the way

ok he had sex with another girl that swat i mean

and im not getting a abortion

Answer 1

since you just gave birth he may be scared of child support, and will tell you any thing you want to hear. i would go off on him as soon as you recover and tell him if he wants to be with you grow up and help you raise the baby congrads on the baby girl

Answer 2

Here's the truth. If this cheating has been going on for 3 months then he doesn't care about you or your unborn baby. I know that hurts. You say he knows that you are pregnant and that means it has been going on during your pregnancy. You don't need someone who is causing you undue stress. It's bad for you and it's bad for the baby.

You're 16. Are you planning on keeping the baby? If so, have you thought about how much that is going to limit you later in life? It will make it incredibly difficult for you to finish high school and nearly impossible to go to college because you will be trying to take care of the baby.

My advice is to get rid of the cheater because he betrayed you and slept with another woman. That's disgusting. Even if he says he'll never do it again, trust me, he will, and you don't need to be worrying about what dirty nasty STDs he's bringing home to you.
As far as the baby is concerned, you don't need to put a baby in the middle of this drama. If you decide that the stresses of raising a baby will be too much but you still want to have contact with the baby, then I would suggest you do an open adoption. That way, your baby will have all the opportunities in the world and you will still have contact with the child you obviously love so much. And I don't mean that sarcastically. If you didn't love your baby then you wouldn't be on here asking for help.

Answer 3

First of all i want to say never try to abord the child bcoz he/she have not done any fault then why u will punish the child by aborting him/her and it will be risky for u to abord the child bcoz now ur 7 months is going on . My dear u r not the 1st girl who is facing this problem i m here i have also faced the same problem but i have bring my child in this world and in next month he will be 1 yr old thats why i m telling you dont feel guilty bcoz its not ur fault and bring ur child in this world and give him/her all the happiness its a really a very good feeling when ur child will call u mom dear they can only advice u best who had faced this problem so if u have any problem u can contact me at any moment i m always with so now u just think of ur child and dont be depressed bcoz this will harm ur child be happy God is with u my dear

Answer 4

This really is a tough one. i honestly would say that if he truly loved you, he wouldnt be cheatin on you. if you truly do love each other you should be able to work this out. he could just be really afraid because he got you pregnant and you are only 16 with a full future ahead of you and he just doesnt know what to do. you really should talk about this with him and let him know how you feel about his actions. oh and by the way i am very proud of you because you decided not to have an abortion. good luck in all you do

Answer 5

If he happened to slip with a one night stand, then I would give him the benefit of the doubt. But, if this has been going on for three months, then it sounds to me like Jason is leading you on.

I realize being in your situation can be very stressful, but don't let your hope for love and a father to help you raise the baby blind you from objectively looking at the facts. Jason has been playing the field while you've been carrying his child. What does that tell you? If you had a girlfriend who was in your situation who came to you for advice, what would you tell her right now?

Get help! Find a minister, counselor, or somebody who you know you can trust to help you through this situation. Please, I beg of you, do not abort the baby!! If you do not feel you are capable of raising this child on your own right now, there are plenty of people out there who are willing to adopt.

I only know what you have briefly said about Jason, you know him better then me or anyone else who may respond to this. But, if you're asking strangers on the internet about if the man who is the father of your future child is in love with you or not, then I think you really know the answer in your heart about that. Please, I beg of you, don't let the stress of your situation blind you from thinking this thing through objectively. I will be praying for you in the days to come. May God give you his wisdom and strength as you go through this crisis.

Answer 6

Normally I'd say leave him - but that's obviously really hard if you're pregnant...so that makes it tough.

I think the best thing to do is sit down with him and ask him why...why did he cheat? It might hurt - but if you find something that was missing in the relationship that made him do it, then you can fix it...

At the same time though, bear in mind it was HIM who cheated - so he's the one who'll have to prove his loyalty to you. He might try to make you feel it's your fault somehow - but don't let him...it's not!

Ultimately, it'll come down to your feelings - if you know in your heart you can trust him again...or if you have doubts. And even if you can trust...it'll take a while and if he loves you - he's going to have to accept that you might end up watching him like a hawk for a while.

I think the best thing to do is go with what your heart is telling you...and try to make sure you can trust him....if you can't...or if he does it again, the best thing to do is probably to leave...that's awful, I know, but it's for the best...you don't want to be hurt time and time again by him and if he does it again - I'd say second strike, you're out...

It'd be harder that way too to bring up a child I know...but it'll be for the best...if he does it again. If he doesn't though...then he's going to need to really pull his head in, be fair and prove himself to you... :-)

I'm really sorry to hear this but keep your head up, remember it's not your fault - and for trust...go with what your heart says!

Best wishes :-)

Answer 7

if you wernt pregnate i would say get rid of his cheating **** but there is a child involved. tell him that you love him but will not stand for his cheating. tell him you will forgive him this time but if it ever happens again you will leave him and he will not see his child. if he loves you and this baby he will soon change his mind when it comes to cheating. Another thing you could do is sit him down and tell him you cheated on him let him flip out for a min then say you didn't but how did he feel for that short amount of time. thats what you feel like.
Good luck sweety. And congrats

Answer 8

First ask yourself can you forgive him for cheating on you? If you can not do this then you must look at the possibility of breaking up with him and being on your own. I would recommend seeing a priest or even see a counselor. It's for your own good if you still want your boyfriend in your life. "Can you really trust him"?
Good Luck to You......

Answer 9

i hope you are ready to raise the baby alone because that is how life is i think you should give up the child so the baby will have a good home youre not pete pan and all the wishing is not going to help you own it to the baby and your self
good luck the joker

Answer 10

Personally I am young and this might not be the right anwser, but maybe you should give him another chance tlka this all over. The world today has nothing but bad relationships, becuase we all make lots of mistakes. And if things dont work out please just try finding someone else