I need real advice about sex cause i'm confused...?

Question

About a couple hours ago, my girlfriend wants a sleep-over at my house (i think that she is just saying that cause she has a big crush on me. She went to my house for my 17th birthday party that was why she came to visit me) then after everyone left she asked me to have sex with her in my bedroom or at her house then i said can i please think about it, then she said ok she will give me 24 hrs to think about it. Now i'm just asking for best confident advice from everyone!

Please NO OFFENSE!!
thanks for your reply.

I feel stronger urges coming to my mind i'm thinking if i should have sex for my first time.
about 70%
unlikley 30%

if i'm going to wear a condom how can i purchase a big box of it?

Also i'm attracted to her no matter what.

Answer 1

Ok, What's the rush???? That's one of those things in life you can't be forced into. This is different, usually it's the guy pressuring the girl. You most certainly don't have to decide in 24 hrs. She sounds like she might be a little experienced at this. Are you sure you love her? This is suppose to be because you feel deeply for the person. It's not to be taken lightly! I think a lot of kids today don't think, that's how STD's are spread so rapidly, not to mention pregnancy, some girls actually trap guys just to have a hold on them, that's to bad for BABY!!!!! & GUY..... I'm glad to know you at least thought first, you are smarter about sex than 75%!!!!!!

Answer 2

I really suggest waiting. Condoms don't always work. If she is serious, then tell her you want to too, but first she needs to get on birth control and you need to get condoms. When she does get it, have her flash you the package. Having sex is an adult responsibility and having BC and a condom going would decrease you chances alot for pregnancy. For condoms, just walk into a store and buy them. If you are too enbarrassed to do that, maybe you aren't really ready for sex yet. But please, take care of yourself. The first time can be wonderful, but you don't want to end up in the delivery room an 9 months watching her push out your first-born child.
I'm not gonna give you the whole wait for marriage spill because I had sex at 17 too. We got pregnant the first time, even with a condom. So be careful. And know that anytime you have sex, you can make a baby. Be careful!

Answer 3

Well how about a compromise? There is lots of great stuff you can do together without actually doing the deed... condoms not withstanding. Just be smart, explore your mutual pleasure centers, and you can still look forward to the day when you are comfortable enough with one another to go all the way. Problem solved. You can get condoms and other fun stuff in the bathrooms of any convenience store where I live for $1 each.

Answer 4

If your not ready you're not ready. Simple simon and the ultimatum she's giving you would be enough to convince me I'm not going there. I don't like ultimatums it's no different then if roles were reversed and you gave her 24 hours to decide. If you're not ready your not ready and it's better to take the pass then regret the mistake. Don't do it if your not confident tell you what the whole deal will suck if you're not ready. We'll learn right away about premature ejaculation, I'm not saying stay a virgin I'm saying choose a woman you're ready for. All she she's you as is an appitizer hold out for main course.

Answer 5

Don't listen to them. How strongly do you feel about keeping your virginity? If it's something you really want to do, then you need to respect your own wishes. For whatever reason, religion, or simply to keep it, and not risk disease or parenthood.

If you are NOT serious about keeping your virginity, the time right now, is (looking at my watch) GO TIME! You will find a way to get protection, and you have 24 hours to do it. If you're in the states, all you need to do is walk into any drugstore / convenience store / supermarket and just buy them. Do you need to borrow money? I'll attach a lincoln to an email, and send it to you. There is no minimum age to buy protection. what's the problem? Wait! wait, you didn't tell us her age. She'd better be YOUR age, or you're gonna see me on your doorstep. And you don't want to see me on your doorstep. EVER!

Answer 6

hey lemme tell u boy, say NO. if u love her doesn't mean u'll have sex. if u'll deny 2day, 2morrow u'll feel gud 4 urself, ur wife n ur family. be different. every one is rushing 2day. y shud u b like them.
it's gud tht ur conscience is still telling u 2 wait. it's not abt STDs that u shud wear a condom, but it's abt ur moral self tht u must NOT even go for sex.
i've read abt many guys who spoil their teen yrs by gettin into sex but feel ashamed n regret later.
always remember there is a time for everything.
as a matured man u'll thank god surely if u take the right decision at this time.
i kno many people will encourage u to try. but sometimes MAJORITY MEANS ALL THE FOOLS ON ONE SIDE. it's true in this case.
whatever gals mite say, somewhere in the corner of their hearts they admire respectful guys. respect urs and ur gf's bodies. premarital sex is no answer to love or attraction

Answer 7

hmmm you get what you deserve i wager. i replaced into youthful when I lost my virginity too yet i wasn't hitting up the total city. i'm21 and lost my virginty 7 years in the past and also you've been with more desirable people than me. that lady could were more desirable mad at her boyfriend for dozing with you. maximum adult males don't love women people that ahev sex on the first evening- that is trashy

Answer 8

Don't do it, you may regret it later. Even "safe" sex can be like playing russian roulette with your life. Are you ready to be a father? Do you want to take the chance that you'll get a disease?

Condoms have an annual contraceptive failure rate of 18.4 percent for girls under age 18

Venereal diseases frequently spread through “skin to skin” contact even when condoms are used. This can happen because the bacterial or viral germs that cause many serious STDs (such as human papilloma virus, chlamydia, herpes and syphilis) do not infect just one place on your body. They may infect anywhere in the male or female genital areas. So even if the virus or bacteria doesn’t get through the condom itself, you can still get a disease, because condoms don’t cover all areas necessary to prevent infection during sexual contact.

Latex condoms have tiny intrinsic holes called “voids.” The AIDS virus is 50 times smaller than these tiny holes which makes it easy for the virus to pass through them, (1) about as easy as a dime passing through a basketball hoop.

Answer 9

if you are not ready to have sex then you just need to tell her this if she is a really good girl friend she will under stand but if she gets mad and upset then while i think it would be better for u to move on sex is not the only thing about being with a person best of luck

Answer 10

Hey man, it's totally up to you. Are you ready to have loud, crying, pooping, needy, and expensive babies 24 hours a day for most of your life? And if it's just a crush, it's not even worth it. Tell your girl to get checked first. She sounds too horny. You'll find a smokin' hott, brilliant lady who finds abstenence sexy and would actually love you for that, then you'll know for sure that you wanna get it on.

Answer 11

The only advice you need on this situation you already know. You are the only one who really knows if you are ready for this or not. Sex is not something to be rushed and remember that this is completely your decision. No one should ever pressure you into this and a time limit is definitely lame.